[blparent] Help

Thu Jul 16 04:06:10 UTC 2009

Hi Jennifer,
Hmmmmmmmm
I was really stressed out at work and my son started acting up. I asked his
teacher if anything was going wrong at school. By the time she responded to
my e-mail the problems with work had passed and my son was more or less back
to his normal self...

I try to trust gut feelings in these situations. Often the answers lie right
under my nose. 

Sometimes the kids are simply going through a developmental stage. My 6 year
old son benefited greatly from reading books by Judy Bloom and other authors
about children growing up and the problems they face in their daily lives.
Check with your children's librarian for some age appropriate books about
coping with step family etc.

Also, I've noticed that my husband has a different approach to bed time,
meals, dressing for the weather than I do. Perhaps more or less sleep, more
or less activity,  or a change in meals and fluid intake might make a
difference... Just throwing out some thoughts here...  
HTH,
Eileen
-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Jennifer Massey
Sent: Wednesday, July 15, 2009 9:32 PM
To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] Help

yes I have and we have resolved those issues.  My boyfriend spends most of 
his day with the kids playing games, watching tv and he takes them out in 
the courtyard to play ball and ride bikes.  The day of the toy throwing he 
had asked them if they wanted to watch cartoons for a bit.  They had been 
playing with toys in there room for about an hour or so after they had 
played a game of cooties together.  So not sure what is wrong with her. 
Tonight she lashed out again saying to me I smell like a B****.  She will 
not be going to the pool tomorrow and will be with her step uncle.

Jennifer

----- Original Message ----- 
From: "sharon howerton" <shrnhow at att.net>
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Wednesday, July 15, 2009 6:50 PM
Subject: Re: [blparent] Help

> Jo Elizabeth,
> I think the difference between your situation and what Jennifer described 
> is
> that your step-son is a good bit older than Jennifer's daughter, but then
> sometimes adolescent kids can be pretty nasty. I feel very blessed that my
> sons didn't give me that kind of language or attitude nor did they do it 
> to
> their dad who has some vision even though, in my opinion, they didn't
> understand his vision very well. Respect can be so hard to instill.
> Sadly, Jennifer, if memory serves, you've expressed concerns about your 
> boy
> friend before.
> Sharon
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at pcdesk.net>
> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Wednesday, July 15, 2009 2:00 PM
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Help
>
>
>> True.  We went through the sneakiness for a little while--snitching
>> cookies and Popsicles, throwing away food he didn't want, that kind of
>> thing.  I was pretty low key about it, jus telling him what I could hear
>> that was going on, and the behavior pretty much died out on its own.
>>
>> Jo Elizabeth
>>
>> "Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed
>> until it is faced."--James Baldwin
>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>> From: "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net>
>> To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> Sent: Wednesday, July 15, 2009 12:58 PM
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Help
>>
>>
>>> But he said he was doing a scientific experiment, not doing it because
>>> you
>>> couldn't see him. V
>>>
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] 
>>> On
>>> Behalf Of Jo Elizabeth Pinto
>>> Sent: Wednesday, July 15, 2009 10:44 AM
>>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Help
>>>
>>> My stepson did the same thing.  Took the screen out of our second floor
>>> window and started throwing books and toys out.  When we asked him why 
>>> he
>>> did it, he said he wanted to see if the objects all took the same amount
>>> of
>>> time to hit the ground.  What can you say to that?  We went and made him
>>> pick up the stuff, and his dad put the screen and the blinds back in.
>>>
>>> Jo Elizabeth
>>>
>>> "Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed
>>> until it is faced."--James Baldwin
>>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>>> From: "Jennifer Massey" <renandstimpy3 at comcast.net>
>>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>> Sent: Tuesday, July 14, 2009 11:44 PM
>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Help
>>>
>>>
>>>> lovely a few years huh.  I guess telling her when she feels like she is
>>>> going to be bad to come talk to us won't work then.  sorry being
>>>> sarcastic
>>>
>>>> a bit and fustrated.  Last week she pushed her screen out her window 
>>>> and
>>>> started throwing her toys out of it.  we live in an apartment and the
>>>> rental office called him to let him know I was working a double.  last
>>>> week I worked 63 hours, worked 4 double shifts and still having
>>>> financial
>>>> issues and the kids just make me sooo fustrated when they do stuff like
>>>> this and then finally to find out why makes it even more fustrating 
>>>> when
>>>> we can't find a way to fix it.
>>>>
>>>> Jennifer and dustin
>>>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>>>> From: "The BlindTechs Network" <info at theblindtechsnetwork.com>
>>>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>>> Sent: Wednesday, July 15, 2009 1:26 AM
>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Help
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>> she'll grow out of this. I currently deal with this with my 8 and a
>>>>> half
>>>
>>>>> year old daughter and I do everything humanly possible for her.
>>>>>
>>>>> it isn't an attention thing its a I'm a little kid and I got something
>>>>> to use to my advantage thing.
>>>>>
>>>>> give it time, like a couple of years time.
>>>>>
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>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>> On Jul 14, 2009, at 9:52 PM, Jennifer Massey wrote:
>>>>>
>>>>> My boyfriend has no vision but my children do. He watches them 2 or 3
>>>>> days a week sometimes for more then 8 hours a day.  My daughter who
>>>>> will
>>>
>>>>> be 6 soon told him today that she does the things that she does  that
>>>>> are
>>>
>>>>> bad because he can't see her do them.  This hurt him very  much.  We
>>>>> are
>>>>> not sure what to do at this point and any advice would  be helpful.  I
>>>>> have tried spending extra time with her when I can and  giving her 
>>>>> some
>>>>> positive attention.  This week we have swimming which  we always do
>>>>> together not only has a family but we each take some  individual time
>>>>> with both of the kids, we also are taking both the  kids to a carnival
>>>>> on
>>>
>>>>> friday and we are all going to the zoo on  saturday.  We really try to
>>>>> spend as much time as we can with them in  the positive and not sure
>>>>> why
>>>>> my daughter is lashing out so much  towards him in general.  When I am
>>>>> at
>>>
>>>>> home she doesn't do this and  when she is with her dad and his wife 
>>>>> she
>>>>> doesn't do it either.  Just  with him.
>>>>>
>>>>> Jennifer and Dustin
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