[Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone elss who is blind feels like I do

Sun Jul 3 21:15:24 UTC 2011

you are a blessed man indeed, how wonderful, i am looking myself for a 
strong Christian man to lead me and my family in the ways of the Lord. 
jeanette
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Alan Wheeler" <awheeler65 at windstream.net>
To: "'Blind Talk Mailing List'" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Sunday, July 03, 2011 2:30 PM
Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone elss who is blind feels like I do


> Charlotte,
> I have to agree with you, especially about the faith aspect of things. I
> recently became engaged and part of why I chose to propose to this fine 
> lady
> is because, more than any woman I've ever met, I saw the Holy Spirit 
> pouring
> out of her in waves. What Christian man could not treasure and desire 
> that?
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Charlotte Czarnecki
> Sent: Sunday, July 03, 2011 1:24 PM
> To: Blind Talk Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone elss who is blind feels like I 
> do
>
> Hi, I would agree that while there are sighted people who do not feel as 
> if
> they are in an equal realationship or they feel as if people concel them 
> out
> because of a certain characterist like height, weight, facial features, 
> etc,
> I strongly believe that blind people, especially women must work a
> thoughsand times harder to find a special someone.  Blindness is perhaps 
> the
> most feared disability in our world and sighted people will not totally
> associate themselves with what they are afraid of.  Also, if you are as
> independent as myself, most sighted people are intimidated by that.  They
> just can't comprehend that a blind person could manage a home and take 
> care
> of herself.  I have had a lifelong problem with dating and it's the lack
> there of.  A lot of it is my blindness but a lot of it is my Catholic 
> faith.
>
> I take what the Church teaches about relationships very seriously and
> because of that, I am very picky about men.  A lot of men tend to hunger 
> for
> a physical relationship rather than a godly relationship and we know that
> our Church discourages us from that.  So, I will cancel out the men that
> merely seek me out for physical pleasure.  There was a point in my life 
> when
> I caved.  I could have had a man who would have bought me anything in the
> world, showered me with anything I wanted.  But his demand for his 
> physical
> pleasure was too much.  Fortunately, God called me back to reality.  If I
> would have stayed or grew closer to him, I would have been trapped in his
> cage of manipulation.  I strayed away from my focus on God.  I cut him out
> and went to confession and the priest applauded my courage to step out of
> it.  A friend once told me that when two people find each other for the
> purpose of marriage, they found each other because when they looked at one
> another, they saw God and not just the person within.  Relationships 
> should
> be created for the greater good of our world and not for our personal
> plesure.  I mentioned the other day that one sad reali sadness.  I 
> sometimes
> blame it on my blindness but the reality is that it could be a lot of
> things, my personality, my shyness and not feeling like I can put myself 
> out
> there, it could be anything.  So, I sit here each day and I try to 
> discern.
> Really, it's not what we want in this world, it's what God wants for us in
> this world.  Would if God wants me to be single.  Would if He in his
> infinite wisdom has been teaching me things all these years and would if
> something greater is to come in my singleness.  I try to put my pain aside
> each day and pray to our Lord, saying, Lord, what is it you want of me.  I
> need to put my wants aside.  Maybe we, Dana are suppose to be single.  We
> are doing a lot of great things in our lives.  We should focus on what God
> wants us to do and not worry about what we want.  Worrying and longing for
> what we want only is brining us pain and disappointment.  And finally for
> now, I think of my blindness is just a characteristic and not something 
> that
> will overtake my life.  If people do not embrace this characteristic about
> me as they would height, weight or hair color, than they are welcome to 
> move
> on.  God made me the way I am for a special reason and he embraces me and
> all of my characteristics.
>
> Charlotte ty for me is that I always wanted to get married and have
> children.  Well, I have about five to seven years left of the chance of
> bearing a child.  I have never seriously dated anyone in my life.  Partly
> it's because I'm so picky and partly it's because no man has really wanted
> to seriously date me except for the one who wanted only sex.  This reality
> has brought me great
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Ray Foret Jr" <rforetjr at att.net>
> To: <gwunder at earthlink.net>; "Blind Talk Mailing List" 
> <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Sunday, July 03, 2011 1:00 PM
> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone elss who is blind feels like I 
> do
>
>
>>I would add to that only this.  With out mentioning names.  I was in a
>>relationship with someone whom I thought had everything I could ever
>>desire; uh, or so I thought.  Turned out I was wrong.  That could have
>>and does happen to sighted folks as well.  Yes, some sighted men won't
>>date a blind lady because they think she needs to be looked after.
>>guess what, some sighted women will not date a blind guy for the same
>>reasons.  I think, to speak candidly, that perhaps you [Dana] might be
>>over-amplifying the blindness aspect of this just a little.
>>
>>
>> Sincerely,
>> The Constantly Barefooted Ray!!!
>>
>> Now a very proud and happy Mac user!!!
>>
>> Skype name:
>> barefootedray
>>
>> Facebook:
>> facebook.com/ray.foretjr.1
>>
>>
>>
>> On Jul 3, 2011, at 12:35 PM, Gary Wunder wrote:
>>
>>> Hi Dana. Let's move away from blindness a moment and ask how many
>>> sighted folks find themselves in an equal relationship. I know many
>>> women who are happy but wish their spouse treated them as a real
>>> equal. I know men who don't think they are treated equally when it
>>> comes to being able to respect and articulate emotion or who do not
>>> feel they are treated as an equal in parenting.
>>>
>>> I am certain blindness complicates things in dating, but the fact so
>>> many of us have managed to find our partner is a testament to the
>>> fact it can happen. I am a lucky man--my spouse sees what she wants
>>> in me and therefore overlooks much that makes me less appealing.
>>>
>>> Warmly,
>>>
>>> Gary
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org
>>> [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Dana
>>> Sent: Saturday, July 02, 2011 11:01 PM
>>> To: Blind Talk Mailing List
>>> Subject: [Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone elss who is blind feels like I
>>> do
>>>
>>> I honestly get so frustrated from time to time as I have tried every
>>> dating site I can think of on the internet, paid for them and most
>>> often sighted guys don't give me one second glance.
>>> I have a college education and work full time as well which defies a
>>> lot of the statistics of the employment rate among the blind, and I
>>> can't seem to either find a  blind person who is as independent as
>>> myself or a sighted person who doesn't feel that blind people are in
>>> need of being taken care of.
>>> I surefire wish there were something we all could do in all honesty
>>> to show the world that it is not a care taker we need it is an equal
>>> partner.
>>> Dana
>>>
>>> Follo me on twitter
>>> djkitty73
>>> Windows live messenger ID and face book ID one in the same
>>> dananolan at comcast.net If you have skype add me
>>> dana030973
>>>
>>>
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