[blparent] Help before 7:30 Arizona Time Please

Tue Dec 8 07:48:08 UTC 2009

I recently read two books from book share that I liked.

Stop Arguing with Your Kids : How to Win the Battle of Wills by Making Your
Children Feel Heard
Michael P. Nichols
This book was a poor scan but I'm reading it any way because fighting and
complaining are  my middle names. hehehaha
This book emphasizes that a parent who is secure in his or her authority can
take the time to listen to his or her kidsfeelings in a way that makes the
child feel heard. For a child, feeling heard and respected is often more
important that the particular issue at hand. The book also points out that a
parent's perspective and a child's perspective on any given issue are
usually very different.  I like this book because it gives examples from
toddler to teen.  It gives examples of what can go wrong for each parenting
style, from authoritarian  style to the child being allowed to feel  equal
to the parent.

Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can
Live Today
Elaine Mazlish, Adele Faber
This book was a good scan.  It stressed getting kids to talk about their
feelings rather than acting them out. It also brought up the danger of
stereo typing a child and how important it is to allow a child to express
all their personality traits  in acceptable ways.

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Background:

My daughter has had a great interest is woman supplies even before needing
them, she is 8.75 years old will be 9 in February. And she has been firmly
told it isn't time, for razors, shaving, lotions, etc.

Even before needing to ware bras I would catch her sneaking them from school
from other little girls to ware them and be cool I guess. She now wares a
double a so that isn't an issue anymore so it's this razor thing.

A couple of days ago I found a razor cap on the bathroom floor. Being I
don't shave I instantly walked up to her asking her where the razor was that
I suspected she had and she very much denied even knowing of one's
existences. I left it at that and we went on, although I always thought she
was just lying and I find it sooner or later, I always do and she always
gets caught.

So, tonight looking in the medicine cabinet looking for something for my
ear, I found the razor, it's a disposable razor just like the one matching
the cap I found on the floor a couple of days ago.

My problem:

I always let my daughter know why she is being punished, and then I asking
her to fully explain to me so I know she understands why she is being
punished.

Today she is scheduled to go to a field trip to a farm and she is really
looking forward to it. Should I keep her home for a form of punishment? The
entire school day is being spent at the farm so if I keep her home she would
be only missing out on the farm. Or do you recommend any other forms of
punishment.

Please do understand we have talked, over and over and over about wanting to
grow up too fast, it has nothing to do with her not knowing. Its her not
listening, and lying about it when confronted with the evidence.

Thanks

Gabe Vega A+, Net+, ATACP

The Tech of all Techs

(623) 565-9357

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