[BlindTlk] frustrating home situation

Wed Nov 18 16:42:11 UTC 2020

My Mother bought me an alphabet dish and I used the metal plaques on the
walls of Overbrook school for the blind to improve what I had learned.
One time we went to washington's crossing and I read the letters on the
plaque aloud and that got me an article in one of the local newspapers.
If the letters are large enough I can read them, less than a quarter
inch it gets difficult though.

On Wed, 18 Nov 2020, Pamela Dominguez via BlindTlk wrote:

> Date: Wed, 18 Nov 2020 11:15:18
> From: Pamela Dominguez via BlindTlk <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
> To: Blind Talk Mailing List <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
> Cc: Pamela Dominguez <pammygirl99 at gmail.com>
> Subject: Re: [BlindTlk] frustrating home situation
>
> Long before the rehab agency worked on a signature with me, I taught myself
> print letters by using stuff sighted kids had for games and toys, like print
> anagrams and letter blocks, and anything with print feelable letters on it. I
> would read the print on appliances and stuff.  I can read the brands on some
> of my electronics.  But I also taught myself how to write those letters I
> learned by touch.  Pam.
>
> -----Original Message----- From: Madison Martin via BlindTlk
> Sent: Tuesday, November 17, 2020 11:59 PM
> To: 'Blind Talk Mailing List'
> Cc: maddymartin at mymts.net
> Subject: Re: [BlindTlk] frustrating home situation
>
> The only thing I learned to print/handright was my signature. I used was
> called a raised-line drawing kit, which used special paper that you put on a
> special mat and then using a pencal without led allowed you to feel what was
> on the paper.
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: BlindTlk <blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org> On Behalf Of Jude DaShiell via
> BlindTlk
> Sent: November 17, 2020 8:08 PM
> To: Judy Jones via BlindTlk <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
> Cc: Jude DaShiell <jdashiel at panix.com>
> Subject: Re: [BlindTlk] frustrating home situation
>
> Some differences do exist and it will pay to take them into account.
> For example, do you know why sculpey or similar material is best for totally
> blind people to use when learning to print or do handwriting?
> They can feel their own writing and if they can feel their own writing they
> pick up letter forms quicker unless brain damage came along with that
> blindness.
>
> On Tue, 17 Nov 2020, Judy Jones via BlindTlk wrote:
>
> > Date: Tue, 17 Nov 2020 20:59:20
> > From: Judy Jones via BlindTlk <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
> > To: 'Blind Talk Mailing List' <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
> > Cc: Judy Jones <sonshines59 at gmail.com>
> > Subject: Re: [BlindTlk] frustrating home situation
> >
> > Hi, Madison,
> >
> > Teaching a blind person isn't any different than teaching a sighted person,
> > except for the hands-on, and that is common-sense.
> >
> > All I've seen from you on the list thus far is responses in the negative or
> > what you can't do.  And if you feel you can't, you've already lost the
> > battle until you change your mind-set.
> >
> > I understand we don't know your full situation, and I also understand you
> > are trying to figure things out as well, though.
> >
> > Take some of the suggestions we have given and come back with positive ideas
> > or solutions you think might work.
> >
> > If you really don't know, which is understandable as you are young and
> > sounds like you haven't had a lot of life experience, start asking
> > questions, gathering resources, and reaching out, just the way you did to
> > this list, but to resources in Canada we have told you about, and go about
> > it with an open mind to possibilities.
> >
> > You have mentioned on other lists you don't like talking on the phone. You
> > will need to get out of your comfort zone and get over it, a little at a
> > time, not all at once, but don't let yourself stay stuck there, take the
> > baby steps.
> >
> > We've all been where you are, fresh out of high school, although for you
> > it's been two years, but no forward movement for you, from what you tell us.
> >
> > My parents gave me the option my senior year to either go to college, or
> > attend business school, but they never would have let me stay home without
> > the goal of moving on.
> >
> > I was very immature and chose college, only for the reason I had a lot of
> > friends that were going.  I managed to get a scholarship and started in the
> > fall of 1971.
> >
> > Let us know how it goes, and start thinking in the I-can mode.  Now is the
> > time to do it.
> >
> > Judy
> >
> >
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: BlindTlk <blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org> On Behalf Of Madison
> > Martin via BlindTlk
> > Sent: Tuesday, November 17, 2020 4:39 PM
> > To: 'Blind Talk Mailing List' <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
> > Cc: maddymartin at mymts.net
> > Subject: Re: [BlindTlk] frustrating home situation
> >
> > I don't have contact with any of my school friends, I didn't have many to
> > begin with. I could contact some of my family, but they don't know how to
> > teach a blind person.
> >
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: BlindTlk <blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org> On Behalf Of Ericka via
> > BlindTlk
> > Sent: November 17, 2020 6:32 PM
> > To: Blind Talk Mailing List <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
> > Cc: Ericka <dotwriter1 at gmail.com>
> > Subject: Re: [BlindTlk] frustrating home situation
> >
> > Contact them instead of assuming. Unless you have magic powers you. Can?t
> > read minds. If rhings are. So awful then the further away you are the
> > better. Many filks go to training centers very far from family so nobody can
> > interfer. Not suggesting anything here. Do you have a school friend who?s on
> > their own that you could live with?
> >
> > Make 3 lists: long range goals on one (futur), mid-term (can be accomplished
> > in 6 to 12 months), and short term which are something that you can do in
> > the next 2 to 3 months to change your situation. Breaking it down always
> > makes a problem easier. I think what?s going on here is that you?re so damn
> > frustrated and I apologize for language, that your brain shut off and
> > problem-solving skills you may have had before went out the window. This
> > allows you to dream in small bites. And you can do that hiding in your own
> > bedroom!
> >
> > Ericka Nelson
> >
> > > On Nov 17, 2020, at 4:54 PM, Madison Martin via BlindTlk
> > > <blindtlk at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> > >
> > > None that are close to us. They're probably too busy with their own lives
> > > to help, many of them have kids of their own.
> > >
> > > -----Original Message-----
> > > From: BlindTlk <blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org> On Behalf Of Ericka via
> > > BlindTlk
> > > Sent: November 17, 2020 4:44 PM
> > > To: Blind Talk Mailing List <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
> > > Cc: Ericka <dotwriter1 at gmail.com>
> > > Subject: Re: [BlindTlk] frustrating home situation
> > >
> > > My community in rural WI didn?t either so I moved to a bigger community.
> > > If you can?t get help from parents what about other family like
> > > grandparents or aunties? Maybe you could live with them until you can get
> > > some services contacted and practice with people who may be more receptive
> > > to your steps to independence.
> > >
> > >
> > > We really do care but can?t fix the situation, that?s your Ljob? right
> > > now.
> > >
> > > Ericka Nelson
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >> On Nov 17, 2020, at 3:20 PM, Madison Martin via BlindTlk
> > >> <blindtlk at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> > >>
> > >> I get driven everywhere, not that I go many places. The main place
> > >> I go is to the barn where I ride, it's in the country, so a bus or
> > >> paratransit wouldn't take me there.
> > >>
> > >> -----Original Message-----
> > >> From: BlindTlk <blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org> On Behalf Of Judy
> > >> Jones via BlindTlk
> > >> Sent: November 16, 2020 5:27 PM
> > >> To: 'Blind Talk Mailing List' <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
> > >> Cc: Judy Jones <sonshines59 at gmail.com>
> > >> Subject: Re: [BlindTlk] frustrating home situation
> > >>
> > >> Hi, Madison,
> > >>
> > >> On a list like this that isn't specific, I don't see any problem in
> > >> venting, myself.  Of course it would be up to the list owner.
> > >>
> > >> My very general answer is:  When you are out on your own, most of
> > >> this will probably square itself out, and the issues that seem so
> > >> great now will solve themselves, or be non-issues.
> > >>
> > >> Now, for the specifics.  When I remember being your age, a long
> > >> time ago hahaha, I was very anxious to be on my own, not because I
> > >> didn't love my folks, but because I was ready.
> > >>
> > >> I was in school in another town, so that automatically had me out
> > >> taking care of myself, buying what I wanted, managing my money.
> > >>
> > >> At that time, I wasn't working, and mom and dad helped me out each
> > >> month with some money.  I had worked in the summertimes, but not during
> > >> college.
> > >>
> > >> I loved going home on the weekends, but it's strange, once you've
> > >> really been out on your own, it's never the same going back.
> > >>
> > >> It was always nice to visit catch up, enjoy that protective
> > >> environment with mom and dad, but always good to leave the nest again.
> > >>
> > >> I visited the nest less and less, since I got a teaching job
> > >> straight out of college in another state, then married and moved across
> > >> country.
> > >>
> > >> You haven't left the nest yet, and you are an adult, and sounds
> > >> like wanting to spread your wings a bit.
> > >>
> > >> You need work in order to fund that, but until you do have a job,
> > >> just curious, do you do your own shopping?
> > >>
> > >> Do you take bus or Para to go visit friends, shopping, go to a
> > >> movie, whatever you like to do?
> > >>
> > >> I'm thinking that if you are doing things by yourself more and
> > >> more, your parents are bound to see your independence, and will maybe
> > >> work into letting go.
> > >>
> > >> I know about that, I'm a mom, and one has to work at that as a mom.
> > >>
> > >> My folks did that very well, but am not saying it is easy for a
> > >> parent to do this.
> > >>
> > >> Can you discuss an allowance from your folks, if you are not
> > >> already getting one, then budgeting it for things you want and trips you
> > >> want to take?
> > >>
> > >> Judy
> > >>
> > >>
> > >> -----Original Message-----
> > >> From: BlindTlk <blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org> On Behalf Of Madison
> > >> Martin via BlindTlk
> > >> Sent: Monday, November 16, 2020 3:01 PM
> > >> To: blindtlk at nfbnet.org
> > >> Cc: maddymartin at mymts.net
> > >> Subject: [BlindTlk] frustrating home situation
> > >>
> > >> Hi all,
> > >> Hope this is okay to talk about hear, I just really need to vent.
> > >> I forgot to say that Dad and I went out for super on Saturday to
> > >> get away from the craziness. Plus I don't eat pizza. Makayla's
> > >> biggest issue is that her and Mom are too much a like, so they're
> > >> always at each other and she thinks that Mom is always mad at her
> > >> when she isn't. Dad takes anti-depressant meds, but I think he
> > >> watches and reads way too much news. I also think he drinks way too
> > >> much coffie and alcohol, and he also needs to lose weight. Makayla
> > >> also likes to nag me about stuff that Mom and Dad don't bug me
> > >> about, I already have two parents I don't want or need a third. I'm
> > >> an adult so I think I should be allowed to make my own decisions
> > >> and not get told what to do. Mom also loves to be in control all
> > >> the time which is very annoying. None of us are very good at
> > >> talking about and sharing our feelings, if we were a normal family
> > >> then we could talk about this stuff, but we aren't. I know that a
> > >> therapist can't necessarily solve our problems, but hopefully they could
> > >> give us ways to cope. Mom is the one that needs the most help, but we
> > >> know that she wouldn't go or talk.
> > >> I don't know that Mom would ever join us, and I don't know if
> > >> Makayla even wants to go. I'd consider it, but only if we found the right
> > >> therapist.
> > >> There are many I'm sure, but they're not all the same. I'd love to
> > >> move out, but I don't think I want to live by myself. I used to
> > >> think that Dad and I should go live together, but now I'm not so
> > >> sure. I already told you about his issues, and he also nags me
> > >> about stuff mainly personal hygiene stuff, mainly showiering. I
> > >> don't go anywhere so I really don't care how I look or if I smell.
> > >> Plus the less we shower the less water we use, and the less product
> > >> we have to buy. As an adult, should I not be allowed to make my own
> > >> decsions even when it comes to personal hygiene? Sometimes I feel
> > >> like I'm treated more like a kid then the adult that I am and should be
> > >> allowed to be.
> > >> Makayla would probably just yell at me, she wouldn't actually teach
> > >> me how to do something. She quite often just says "If you want
> > >> something then why not just learn to do it yourself." She also bugs
> > >> me about stuff and tells me what to do too. She's also gotten
> > >> really bad at just taking things without asking, mainly food.
> > >> Sometimes someone buys something for themselves or for someone else
> > >> (that's not her), but she just sees things and assumes she can eat
> > >> or use them, when she can't always. If she'd just ask then chances
> > >> are she could eat some of or use some of whatever it is, but she doesn't.
> > >> Dad does this too, not as much though. We made fudge a few months ago,
> > >> and she ate a few pieces without asking. It had to be kept in the fridge
> > >> so Mom would cut up a few pieces and put them out to warm up a bit.
> > >> Now if we make it again she's not allowed to have any because she
> > >> didn't ask the first time, she blew it. What's fair is fair. Plus
> > >> the last few times she's made stuff she hasn't asked me if I'd like any,
> > >> not that I would unless it's plain.
> > >> It's just annoying when Mom or Dad buys me something and then I
> > >> don't really get any because she's eaten it. Dad says I'm going to
> > >> have to start hiding stuff in my room, which would be weird, if it
> > >> gets to that then I think we have a real problem on our hands. Plus
> > >> she's good at noticing/finding things that Mom has tried to hide, in
> > >> particular chocolate.
> > >> Mom isn't always good at sharing either, but I just ask and if she
> > >> says no then I don't touch it. We might have to start putting our
> > >> names on things, which Makayla did yesterday, when she got this
> > >> macaronie dinner from Sobeys, which I didn't get. If she wants her
> > >> own then that's fine, but I like them too, so I should've gotten one too.
> > >> I've learned that if someone gets something for me, whether it's a
> > >> dinner or snack stuff I have to eat it right away or else there
> > >> might not be any/one left when I really want it/some.  She yells at
> > >> me when we're doing dishes because apparently I don't dry them right. Now
> > >> I just wait for her to finish washing and then I dry.
> > >> I've tried talking to Mom, but that didn't really work/help. She
> > >> thought that I was talking about some particular time or decision
> > >> that I want to make, but I was just talking about in general. I
> > >> still collect animal figurenes, and she has this weird thing that
> > >> if it's too close to my birthday or Christmas then I can't buy
> > >> anything, even though when I'm looking at stuff it usually over a
> > >> month until either event. I do it because I worry that she won't
> > >> like the look of the figurine that I'm asking for so she won't buy
> > >> it for me, regardless of how much I want it. Like last Christmas I
> > >> asked for this particular husky, well she didn't buy it for me
> > >> because she said that she didn't like it's face, it was too pointy,
> > >> but the
> > >> 2 that she got me looked way more like wolves then huskies. It's my
> > >> money, should I not be allowed to spend it when and how I want?
> > >> Any thoughts/suggestions? Like I said, I just really needed to
> > >> vent, so if no one answers then that's fine. Thanks for letting me do it
> > >> anyway.
> > >> Madison
> > >>
> > >>
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