[blparent] Help

[Pickrell, Rebecca M (IS)]

Has he busted her for the things she's done? That may help. 
Also, the language you use is interesting. He "watches them two or three
days a week sometimes up to eight hours a day". Is he a coparent or is
he a baby-sitter. If he is a coparent, he isn't "watching them" he is
being a dad. If he is a baby-sitter, then perhaps he isn't the right
match for your family. 
Think long and hard about this, decide which it is, and give him the
tools to respond appropriately. 
Also, make sure that he indeed does know what the kids are up to. He may
be physically present and still clueless not because he's blind but
because he is just not paying attention. 
 
-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
On Behalf Of Jennifer Massey
Sent: Wednesday, July 15, 2009 12:53 AM
To: blparent at nfbnet.org
Subject: [blparent] Help

My boyfriend has no vision but my children do. He watches them 2 or 3
days a week sometimes for more then 8 hours a day.  My daughter who will
be 6 soon told him today that she does the things that she does that are
bad because he can't see her do them.  This hurt him very much.  We are
not sure what to do at this point and any advice would be helpful.  I
have tried spending extra time with her when I can and giving her some
positive attention.  This week we have swimming which we always do
together not only has a family but we each take some individual time
with both of the kids, we also are taking both the kids to a carnival on
friday and we are all going to the zoo on saturday.  We really try to
spend as much time as we can with them in the positive and not sure why
my daughter is lashing out so much towards him in general.  When I am at
home she doesn't do this and when she is with her dad and his wife she
doesn't do it either.  Just with him.

Jennifer and Dustin
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