[Blindtlk] blind people being loners

Sat Jan 26 20:34:42 UTC 2013

For me, this seems like a difficult question to talk about, because it's 
different for each individual.  I enjoy time being alone, when it happens. 
But, choosing to be alone and doing what I want to do, by myself, is 
different than being lonely.

I enjoy being with people and like to meet new people.  But, I'm not the 
most outgoing person.  This isn't due to my blindness, I don't think, but 
just my personality.  Even though I know a lot of people, I often feel 
lonely.  I can ask people to do things with me, like shopping or out to do 
other errands, and they do.  I take them to lunch, buy gas, or something 
else for them.  But, I'm always the one asking them to go somewhere with me. 
No one ever seems to think of asking me if I need to go somewhere when 
they're going.  If I have to ask all the time, I feel as though I'm a burden 
or taking advantage of them.  So, I don't ask and then I appear to be more 
of a loner.

Cindy

-----Original Message----- 
From: Diane Graves
Sent: Friday, January 25, 2013 10:23 PM
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Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] blind people being loners

Absolutely Mark. And that is where I usually run into trouble. Also, when
someone appears condescending, as sighted people sometimes do, I tend toward
the defensive instead of taking the initiative to educate. This is not good
for anyone concerned, I know, and I am trying to break this habit.

Diane Graves

-----Original Message-----
From: blindtlk [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Mark Tardif
Sent: Thursday, January 24, 2013 8:33 PM
To: Blind Talk Mailing List
Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] blind people being loners

I generally agree with you, Mari.  However, I do think that for blind people
who are by nature introverts, it may be harder not to be a loner because I
think we as blind people must make more of an effort if we don't want to
become loners.  This is because sighted people who don't know much about
blindness and aren't certain what to say to someone who is blind may do the
easy thing and not approach you, so we need to assert ourselves more than
the average person.  Just my opinion.

Mark Tardif
Nuclear arms will not hold you.
-----Original Message-----
From: Mari Hunziker
Sent: Thursday, January 24, 2013 6:00 PM
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Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] blind people being loners

HI RJ,

I don't think it has anything to do with fear of the unknown. It has to do
with people's personalities. I attended a youth program at the Braille
Institute in CA when I was a kid. I was a very social child and still very
social. I do not drive, like most blind people. I must rely on asking for
rides from friends or from public sources. I always try and make friends
where ever I go. When I take my kids to the park, I try and start a
conversation with others there. Now that my kids are in school, I volunteer
a lot at their school and enjoy being involved. There have been times when I
have felt like a loner but  when I do I remember that I must reach out and
call a friend or a family member. Reaching out to others is typlically a
blessing to them as well.
Thanks,
Mari Hunziker

On Thu, Jan 24, 2013 at 4:03 PM, RJ Sandefur
<joltingjacksandefur at gmail.com>wrote:

> Do you think fear of the unknown might have something to do with it?
> RJ
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>  Hi, RJ. I do not. Do you?
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