[BlindTlk] frustrating home situation

Tue Nov 17 00:51:19 UTC 2020

 >If the little sister got hold of some of that and drank it she likely
wouldn't do that any more.

If that was meant to be funny it isn't. That's unethical, immoral and 
sickening.

David Goldfield,
Blindness Assistive Technology Specialist
JAWS Certified, 2019

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On 11/16/2020 6:25 PM, Jude DaShiell via BlindTlk wrote:
> Why not make some onion water.  It's helpful in managing blood sugar.  I
> found the article by searching for onion water blood sugar.
> If the little sister got hold of some of that and drank it she likely
> wouldn't do that any more.
> As for the rest of the stuff, you are living under your parent's roof
> for now anyway.
>
> On Mon, 16 Nov 2020, Madison Martin via BlindTlk wrote:
>
>> Date: Mon, 16 Nov 2020 18:00:51
>> From: Madison Martin via BlindTlk <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
>> To: blindtlk at nfbnet.org
>> Cc: maddymartin at mymts.net
>> Subject: [BlindTlk] frustrating home situation
>>
>> Hi all,
>> Hope this is okay to talk about hear, I just really need to vent.
>> I forgot to say that Dad and I went out for super on Saturday to get away from
>> the craziness. Plus I don't eat pizza. Makayla's biggest issue is that her and
>> Mom are too much a like, so they're always at each other and she thinks that Mom
>> is always mad at her when she isn't. Dad takes anti-depressant meds, but I think
>> he watches and reads way too much news. I also think he drinks way too much
>> coffie and alcohol, and he also needs to lose weight. Makayla also likes to nag
>> me about stuff that Mom and Dad don't bug me about, I already have two parents I
>> don't want or need a third. I'm an adult so I think I should be allowed to make
>> my own decisions and not get told what to do. Mom also loves to be in control
>> all the time which is very annoying. None of us are very good at talking about
>> and sharing our feelings, if we were a normal family then we could talk about
>> this stuff, but we aren't. I know that a therapist can't necessarily solve our
>> problems, but hopefully they could give us ways to cope. Mom is the one that
>> needs the most help, but we know that she wouldn't go or talk.
>> I don't know that Mom would ever join us, and I don't know if Makayla even wants
>> to go. I'd consider it, but only if we found the right therapist. There are many
>> I'm sure, but they're not all the same. I'd love to move out, but I don't think
>> I want to live by myself. I used to think that Dad and I should go live
>> together, but now I'm not so sure. I already told you about his issues, and he
>> also nags me about stuff mainly personal hygiene stuff, mainly showiering. I
>> don't go anywhere so I really don't care how I look or if I smell. Plus the less
>> we shower the less water we use, and the less product we have to buy. As an
>> adult, should I not be allowed to make my own decsions even when it comes to
>> personal hygiene? Sometimes I feel like I'm treated more like a kid then the
>> adult that I am and should be allowed to be. Makayla would probably just yell at
>> me, she wouldn't actually teach me how to do something. She quite often just
>> says "If you want something then why not just learn to do it yourself." She also
>> bugs me about stuff and tells me what to do too. She's also gotten really bad at
>> just taking things without asking, mainly food. Sometimes someone buys something
>> for themselves or for someone else (that's not her), but she just sees things
>> and assumes she can eat or use them, when she can't always. If she'd just ask
>> then chances are she could eat some of or use some of whatever it is, but she
>> doesn't. Dad does this too, not as much though. We made fudge a few months ago,
>> and she ate a few pieces without asking. It had to be kept in the fridge so Mom
>> would cut up a few pieces and put them out to warm up a bit. Now if we make it
>> again she's not allowed to have any because she didn't ask the first time, she
>> blew it. What's fair is fair. Plus the last few times she's made stuff she
>> hasn't asked me if I'd like any, not that I would unless it's plain. It's just
>> annoying when Mom or Dad buys me something and then I don't really get any
>> because she's eaten it. Dad says I'm going to have to start hiding stuff in my
>> room, which would be weird, if it gets to that then I think we have a real
>> problem on our hands. Plus she's good at noticing/finding things that Mom has
>> tried to hide, in particular chocolate. Mom isn't always good at sharing either,
>> but I just ask and if she says no then I don't touch it. We might have to start
>> putting our names on things, which Makayla did yesterday, when she got this
>> macaronie dinner from Sobeys, which I didn't get. If she wants her own then
>> that's fine, but I like them too, so I should've gotten one too. I've learned
>> that if someone gets something for me, whether it's a dinner or snack stuff I
>> have to eat it right away or else there might not be any/one left when I really
>> want it/some.  She yells at me when we're doing dishes because apparently I
>> don't dry them right. Now I just wait for her to finish washing and then I dry.
>> I've tried talking to Mom, but that didn't really work/help. She thought that I
>> was talking about some particular time or decision that I want to make, but I
>> was just talking about in general. I still collect animal figurenes, and she has
>> this weird thing that if it's too close to my birthday or Christmas then I can't
>> buy anything, even though when I'm looking at stuff it usually over a month
>> until either event. I do it because I worry that she won't like the look of the
>> figurine that I'm asking for so she won't buy it for me, regardless of how much
>> I want it. Like last Christmas I asked for this particular husky, well she
>> didn't buy it for me because she said that she didn't like it's face, it was too
>> pointy, but the 2 that she got me looked way more like wolves then huskies. It's
>> my money, should I not be allowed to spend it when and how I want?
>> Any thoughts/suggestions? Like I said, I just really needed to vent, so if no
>> one answers then that's fine. Thanks for letting me do it anyway.
>> Madison
>>
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