[Blindtlk] Blindness and Singleness

Sun Sep 8 20:55:33 UTC 2013

Ever since I joined the NFB back in 2006, I have and told people blindness is a characteristic and most of the time a nuisance. That is what we say all the time.

People for years not being with any organization, have husband, boyfriends, wives, girlfriends, etc. It is all about how confident you are. In anything in life, confidence, even if you fake it in public that you are scared off something or nervous, don't let the other person know that.

When losing my vision at the age of 35, now 46, I thank god that my husband didn't leave, my ex probably would have, but at the same time, I had when I met my husband he knew I had diabetic retinopathy and what that would mean. All about confidence, if you are confident, you will meet people, blind or not.

I had to learn confidence not as a kid because I was beaten up every day. I was bullied all the way through High School, married a jerk, had a child, lived on my own, etc. Married the love of my life, Nelson, for those that know him, the greatest man in the world.  But I had to learn confidence again to go out there on my own as a divorced mom with a baby, etc. Then I found Nelson, I had to fake being confident at first, until I opened up, and the rest is history.

Go out there and find that person, there is someone for everyone.

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> From: julielj at neb.rr.com
> To: blindtlk at nfbnet.org
> Date: Sun, 8 Sep 2013 15:46:54 -0500
> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Blindness and Singleness
> 
> I agree with Mike.  Blindness is only an issue if you make it one. Or at 
> least that has been my experience.
> 
> It would be really interesting to get my sighted husband's point of view on 
> this.  I'll ask him if my blindness was a concern for him or how it figured 
> into his decision to date me.  I'll let you all know what he says.
> 
> I do know that he had never met a blind person until my friend who 
> introduced us became blind.  So he had very little experience with 
> blindness, except for what you get from TV and the like.
> 
> Julie
> 
> 
> -----Original Message----- 
> From: Mike Freeman
> Sent: Sunday, September 08, 2013 3:13 PM
> To: Blind Talk Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Blindness and Singleness
> 
> All:
> I met my wife online. It was not a Christian dating service. She is sighted. 
> IMHO the vision or lack thereof of one's date is irrelevant.
> Mike freeman
> 
> On Sep 8, 2013, at 12:35, "justin williams" <justin.williams2 at gmail.com> 
> wrote:
> 
> > I'm just lightening up the thread a little.  But seriously, our not 
> > getting
> > as many opportunities is not our falt, buut the folt of those individuals
> > who do not accept us.  However, since we are the ones who will not have a
> > date on Friday night, it falls to us to give ourselves a better chance.
> > That's why I really believe that using an interest group or something to
> > bridge the gap makes it easier.  I say to try online only because everyone
> > is looking for the same thing, and there is an abundance of singles.  I
> > didn't have much luck, but it should still be an option.  Most of us have
> > experienced rejection solely because the other person wouldn't give us a
> > chance, or was talked out of it by their friends and family.  If it has
> > never happed tto you, then I am happy for your success and wouldn't wish 
> > for
> > you to experience what I and most of the others who have posted on this
> > thread have. While you are waiting for her, do some work on yourself 
> > through
> > reading and personal development.  That is a bigg help, because when you 
> > get
> > your shot, you have to be spot on.  The way we do things for us is 
> > natural,
> > but for folks who are sighted, it is something they can't imagine.  Try
> > reading books on love and relationships; that will give you an edge that 
> > the
> > average person won't have.
> >
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: blindtlk [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Mark 
> > Tardif
> > Sent: Sunday, September 08, 2013 3:18 PM
> > To: Blind Talk Mailing List
> > Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Blindness and Singleness
> >
> > For several reasons, yes.  First, we are blind, (bad joke but pretend it
> > isn't) and, in fact, that can be an integral part of getting to know that
> > other person, especially if it is just the two of you and it is your first
> > date together.
> >
> >
> >
> > Mark Tardif
> > Nuclear arms will not hold you.
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: justin williams
> > Sent: Sunday, September 08, 2013 9:55 AM
> > To: 'Blind Talk Mailing List'
> > Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Blindness and Singleness
> >
> > Isn't any date we go on a blind date?
> >
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: blindtlk [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Julie J.
> > Sent: Sunday, September 08, 2013 9:04 AM
> > To: Blind Talk Mailing List
> > Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Blindness and Singleness
> >
> > There's been a lot of really good advice already.  I just wanted to add in
> > one more possibility for you.
> >
> > I met my current husband on a blind date.  Yes, I hear you all laughing, 
> > but
> > it's true!  A good friend of mine was convinced that I should meet this 
> > guy.
> >
> > I was resistant.  I wasn't too interested in dating at the time but she 
> > was
> > very persistent that I meet him.  In the end she invited me to go out for
> > the evening with her, once I agreed, she casually mentioned that he was
> > coming too.   Not wanting to hurt anyone's feelings, I decided to go along
> > and just have fun.  That was 11 years ago now.
> >
> > Have you mentioned to your friends/family that you are interested in 
> > dating?
> >
> > Perhaps someone knows someone who is also looking for a partner and would 
> > be
> > willing to introduce you.  The first date could be with both couples, 
> > which
> > I think takes some of the stress off.  With four people someone always has
> > something to say, so I never felt those awkward pauses in the 
> > conversation.
> >
> > Does your church have a singles group? or a college group?  Those might 
> > also
> > be places to meet people.
> >
> > I guess my point is that you don't have to go it alone.  there are people
> > who would be happy to help you meet people or point you in a direction. 
> > Be
> >
> > clear with what you want and don't be afraid to let others know.
> >
> > Julie
> >
> >
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