[Blindtlk] Online Dating

[River Linda]

Don't you have to pay to do a background check on someone?

On Sunday, May 24, 2015, David Andrews via blindtlk <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
wrote:

> Good things can happen from on-line dating, but it can also be a bumpy
> road for blind people.  I have tried it some in the past, gotten a few
> dates, but nothing that developed into anything.  On the otherhand, I know
> people who met through sites like eHarmony or Match.com, blind people, and
> got married.
>
> I think on-line dating is like life, most people, when it comes to the
> opposite sex, can't get past the blindness.  Most people you meet wouldn't
> date you.  And .. in on-line stuff, since it is more superficial, I think
> this trait is exasserbated.
>
> Dave
>
> At 01:00 PM 5/24/2015, you wrote:
>
>> Some years ago, I signed up on one of the well-known online dating sites.
>> I
>> had a membership for about a year. On my profile, I had it very clearly
>> stated that I am blind. I can't remember my exact words, but I did state
>> that I had a guide dog, and my picture was a shot of me and my dog in
>> harness walking on the GDB campus. I was working there at the time.
>> Anyway,
>> this site had a pretty involved process, in which one aspect was a series
>> of
>> questions you could choose from to ask potential matches. Two questions I
>> always chose were how do you feel about pets, and how would you feel about
>> your partner having friends of the opposite sex? I obviously had guide
>> dogs,
>> and I also have cats sometimes. My best friend is a guy. Both those things
>> are nonnegotiable. You'd be surprised how many people those two questions
>> eliminated. I did get as far as phone conversations with a couple guys,
>> but
>> it never went beyond that. the experience was fun in a way but frustrating
>> too. If I'd gotten as far as wanting to meet someone in person, I'd have
>> met
>> them in a public place and would have had a sighted person I trusted be
>> there in the background to observe. I did have people look at the
>> potentials
>> profiles and pictures.
>>
>> Sherry
>>
>>
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blindtlk [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Judy
>> Jones
>> via blindtlk
>> Sent: Sunday, May 24, 2015 11:54 AM
>> To: Blind Talk Mailing List
>> Cc: Judy Jones
>> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Online Dating
>>
>> Yes, you could very innocently mention in conversation, for instance,
>> something about a braille display, or a cane, and let him ask the
>> question?
>> That would be one way to introduce the blindness topic.  Have you ever had
>> the topic of officially introducing yourselves and talking about
>> yourselves?
>>
>> Judy
>>
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: Carly Mihalakis via blindtlk
>> Sent: Sunday, May 24, 2015 10:58 AM
>> To: Blind Talk Mailing List ; blindtlk at nfbnet.org
>> Cc: Carly Mihalakis
>> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Online Dating
>>
>> Of course, be forthright about your blindness. if you guys end up
>> meeting, you might not  want his  shock to color his experience of you?
>>   If you have additional curiosities about meeting people from
>> phone/  On-line dating services, don't hesitate to ask.
>> Car
>>
>
>         David Andrews and long white cane Harry.
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