[blindkid] Advice needed about school incident

[Richard Holloway]

It is late but that makes good sense and it is pretty much where we  
ended up. It isn't like this would be okay of she were sighted, so the  
focus does need to be that those kids took her food and it is wrong--  
plain and simple.

I just dread what may come up in the whole realm of how is it they can  
see and what does that mean-- how does it make it easier for them to  
take her things, and why can't she just see too, but that may not even  
come up this time at all, and again, that was all going to have to  
come up sooner or later and we've slowly been trying to explain that  
concept anyhow.

Life is complicated!...

Richard


On Nov 5, 2009, at 1:04 AM, holly miller wrote:

> I've been thinking on this a lot.
> I do think Kendra should be told.  At first I had been thinking why  
> upset
> her if she didn't even know anything happened?  She is a little kid  
> and she
> has a long time to learn people aren't always so nice.  Then I  
> thought about
> first graders.  They are terrible at keeping secrets.  If I were in  
> your
> shoes, I'd rather she heard it from me than on the playground.
>
> I'd want the message to the offenders to be "It's wrong to steal  
> food from
> other people"  rather than "It's wrong to steal food from the poor  
> blind
> girl"  Believe me, I understand the poppa & momma bear feelings  
> welling up
> right now but that's not what she needs.  She needs her community to
> understand wrong is wrong no matter who it happens to.  Depending on  
> the
> rapport you have with the teacher, see if you can get a feel for  
> what kind
> of kids these are.  Maybe the little snots *are* stealing from all  
> the kids,
> not just Kendra.  If that's the case, in a bizarre 1st grade way it  
> could
> actually be a sign of acceptance.  As if the other kids don't see  
> her as
> needing special exemption from their rottenness, she's just one of  
> the gang.
>
>
> It's late so I don't guarantee I'm making much sense right now LOL!
> Holly
> aka Hank's mom
>
> On Thu, Nov 5, 2009 at 12:41 AM, Richard Holloway  
> <rholloway at gopbc.org>wrote:
>
>>
>>
>> When it comes down to it, I guess the actual incident is not that  
>> big of a
>> deal-- that one child took part of another's lunch. And if you were  
>> one
>> typical kid grabbing another sighted kid's food, you would no doubt  
>> want to
>> do that when that kid wasn't looking as well, so I cannot really  
>> put my
>> finger on just how or why this seems so terrible, yet it still  
>> does... I
>> mean on the one hand, we want to say everyone is the same and  
>> equal, but on
>> the other, there is a weakness here (for lack of a better term) and  
>> somehow,
>> right or wrong, it does seem to be a good deal more inappropriate  
>> (at least
>> to me) to grab a blind kid's food than it does to sneak it from a  
>> sighted
>> kid when he or she is not looking.
>>
>> Richard
>>
>>
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