[blparent] Happy Thanksgiving, eh?

Tue Dec 2 15:35:04 UTC 2008

OMG! Ridiculous! They always go after the wrong people!

God's Blessings,
Danie

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----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net>
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Monday, December 01, 2008 10:01 PM
Subject: Re: [blparent] Happy Thanksgiving, eh?

> And it doesn't only happen to blind parents.  A few years ago my friend 
> and her husband were having a discussion about someone they knew and my 
> friend was really mad, yelling, but not at anyone inparticular and went 
> out her front door slaming it behind her.  She wasn't hitting anyone or 
> bothering anyone, just venting her frustrations and there across the 
> street from her house was 2 policemen.  They heard her yell and they saw 
> her slam her front door.  they came right over and asked her what was 
> going on.  She told them she was upset and was venting her frustrations. 
> Well right about then her kids came out of the house crying because mom 
> was yelling.  then out came dad, almost shouting at her to come back 
> inside.  Then without asking any more questions, the police officer hand 
> cuffed my friend and put her in the police car.  She was stunned and so 
> was her family.  She said she started to cry and her husband tried to tell 
> the officer that nothing was going on except her venting about someone who 
> didn't pay her for babysitting.  they took her to the police station and 
> then made her take anger management classes for 3 weeks.  She says never 
> again will she yell to let out her frustrations. Aaah! V
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Barbara Hammel" <poetlori8 at msn.com>
> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Monday, December 01, 2008 9:32 AM
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Happy Thanksgiving, eh?
>
>
>>I feel your pain.  Here in Iowa they sent a letter a few weeks later just
>> reiterating what was said.  I.E. the charges were unfounded.  It does
>> unnerve you for quite a while.  We have our good and bad days, but just 
>> the
>> thought of someone taking them away ...  I shook like a leaf for quite a
>> while after she left.  How much more scary to have the police come, too.
>> That was probably because of the dog?
>> Don't say word one to that ex-friend, you'll just add more fuel to her 
>> fire.
>> Barbara
>>
>>
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>> From: "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at pcdesk.net>
>> Sent: Sunday, November 30, 2008 7:21 PM
>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> Subject: [blparent] Happy Thanksgiving, eh?
>>
>>> Hi.  To tell the truth, I had a fairly happy Thanksgiving, and I hope 
>>> you
>>> all did as well.  But I had a really unpleasant surprise yesterday
>>> afternoon.  Count me among the eighty percent of blind parents, I guess,
>>> who have had encounters with Child Protective Services.  I hope that was
>>> my first, last, and definitely only encounter.
>>>
>>> I was minding my own business, doing dishes in the kitchen.  Stephen was
>>> up for the weekend, and an older woman from my church had left her two
>>> grandchildren with me while she went to serve a Thanksgiving dinner at 
>>> the
>>> local affordable housing complex.  Stephen and the two younger kids had
>>> just come in from outside.  Ballad, my guide dog, started barking, so
>>> Gerald went to see who was at the door.  A few moments later, I came
>>> around the corner into my living room and met up with two city police
>>> officers and a social worker.
>>>
>>> It seems that an anonymous caller put in a complaint that I wasn't 
>>> capable
>>> of taking care of my baby, along with some other allegations iincluding
>>> that I had a vicious dog who has bitten me before.  (Ballad is a 
>>> friendly,
>>> goofy black Labrador who would barely know how to bite anybody if she 
>>> had
>>> to.)  The social worker talked to Gerald and me for a few minutes and
>>> then, since we didn't get upset and threaten her or anything crazy, I
>>> guess, she told the police officers they could leave.  hung out for a
>>> little while longer, then told us that she was going to file a report
>>> saying that she saw nothing wrong, and the complaint was completely
>>> unfounded.  She said Child Protective Services had no problem whatsoever
>>> with blind parents or parents who had other disabilities, as long as the
>>> children were well cared for, and she could see that Sarah was fine. 
>>> One
>>> of the complaints had centered on the fact that Gerald is married to
>>> someone besides me, and the case worker said that wasn't the business of
>>> her agency.  She left soon after.
>>>
>>> The thing is, the case worker gave enough hints about exactly what was
>>> said that I know who filed the complaint, even if it was anonymous.  It
>>> was a friend of mmine, or rather an ex friend.  We haven't spoken for 
>>> over
>>> a year because when I told her I was pregnant with Gerald's child, she
>>> went off about how selfish and stupid and immoral I was, and decided she
>>> didn't want to talk to me.  It hurt, but I let her go without much of a
>>> fight after eighteen years of friendship because in my book, friends 
>>> stick
>>> by each other and don't judge.  She sent a nasty little note at about 
>>> the
>>> time the baby was born, which I ignored because I had bigger fish to fry
>>> at the time, like caring for an infant and getting my gallbladder 
>>> removed.
>>> I don't know now if she called Child Protective Services because of a
>>> genuine concern for my baby--she sure didn't check with me at any
>>> point--or whether it was some kind of weird vindictive thing.  I'm just 
>>> in
>>> shock.
>>>
>>> I guess I'm wondering if it's really going to end like the case worker
>>> says.  If she reports that the case has no validity, will it ever come
>>> back to bite us if something else is filed later?  Is my ex friend a
>>> threat in the future?  So far, my gut feeling is that I better not 
>>> contact
>>> her about this.  I'm mostly too numb to have any emotions of anger or 
>>> the
>>> like, but I'm guessing they'll come in time.  The two kids I was
>>> babysitting didn't say anything abot what happened, though I did tell
>>> their grandparents in case they mentioned it later.  But Stephen asked 
>>> me
>>> why there were police officers in the house.  I told him the lady had 
>>> come
>>> to check on how the baby was getting cared for, and he asked again about
>>> the cops.  So I said some people got mad when a person came to check on
>>> their babies, and the lady brought the police so she could be sure she 
>>> was
>>> safe.  He seemed to accept that.  But I feel violated and a little 
>>> fearful
>>> about the future.  Actually, I feel sick.
>>>
>>> Jo Elizabeth
>>>
>>> It is easy--terribly easy--to shake a man's faith in himself. To take
>>> advantage of that to break a man's spirit is devil's work. Take care of
>>> what you are doing. Take care.--George Bernard Shaw in "Candide"
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