[Blindtlk] Grilling question

Wed Aug 25 14:23:22 UTC 2010

Thank you Diane and Gary,

Your words of wisdom have left me to ponder about what the Lord has in store
for me as a mother of two wonderful children. I know that I was given this
opportunity for a reason. I know that being visually impaired will only
enhance my life. Yes, Diane I wish as well that I could spend $1000 in an
afternoon and not think twice. Being financially secure does help make life
a bit more comfortable but not necessarily happier. It takes a lot more self
assurance of oneself to be happy. That is what I think my real issue is. I
want to be happy with all that I have. I am most of the time. Its that
emotional roller coaster that I don't enjoy riding at times. But for the
most part life is good. Thank you for your words of wisdom. I really
appreciate it.
Mari Hunziker

On Wed, Aug 25, 2010 at 8:43 AM, Graves, Diane <dgraves at icrc.in.gov> wrote:

> Hi Mary,
>
> First, please know that I do understand your feelings and frustrations all
> too well. I have definitely been there before, and occasionally still go
> there. I think there was a lot of wisdom to be found in Gary's post, and so
> I'll just second it with a couple of points.
>
> I don't care how well adjusted and accomplished you are as a blind person,
> there are times when having sight would simply be more convenient. It does
> get frustrating sometimes. But if you think about it, this is true in many
> areas of our lives. I often find myself feeling envious of those who  can go
> shopping, spend $1000 in an afternoon, and not think twice about it, while I
> am struggling to make sure all of the bills are paid. I am frustrated that
> the members of congress charged with making our tax and economic decisions,
> are the people making more money than most of us will ever see.
>
>  I am often disgusted by the women who complain and refer to themselves as
> "fat" because they can't fit into a size 4 dress, when I would give anything
> to see a size 14 again
> .  These are just some small, maybe silly, examples, but my point is that
> blindness is just one of the many frustrations that life has to offer. Life
> has dealt us all a partial deck of cards, and we just have to learn to play
> the best game we can with the cards that we've been dealt. But, as any
> skilled card player knows, the more you practice, the more skilled you
> become.
>
> Just know that while you are concerned about transportation issues where
> school is concerned, some other mother is agonizing over how she is going to
> get new shoes for her child, or pay for the after school childcare. Another
> mother is worried about how she is going to get her wayward, rebellious
> teenager through high school in one piece, and on and on.  This is not to
> say that your concerns aren't frustrating and understandable. Please don't
> think that that is what I am saying at all. I'm just saying that the blind
> community is not the only population that encounters these frustrations.
>
> I hope this makes a little bit of sense, at least. Gary did a much better
> job than I. If you are able to attend an  NFB Training Center I think it
> would be great for you. It is always something that I wanted to do, but
> never had the opportunity.  All the reports I have heard though have been
> amazing, and, if nothing else, it would offer you support and build your
> level of self confidence. I know that having a child would pose concerns in
> this area too.
>
> Feel free to vent to us any time. We are all here to help you.
>
> (big cyber hug for you)
>
>
>
>
> Diane Graves
> Civil Rights Specialist
> Indiana Civil Rights Commission
> Alternative Dispute Resolutions Unit
> 317-232-2647
>
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> -----Original Message-----
> From: blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Mari Hunziker
> Sent: Tuesday, August 24, 2010 7:13 PM
> To: Blind Talk Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Grilling question
>
> Thank you so much for sharing that Mike. I would love to learn more about
> the NFB centers. I am now needing more assistance in finding creative ways
> of finding transportation for my son to get to and from school each day.
> Not
> being able to drive or to do other things is a constant struggle. I wish
> there was someway to get over the emotional roller coaster I ride every
> day.
> Some days thinking its a blessing to be blind and other days it is a curse.
> How have you all gotten over this?
> Thanks,
> Mari Hunziker
>
> On Tue, Aug 24, 2010 at 4:35 PM, Mike Freeman <k7uij at panix.com> wrote:
>
> > As a matter of fact, one of the things done at our NFB centers is to do
> > some grilling and other chores that involve working with fire precisely
> to
> > get people over their fear of being burned. It's not thatanyone wishes to
> be
> > burned but (a) blindness doesn't increase one's risks assuming one is
> > careful and (b) we want to turn that fear into what might be termed
> healthy
> > respect for fire which still allows one to work with it. At the end of
> the
> > day, it becomes another lesson that blindness need not prevent us from
> > leading normal lives.
> >
> > Mike
> >
> > ----- Original Message ----- From: "David Andrews" <dandrews at visi.com>
> > To: "Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
> > Sent: Tuesday, August 24, 2010 1:22 PM
> > Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Grilling question
> >
> >
> >  A totally blind person can grill or smoke.  i have a gas grill, and a
> >> large off-set smoker and use them regularly.  I have also grilled with
> >> charcoal -- although the gas grill is easier.
> >>
> >> There are lots of techniques to do stuff.  One good source is our blind
> >> cooks list
> >>
> >> http://www.nfbnet.org/mailman/listinfo/blind-cooks_nfbnet.org
> >>
> >> Dave
> >>
> >> p.s.  You mentioned a "fear of getting burned."  Just like with an oven,
> a
> >> pot of boiling water, a gas stove etc., you can get burned if you don't
> do
> >> stuff carefully and correctly, but like with the other things there are
> >> ways.
> >>
> >>
> >> At 08:42 AM 8/24/2010, you wrote:
> >>
> >>> Was anyone of you grillers afraid of the fire and the potential for
> >>> getting
> >>> burned. That is what keeps me from doing it. We have a charcoal
> >>> grill/smoker. My brother, father and husband have mastered the great
> >>> taste
> >>> of grilled food. I have always thought that I could not grill or do
> >>> things
> >>> of that nature because I am blind(visually impaired). I now think it
> >>> might
> >>> just be a fear of getting burned. I do cook fairly well in doors, I
> never
> >>> thought about trying it outdoors. The next time we grill out. I will
> have
> >>> to
> >>> pay more attention on how it is done so that I may someday try it. Who
> >>> knows, I may like doing it.
> >>>
> >>
> >>                        David Andrews:  dandrews at visi.com
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> >>
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