[blparent] coming to my defense

Tue Apr 28 19:28:36 UTC 2009

I don't want to start a war or make it bad for Gab.  I was just surprised at
what children think and how mean they can be.  V

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Elizabeth Cooks
Sent: Monday, April 27, 2009 10:59 AM
To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] coming to my defense

Theese children are eight years old. not teens.
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Thea Eaton" <thea at doodledoo.com>
To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Thursday, April 23, 2009 1:09 PM
Subject: Re: [blparent] coming to my defense

>I remember that when I was younger, I had an argument with one of my best
> girl-friends about clothes too. The friend was jealous of an outfit that I
> wore, and ended up lashing out at me and insulting me on something else,
> totally unrelated. I was hurt, but realized that she didn't mean it. I 
> think
> most girls have a tiff like that with their friends at times.
>
> I think it is important to remember that teenage girls, are teenage girls,
> and to remind her that sometimes friends get mad at each other and can 
> lash
> out in a hurtful way. I don't think that it necessarily really had 
> anything
> to do with her being blind? But maybe the friend was jealous of the 
> clothes
> she was wearing? And maybe didn't want her to wear that outfit? In that 
> case
> she could have lashed out in any way, called her fat, etc.. Teenage girls
> can be very sensitive about appearances, clothes, hair, and such. I would
> definitely encourage Gab to talk to her friend, and ask her what was 
> really
> bothering her. If the girl is old enough to realize what she said, I
> wouldn't involve the grandmother if she was not there at the time that it
> happened, but instead try to have the girls talk to each other and 
> reconcile
> in a mature way? Were they good friends before? Maybe you can invite her
> over so they can talk about what was really bothering her?
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Jo Elizabeth Pinto
> Sent: Thursday, April 23, 2009 1:00 PM
> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] coming to my defense
>
> Honestly, I feel sorry for Kiana in this situation, as well as Gab.  It's
> true that Gab got her feelings hurt, and Veronica got maligned, but Kiana 
> is
>
> the one who is missing out on people who have differences.  Hopefully, as
> she grows up, she'll learn to have a broader attitude about the abilities
> and uniquenesses of others.  It seems to me that Veronica has already done
> the educating and reaching out, and now it's a matter of Kiana growing up 
> a
> little, and perhaps her grandmother growing up some as well.  I would have
> expected the grandmother to make Kiana say she was sorry at the bus stop, 
> in
>
> person and not by text messaging, but she chose not to face an awkward
> situation.  Too bad, but shrug it off, Veronica and Gab, with the 
> assurance
> that you know the truth.
>
> Jo Elizabeth
>
> "Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed
> until it is faced."--James Baldwin
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net>
> To: "blind parents" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Wednesday, April 22, 2009 10:29 PM
> Subject: [blparent] coming to my defense
>
>
>> Ok, this is how it went.  Kiana accused Gab of wearing the same dress 2
>> days
>> in a row.  Gab said she had not, that the day before she had worn tan
>> pants
>> and her spirit shirt.  Kiana said that Gab had not.  So then Gab told her
>> if
>> she didn't believe her, she could ask her mom.  So then Kiana told Gab
>> that
>> blind people didn't know anything and they were stupid.  Gab said she
>> wanted
>> to hit her, but did not.  Gab told her that blind people could do 
>> anything
>> except drive.   Gab told her that I knew everything especially what she
>> wore
>> each day.  Kiana just laughed at her and insisted that blind people were
>> nothing.  Of course, my daughter came home in tears.
>>
>> I tried to convince her that it didn't matter what her friend said, but 
>> it
>> mattered to my daughter.  So I called Kiana's grandmother and told her
>> what
>> happened.  She said that her granddaughter didn't mean to offend me.  I
>> saw
>> Kiana at the bus stop this morning and really espected an apology, but
>> there
>> was none coming.  I guess I should be satisfied that her grandmother knew
>> what happened, but it really bugs me. V
>
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