[blparent] Unsubscribing

[Jo Elizabeth Pinto]

Hi.  I think we would all do well to pause and consider what we say and how 
it sounds before we send off our e-mails.  I feel bad for Anjelina, who has 
turned away from a group that could have been a good support to her at a 
time when she, as a new mom, needs all the support she can get.  I've found 
some of the messages on this list to be abrasive and judgmental at times 
myself, but I've tried to ignore that because the advice I've gotten has 
been worth putting up with some discomfort.  It's sad, though, that there 
has to be any discomfort, because that's the last thing parents, blind or 
sighted, need.  Try to remember that regardless of our age, marital status, 
or experience with children, we're all in the same boat.  A little bit of 
empathy will go a long way.

Stepping down from my soapbox and taking a bow,
Jo Elizabeth

It is easy--terribly easy--to shake a man's faith in himself. To take 
advantage of that to break a man's spirit is devil's work. Take care of what 
you are doing. Take care.--George Bernard Shaw in "Candide"
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Eva Adams" <eadams15 at gmail.com>
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Wednesday, January 14, 2009 2:50 PM
Subject: Re: [blparent] Unsubscribing


> Hopefully this makes people stop and think about what they are saying to 
> others.  Now there is a new mom out there without support, because people 
> feel the need to be critacizing and very rude when all she wants is some 
> advice.  I have found for a few people on this list to be very rude, and 
> think they know everything there is about parenting.  This is why I try 
> not to post to many of my questions on this list.  I hope everyone on this 
> realizes that they don't know everything there is about parenting.  We 
> have all been in the same position, new mom, scared, trying to figure out 
> if we have what we need.  Instead of jumping to conclusions about people, 
> why don't we just answer the question people ask.  If they wanted opinions 
> about their personal life then they would ask.  I feel really bad for this 
> girl. She was just looking for a support system, and now has nothing since 
> people had to scare her off with their rudeness.  I was hoping also that 
> someone might have Angelina's email address.  I would personally like to 
> keep in contact with her.  So if someone does have it could you please 
> send it my way.
>
> eadams15 at gmail.com
>
> Eva
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Anjelina" <cruz.anjelina at mchsi.com>
> To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Wednesday, January 14, 2009 1:15 PM
> Subject: [blparent] Unsubscribing
>
>
>> I've enjoyed all the helpful advice I've received on list.
>> However, since this list is a public forum and I seem to not correctly
>> convey my questions with out conclusions being drawn, it's best that I
>> leave.
>> If anyone wants to talk off list feel free to contact me by email.
>> Anjelina