[Blindtlk] Raising a Cane

[River Linda]

Hi,

Are you saying you can see well enough to cross the street without using a
cane? Or, you just do not want to use it because you are embarrassed to use
it and you do not want the attention from people? The cane is for your
safety. As you have described holding your cane vertically off the ground
in front of you, the cars coming from behind you will not see your cane. I
was taught to keep the cane tip on the ground and hold it out diagonally
from you so that cars coming from all four directions can see it.

As for people grabbing you, you have to tell them how you want to be
treated. When people grab me, I tell them to wait and let me show you how
to help me. When people make that comment about me being amazing because I
can cut my food and eat it, I simply respond with "you, too".


On Saturday, September 26, 2015, Szostak, Christine via blindtlk <
blindtlk at nfbnet.org> wrote:

> Hi All,
>   Ok, this might be a very odd question, but I was just thinking about
> this and to me, it  seems really illogical.
>
>   When I was getting O&M to help with transitioning to a cane, every time
> we stopped at a curb to cross a street, the instructor would have me hold
> the cane directly in front of me and hold it up in the air vertically about
> 2-3 or so inches off the ground. The explanation given to me for this was
> so that others would see that I am blind and am using a cane.
>
>   The reasons that this seems a bit odd to me as a good practice are:
>
> 1)  I do not want a car to stop at a stop sign and wait for me to cross as
> I have always been taught not to trust in drivers that say, go ahead I will
> wait because they may not see other cars coming that could hit me if I
> follow their advice. Also, just because they stop, it does not mean that
> they see you so the signal you are assuming they are giving you, may not be
> the case.
>
> 2)  I do not necessarily want to bring attention to my blindness.
>
> 3)  I tend to look younger than I am and thus people, to my consternation,
> always try  to grab my arm... to help me. When I was in training for one of
> my prior guides, my instructor always joked that I was a really touchable
> person because total strangers would try to drag me across the street since
> they just assumed that I did not know  how to cross a street with a
> light:). This happens to me, regardless of whether it is with traffic or
> even in places like restaurants, total strangers will frequently grab my
> arm, put their arms around my shoulders... and tell me how amazing I am to
> be eating so well:). Since I really do not want this type of attention, I
> tend not to want  to use methods that are likely to induce it:). Since I
> could see holding a cane in the air as one good way to get this type of
> attention, I am not overly eager to keep up this practice.
>
>   Thus, do others here hold up their canes while standing on curbs and if
> so, what has been your experience with respect to the above issues? I
> really, personally do not like this practice as it would seem to me that if
> you are a competent traveler who follows the  rules of the pedestrian and
> knows what you are doing, then you should not need to do this as it simply
> tells someone, this person is blind so stop and wait for them as they will
> not be a safe traveler or is trying to signal that they need your help.
> Perhaps I am completely misunderstanding the point of doing this but I just
> really feel like this is an out-of-date practice, one that tries to heavily
> point out blindness which would seem to lead to increasing the stigma
> rather than showing that we are competent individuals, and something  that
> could actually be dangerous rather than helpful to a cane traveler.
>
>
>   I can understand this type of practice if you want for some reason to
> indicate that you are blind or have a VI (i.e., when  you are concerned
> that you may trip... and do not want individuals to just think that you are
> clumsy...) so please know that I am not trying to discount these types of
> situations rather it is just on the curb side if you are just trying to
> cross the street  and have any of the above three reasons for not wanting
> to do so that I am asking about and feeling this way about.
> Happy weekend all!
> Chris
>
> Dr. Christine M. Szostak
> Assistant Professor of Psychology
> Department of Social Sciences
> Shorter University
> Rome, Georgia
> szostak.1 at osu.edu <javascript:;><mailto:szostak.1 at osu.edu <javascript:;>>
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