[Blindtlk] does this phennomenon have a name?

[Michelle Medina]

My parents aren't generally like that, but I'm looking at moving out
or going to one of the NFB centers. They don't like it, but I've just
put my foot down.
I have the law on my side, not that I'd need it, my parents aren't
that hard to deal with, but in your case, you'd have the law on your
side as well.
Once you turn 18, you're an adult whether your mother or anyone else
likes it, & at that point, you can do whatever you want. (Of course,
within reason.) I'm not talking drugs & such, but going out to the
movies, as long as you have a way there & a way home, or out to a
concert, or hanging out with friends, things like that.
If your mom objects, there's always the possibility of moving out.
Then you aren't under her "protection". You can get SSI (until you've
gone to a center for training, if that's something you'd be interested
in doing). So there's always ways around it. If you have to, find
another family member/friend to live with, or find someone who's
willing to help you get in contact with one of the training centers &
find someone who will take you there once you've been enrolled. (As I
said, if that's something you'd want to do).
Where there's a will there's a way. Sometimes you have to fight your
family/friends to show them: "Hey, I can do this! I'm an adult now!"
It's not fun and it doesn't feel good while you're going through it,
but you'll look back on it later on in life & be glad you did it.
Otherwise, you'll be 40 or 50 & going:
"Why didn't I do this when I was younger?"
Noone wants to carry around regrets needlessly, & that's what you'll
be doing if you don't move on & move up in the world.
Please don't take anything I said harshly, this is just what I've
learned from trying to get myself upwardly mobile & move myself in the
direction of freedom.
Michelle

On 8/19/09, Gerardo Corripio <gera1027 at gmail.com> wrote:
> Hi listers: what's the name of the behavior pattern in which the mother
> keeps seeing the blind adult as a child without abilities to take his or her
> own initiative and without being able to think on his or her own? Have any
> of you guys lived with this pattern at home and how have you liberated or
> changed the person whose close to you so as not to continue this wayh? Is
> this pattern normal in blind adults? When the adult acts on his or her own
> there's a continuing fear of what the mother or whoever is close will say if
> the end result isn't what's expected provoking anger or the sensation of the
> mother grounding the "child" for something that wasn't well-done? Any ideas
> welcomed.
> Gerardo
>
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