[blparent] Questions about purchasing baby items

[Pickrell, Rebecca M (IT)]

He is very caring. 
I suppose that I have issues with the word support. I take it to mean,
and again, this is just me, but support the way I understand it means
"say or do whatever I want, regardless of what I say or want is in
anybody's best interests". 
It's funny you bring this up, because husband and I were talking about
buzz words and what they tent to mean. 
For fun, I'll share what we came up with. 
Supportive; "do or say whatever the speaker wants, without regard to
whether what the speaker wants will do any good". 
Open-minded; "put up with some behavior of mine that is socially
abhorent, i.e. a behavior that most people would not put up with". 
Flexible; We have a legally binding contract, but I'm hoping like hell
to get out of my end of the deal". 
Private; "I don't like you enough to consider you a friend, but if I
need you, you'd better jump". 
We had a few others, but this is all I can think of now. 
All this is to say, I simply don't like the term "support". It's very
loaded and well, it has negative conotations.  
-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
On Behalf Of Veronica Smith
Sent: Friday, January 16, 2009 3:49 PM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] Questions about purchasing baby items

Rebecca, tammy did not mean your husband supports you with money, but
supportive emotionally.  If he doesn't that would be sad. I heard him
talking to you the other day and he sounded very caring, right?
Did you guys notice that angelina unsubscribed.  What ever you all said,
she said you misunderstood her question. V
----- Original Message -----
From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M. (TASCSD)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at ngc.com>
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Wednesday, January 14, 2009 1:31 PM
Subject: Re: [blparent] Questions about purchasing baby items


> Tammy,
> I wasn't scared during the last of my pregnancy. Why would I be?
> Second, my husband doesn't support me. We both make informed decitions

> and talk about them.
> And I wasn't scared by new motherhood. I was shocked at how primitive 
> a newborn is, but that was more like "Wow, it's amazing the human race

> survived"
> I've also had friends who do really dumb things because they don't 
> know they can seek help.
> Anjilina's goal now needs to be making sure she has people in her 
> community she trusts.
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
> On Behalf Of Tammy, Paul and Colyn
> Sent: Wednesday, January 14, 2009 1:15 PM
> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Questions about purchasing baby items
>
> Hi,
>
> Rebecca, this is not  amedical list, it's a parenting one.  The 
> original question was not a medical one, it was a question about how 
> to give medacin when needed.  I'm sure we can rest assured that 
> Angelina's doctors will advise her when and when not to give medacin.

> Your posts, while they may contain some useful information for some 
> people, may also make mothers to be scared and unsure of what they are

> doing at a time when we neede to be a help and a confidence boost to 
> them.  Most of us remember this feeling as we've been through it 
> before, but for a first time mother and a single parent this time can 
> be overwhelming and very scarey.  I think it's important to give 
> people the facts, but you also need to take feelings in to account 
> here, and think about how much information is too much information at 
> one time.  I know your intentions were good, but remember back when 
> you were at the end stage of your pregnancy, I know, you only knew for

> the 6 weeks leading up to your baby's birth, but remember how scared 
> you were, and all the things you had to think about.  Then think about

> all of that again, only imagine yourself with no husband to support 
> you.  I hope you get my point, and I hope you dohn't think I'm trying 
> to be harsh or unkind.  I'm certainly not!  I'm trying to consider the

> feelings of somebody who might be a little more scared then they'd 
> like to admit, and I'm thinking of how I would feel in there position,

> because I remember it very well, and not too fondly.
>
> Tammy
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M. (TASCSD)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at ngc.com>
> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Wednesday, January 14, 2009 10:39 AM
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Questions about purchasing baby items
>
>
>> Debbie,
>> You misread my intent.
>> What I was trying to convey is that newborns shouldn't need medicine.
>> With a cranky older baby, you can easily say "A shot of tyenol will 
>> help".
>> This isn't true of a newborn.
>> We were told no medicine for a newborn, ad if we felt we needed
> medicine
>> that that in and of itself was a problem.
>> This was lifted after two months.
>> My point is that while Anjelina does need to figure out how she will 
>> administer meds, she doesn't need to think that the first thing she
> will
>> do is dole them out right away.
>> If she does feel that medicine would help, the baby cries "too much"
> or
>> "won't sleep" or any other thinking, she does need to seek medical 
>> advice.
>> Knowing what is and isn't normal is far more important at this stage 
>> then how to administer medicine. That can be learned quickly.
>> Please reread my post and do not misquote me.
>>
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org 
>> [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>> On Behalf Of Deborah Kent Stein
>> Sent: Wednesday, January 14, 2009 9:23 AM
>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Questions about purchasing baby items
>>
>>
>>
>> Hi, Angelina,
>>
>> I remember being a mother-to-be and feeling anxious about what I 
>> would do if my baby got sick.  Sighted people were endlessly asking 
>> me how I would handle emergencies, how I would get her to the ER if 
>> she was
> hurt
>> or ill and there was nobody around to drive, how I would take her
> temp,
>> and of course, how I would measure medicine.  I wanted above all
> things
>> to be a good mom and to keep my baby healthy and safe, so I would 
>> probably have been thinking about all of those things anyway, but the

>> worries of the people around me certainly kept it high on my horizon!
>> It is not surprising to me at all that you are thinking about how you

>> will give medicine if you need to.  I don't think it suggests "an 
>> underlying problem," I think it indicates that like any conscientious

>> mother you want to do your very best.
>>
>> And I'm confident that you will!
>>
>> Debbie
>>
>> ----- Original Message -----
>> From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M. (TASCSD)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at ngc.com>
>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> Sent: Wednesday, January 14, 2009 7:24 AM
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Questions about purchasing baby items
>>
>>
>>> Hi Anjilina. Here are my thoughts;
>>> 1. If you've got time to come up with a theme for your newborn's
> room,
>>> you've got time to get your ducks in a row regarding the hospital, 
>>> finding a peditritian, and if you plan to work, finding childcare.
>> Take
>>> care of that first.
>>> 2. Newborns don't care about the theme of their room. There is a law

>>> that says, the more time and money you spend on it, the less your
> baby
>>> will sleep there.
>>> 3. The absolutes that you need to have are these;
>>> 1 diapers
>>> 2 carseat
>>> 3 clothes
>>> 4 wipes which can be as simple as cut up cloth and water 5. a 
>>> disposal system for human waste 5. You shouldn't have to give your 
>>> newborn medicine unless there is a condition that you know of now. 
>>> Even tyenol is a bad idea until two months, or so we were told. If 
>>> you think you need to give your
> newborn
>>> meds, you have an underlying problem which needs to be addressed.
>>> 6. You will never "have everything you need". There will be things
> you
>>> think of after the baby is born. Also, babies and children change
> over
>>> time. What you need for anewborn will not be what you need for a
>> toddler
>>> and so it goes.
>>>
>>> Given your situation, I'd not worry about the theme for your baby's 
>>> room. We didn't have one as we didn't have time.
>>> You will also want a crib, though you probably don't *need* one 
>>> right away. What you will need is aplace to put the baby and if 
>>> money is an issue, I'd suggest a bucket carseat as it will give you 
>>> both acarseat
>> as
>>> well as a seat for the baby.
>>> Btw, didn't you also have another baby shower? What happened to 
>>> those gifts? Look and see what you got in that stash, you do not 
>>> need to reinvent the wheel here.
>>> You'll be fine.
>>> Lastly, Veronica says you tried to write me privately. If you did, I

>>> never got a note, hence could not respond.
>>> The most important thing your child needs is lots of physical
> contact,
>>> food, and a clean butt.
>>>
>>>
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org
> [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>>> On Behalf Of Anjelina
>>> Sent: Wednesday, January 14, 2009 3:03 AM
>>> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
>>> Subject: [blparent] Questions about purchasing baby items
>>>
>>> 1. Did you use a theme for your newborns room? If so did you go 
>>> based
>> on
>>> texture of colors?
>>> 2. What adaptive equipment did you have to purchase?
>>> I went browsing with my sister and saw ear thermometers and medicine

>>> spoons.
>>> I didn't know if most off the shelf products are accessible to use.
>>> 3. I've decided to use a sling so she is closer to me, but did you
> use
>> a
>>> stroller at times?
>>> I'm trying to add items to a registry but I don't want to add things

>>> that I won't use.
>>> Thanks for any answers.
>>> Anjelina
>>>
>>>
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