[blparent] feeling like alousy parent

Fri Aug 28 02:38:24 UTC 2009

Yeah, I find responding sooner rather than later to a request to play makes
the day go smoother.  I often set a limit like I'll play 3 games of uno,
which happens to be about all either of us can stand on most days anyhow. If
I don't set a limit then I end up with tears when I cal a halt.  I have a
lot of trouble playing with my kids not sure why that is but I compensate by
actively seeking play dates and taking my kids around the neighbor hood to
play with other children in walking distance of us.
Eileen

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Sent: Thursday, May 17, 2007 12:28 PM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] feeling like alousy parent

It seems like the hardest part of parenting is all the balancing we have
to do.  I work at home, and sometimes I feel like by the time I get work
and housework done and feed them and help with homework, there's no time
left for playing.  They play a lot with each other, and sometimes I jump
in like being the dispatcher when they play fire department or being the
king the pirate ship sails to with the treasure, but sometimes I feel
like the only time I can have fun and really have good time with them is
when we go out to the park or the library.  Then I can just be with them
and not get distracted by some little chore or the phone or anything
else.  We've been taking walks lately and looking for treasures like
sticks and leaves.  The two younger ones, 5 and 2, really like this, and
my oldest, who's 7, likes to find things he can draw.  I always try to
make time to read to them at night, which is really special to all of
us.  We're trying to work out ways to have one-on-one with each of them
because my oldest especially seems to be getting lost in the shuffle
lately and needs some of my undivided attention.  He's the most into
board and card games so I'm trying to do some of those with him while
dad plays with or supervises the other two.  If your son really wants to
watch a movie, put an air mattress on the floor, make some popcorn, and
cuddle up with him to enjoy it.  He might start talking or want to play
something else halfway through, or he might just like being with you
doing that.  My middle son and I sometimes get one-on-one because he
likes to help cook dinner while his brothers play.  You'll find things
you like to do together.  And it doesn't even have to be big chunks of
time.  I've been having breakfast with my oldest before I get the other
ones up, and that ten minutes has gone a long way to helping our
mornings go smoother.  He gets some time to talk to me, I actually eat,
and we start the day off without a meltdown from mom or kids!  Take
care, try to take a deep breath and find even small special times with
both kids, remember every parent goes through the balancing act, and
remember too that every day isn't the same.  You might not have time one
day, but then you can try to make double time the next.  Even talling
your four-year-old how you wish you culd do such and such today but you
have to do something else but then suggesting something you could do
with him in a little while might help both of you. It helps us
sometimes.  And sometimes just letting the house stuff wait and going
out for a little while with him might be the answer.  Take care and good
luck.\

Jennifer

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
On Behalf Of mds4pak
Sent: Wednesday, May 16, 2007 10:29 PM
To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] feeling like alousy parent

That sounds like a very long time to play at a computer, especially for
a 
young child.

Sarah
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Josh" <jkenn337 at gmail.com>
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Wednesday, May 16, 2007 11:21 PM
Subject: Re: [blparent] feeling like alousy parent

> why not encourage him to play some of the two-player games with you on
the
> computer that Jim Kitchen made. They're fun to play. And if you have a
> nextup.com Scansoft voice they sound really good too. Maybe it would 
> occupy
> both of you to sit at the computer and play monopoly for 4 or 5 hours
or
> yatzee or battle-ship.
>
> Josh
>
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Eileen" <eileenlevin at comcast.net>
> To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Wednesday, May 16, 2007 10:56 PM
> Subject: [blparent] feeling like alousy parent
>
>
>> Hi,
>> For those who don't know, I work during the day and my husband stays
>> home with the kids. At night and on weekends I feel like I don't pay
>> enough attention to my 4 year old. I seem to be getting ready for the
>> next day, finishing a few house hold chores  or nursing the baby.
>> Nursing has taken a lot of time  I nurse off and on all the time when
I
>> am at home because I am unable to collect much milk with a pump
despite
>> my best efforts so the baby gets most of his nurishment when I am at
>> home.
>>
>> Then when I do have time for my four year old he wants to watch a
movie
>> or play a video game. I am at a loss to know how to interact with him
in
>> a way that is satisfying for both of us. I do feel a little better
when
>> I play a few rounds of hide and seek or get me. He loves to run and
jump
>> and would play these games all day if he could. I feel like he gets
>> along better with his infant brother than with me.
>> Confused in NJ,
>> Eileen
>>
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