[Blindtlk] Walking down the aisle

[Kendra Schaber]

Hi Areal, congrats to you!!! I'm not a bride but I'm blind. I also have a blind friend who will be getting married in January. I don't know if he'll have his cane in his wedding. I also don't see why you shouldn't have your cane with you. If it was me, I would move the universe to have my cane with me. I have never been married but I have been a brides made in my sister!a wedding. From that experience, I know that the bride no matter what vision level they have, they always take their dad's arm as they walk down the isle. Brides makes do the same thing with the grumes men. I like the ideas on taking your cane with you that others have poasted here! I hope that you and your husband have a very long and healthy as well as happy marriage! Good luck!!! 
Kendra

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On Aug 20, 2013, at 3:58 PM, Arielle Silverman <arielle71 at gmail.com> wrote:

> Hi all,
> 
> I don't normally post on this list, but have a question that I think
> this list would be the best place to ask.
> I am getting married in two weeks and am just curious to talk to other
> blind brides about how you went down the aisle and whether you used a
> cane, sighted guide or both? (I don't have a guide dog so that's not
> an option).
> 
> Our wedding will be outside, so the "aisle" is actually just a set of
> steps leading down to a creek. I will be walking with my parents (as
> part of tradition) so I could handle the mobility aspect either with
> or without a cane.
> I am totally blind and use my cane all the time in public places
> without a second thought, and pose for photos with my cane in the
> background. I'm just a little worried that during that big photo-op
> moment when I am coming out, my cane could end up dominating my
> appearance more than I would like. I feel positively identified as a
> blind person and don't object to being seen with my cane at all, but I
> just don't want it to dominate if that makes sense. Also, my current
> cane is quite beat-up so if I use it in the wedding, I will probably
> want to buy a new one for that purpose.
> 
> For those of you who did use a cane, how did you hold it and what did
> you do with it during the actual ceremony?
> 
> I probably will use my cane, but just want to figure out the most
> graceful-looking technique (and rebuff any pressure from family
> members not to use it).
> 
> Thanks and best,
> Arielle
> 
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