[blparent] symptoms of pregnancy

Wed Jan 7 18:52:53 UTC 2009

Be very careful, you don't want that baby to come early.  V
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From: "Anjelina" <cruz.anjelina at mchsi.com>
To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Tuesday, January 06, 2009 11:15 PM
Subject: Re: [blparent] symptoms of pregnancy

> Since we have had some snow and ice I've taken a few falls, fortunately 
> have
> landed on my back but my center of gravity is totally off. I sometimes 
> have
> to use my cane as a support to help me get up. smile
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Veronica Smith
> Sent: Tuesday, January 06, 2009 10:58 PM
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> Subject: Re: [blparent] (no subject)
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> When i was pregnant I was huge, but got very upset if anyone said that 
> word.
>
> Still to this day, my husband is afraid to use that word in front of me. V
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Tammy, Paul and Colyn" <tcl189 at rogers.com>
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> Sent: Tuesday, January 06, 2009 5:36 PM
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>> Hik
>>
>> This is a very good post, and I agree with it entirely.  Dena, I hope I
>> have
>> as good of an experience as you did.  How's that little baby doing?  I
>> can't
>> wait for my baby to come now.  I'm so sick of being pregnant!  I feel
>> absolutely huge, and I'm starting to have trouble getting up and down the
>> stairs now which makes my life harder.
>>
>> Tammy
>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>> From: "Dena Wainwright" <autumnrose21 at gmail.com>
>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> Sent: Tuesday, January 06, 2009 2:03 PM
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] (no subject)
>>
>>
>>> One thing I would suggest, particularly if you don't know who will be
>>> delivering your baby, is to put together a birth plan and bring it with
>>> you to the hospital. our birth plan was a page long, and contained
>>> information about our preferences regarding the labor, delivery, and
>>> post-natal care for me and the baby. some of the things we included were
>>> that we wanted my husband to be given the option to cut the cord, that
>>> one
>>> of us needed to be present when they did anything to the baby, that we
>>> planned to breastfeed (because sometimes they will offer a baby formula
>>> if
>>> they don't know this), etc. we also put in some very specific highlights
>>> about my medical history--such as the fact that I cannot have epidurals.
>>> the birth plan will clearly express your wishes, which will be 
>>> especially
>>> important if you are unable to make decisions on your own for whatever
>>> reason. also, things can change dramatically when you are in labor--pain
>>> is definitely a strange animal.
>>>
>>> another thing I would suggest is that you bring a coach or doulah into
>>> the
>>> delivery room with you. this person will be a constent, no matter who
>>> performs the delivery, and he or she can advocate on your behalf.
>>>
>>> I also agree with what has already been said regarding visiting your
>>> hospital ahead of time to get a feel for the facilities and the staff.
>>> for
>>> instance, do they promote rooming in, do they promote moving around
>>> during
>>> labor, what is their c-section rate, etc.
>>>
>>> I also agree that emphasizing your blindness will often make other 
>>> people
>>> focus on it. our birth plan did not say anything about my blindness.
>>>
>>> I had an absolutely phenominal hospital experience. not a single person
>>> questioned my ability to care for Elise, and no one made any issue of my
>>> asking to be shown how to do things. even when I sent Jason home for the
>>> night to get some good sleep, no one freaked out about "the sighted
>>> parent" leaving me alone with our newborn. no one incinuated that I
>>> wouldn't be able to breastfeed, or treated me any differently because of
>>> my blindness. the only thing they did to accommodate me was that they 
>>> had
>>> each nurse introduce the nurse for the upcoming shift to me when she 
>>> left
>>> for the day, so I would know that the person coming into my room was a
>>> hospital employee.
>>>
>>> the other amazing thing they did, is that the midwife I had seen
>>> throughout my pregnancy rearranged her schedule so she could be there 
>>> for
>>> our birth, so I would feel as secure as possible. the staff was
>>> incredible
>>> at describing everything they were doing to me and to the baby. I felt
>>> absolutely comfortable and relaxed--totally in control of the whole
>>> process.
>>>
>>> finally, questions about support are standard. a lot of the reason why
>>> they are asked, is that professionals want to know what sort of
>>> environment the baby will be coming home to, and they also want to make
>>> sure a new mother isn't isolated (making her more vulnerable to
>>> post-natal
>>> depression).
>>>
>>> hope some of this helps.
>>>
>>> Dena
>>>
>>>
>>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>>> From: "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at pcdesk.net>
>>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>> Sent: Tuesday, January 06, 2009 10:10 AM
>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] (no subject)
>>>
>>>
>>>> Hi, Angelina.  If you haven't done so, consider taking a childbirth
>>>> class
>>>> at the hospital where you will be delivering.  This will not only give
>>>> you an idea of what to expect, but it will also start to get you
>>>> acquainted with some of the nurses and staff.  That way, your blindness
>>>> won't be encountered for the first time when you are admitted for labor
>>>> and delivery.  Also, don't assume every question about your support
>>>> system at home is getting asked just because of your blindness.  When a
>>>> woman has a baby, especially if she is alone, she needs 
>>>> help--physically
>>>> and emotionally--when she goes home, blind or not.  If you don't have
>>>> family nearby, lean on your friends. Be specific in what you need.
>>>> People want to help, but they say, "Call me if you need anything." 
>>>> Then
>>>> you don't know what to ask for, or when to call.  Suggest that your
>>>> friends could drop over for short visits, maybe bring prepared or 
>>>> frozen
>>>> meals.  But anyway, don't assume the doctors or nurses are asking you
>>>> about your support system because of your blindness. I had a few ask me
>>>> if I would have help at home, I just said yes, and that was the end of
>>>> the matter.
>>>>
>>>> Good luck,
>>>> Jo Elizabeth
>>>>
>>>> It is easy--terribly easy--to shake a man's faith in himself. To take
>>>> advantage of that to break a man's spirit is devil's work. Take care of
>>>> what you are doing. Take care.--George Bernard Shaw in "Candide"
>>>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>>>> From: "Anjelina" <cruz.anjelina at mchsi.com>
>>>> To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>>> Sent: Tuesday, January 06, 2009 12:25 AM
>>>> Subject: [blparent] (no subject)
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>> Hi there list,
>>>>> I'm due next month and was wondering did you take any additional steps
>>>>> for
>>>>> dealing with people that might be uncomfortable with blindness? The
>>>>> doctor
>>>>> I've been seeing me throughout my pregnancy will not be delivering so 
>>>>> I
>>>>> was
>>>>> looking for any suggestions for dealing with a new hospital on such
>>>>> short
>>>>> notice.
>>>>> Hope that makes sense.
>>>>
>>>>
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