[blindkid] Advice needed about school incident

[Carrie Gilmer]

Something to think about too that I typically consider...
This could happen if your daughter was sighted too, in that something mean
or sometimes kids take something to tease or be mean when they think you are
not looking--or at lunch putting something INTO food~this is the historic
notoriety of school lunch rooms, same old same old~I realize that it is 
likely they thought she would not know or "see" because of her blindness,
but if she were sighted and someone had done something to her like this
there would not be so much worry about her fragility in "handling"
it...likely whoever witnessed it would have said something and the kids
would have had to apologize on the spot...probably end of story and neither
you or the principal would have even heard of it...sometimes it is our
reaction in making it a bigger and more traumatic over sensitive deal than
it needs to be that can make things almost worse.

Hey someone was mean to Kendra, was it because they thought they could get
away with it cuz she could not see them?, they are wrong and IMO should be
disciplined matter-of factly, the school should also know that they can deal
with this...I mean it sounds like they were all so horrified and sensitive
they did not know what to do~and have had everyone in authority speak to
them~way more than if they had done something mean like this to soemone else
who they thought was not looking...why does the discipline need to be secret
and the child protected from the occurrence? To me that sends a message too,
and not a desirable one.
 
Carrie 
-----Original Message-----
From: blindkid-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blindkid-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Lenora J. Marten
Sent: Wednesday, November 04, 2009 11:13 AM
To: blindkid at nfbnet.org
Subject: Re: [blindkid] Advice needed about school incident


It helps if the other parents are aware and that the consequences involve
some education on blindness. 

We had a similar incident with Eric when he was in first grade and also
chose not to tell him. When the boy's parents found out they were mortified
and
set out to make sure that their son learn how to treat all disabled people
with courtesy 
and respect. It turned out to be a very positive experience as the 
student involved learned a lot about blindness and as a result, became
one of Eric's good friends. 

Lenora 


-----Original Message-----
From: Kieszak, Stephanie (CDC/CCEHIP/NCEH) <sek7 at cdc.gov>
To: blindkid at nfbnet.org
Sent: Wed, Nov 4, 2009 11:07 am
Subject: [blindkid] Advice needed about school incident



I received this e-mail from my daughter's teacher this morning and don't
eally know how to respond. Any suggestions? My gut reaction is that
elling her now doesn't really serve a purpose. Kendra is in first
rade. 
hank you.
tephanie
-----Original Message-----
s. Kieszak,
Upon my return to school this week, I was informed that on Monday
11/2),
wo students from our class took some of Kendra's food during lunch
ithout her knowing. The two students received consequences for their
ehavior on the day of the incident and further consequences when I
eturned. Mrs. XX, our Assistant Principal, also spoke with them. I
anted to let you know about the situation and to ask for your advice.
Do you think we should tell Kendra what happened? If so, what do you
hink
s a good approach to letting her know and by whom (i.e. one of us here
t
chool or at home)?

incerely, 
rs. YY

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