[blparent] Sassy Children

kate02 at bellsouth.net kate02 at bellsouth.net
Fri Jul 17 12:05:45 UTC 2009 

I agree kids can learn how to speak appropriately even at two.  I get the hole venting frustration thing but they need to vent it in more productive ways then screaming.

Kate
  
-------------- Original message ----------------------
From: "Allie" <alliemartins at gmail.com>
>
> Now, I realize I might have an unpopular opinion, but I believe that even 
> two-year-olds can be sassy ... mine is going through this phase where she 
> thinks she can scream at Mommy when she's upset. If I tell her no (because 
> that's usually all it takes), she starts crying. Well, I wouldn't even 
> really call it crying, more like whining. I ignore that, because it's not 
> worth giving her attention for the whining. As soon as she starts screaming 
> at me, though, she gets spanked for it. I try not to use spanking for 
> everything, but disrespect is one of those things that will certainly 
> warrant a spanking.
> 
> Some would say that perhaps she is just venting frustration and doesn't know 
> any other way to do it. That is fine with me. She can cry about it if she 
> wants, in another room, but I won't tolerate screaming or yelling back at 
> me.
> 
> I try to talk to her, before and after the spanking, using simple sentences, 
> hoping that if she doesn't understand now, she will eventually grow to learn 
> what it all means.
> 
> -- Allie
> 
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Jennifer Massey" <renandstimpy3 at comcast.net>
> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Wednesday, July 15, 2009 6:36 PM
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Help
> 
> 
> > when she gets a sassy tounge she usually gets slapped in the face for it. 
> > We had a great talk with her tonight all 4 of us, me, dustin, her dad and 
> > his wife.  We decided that at first she could goto the pool and sit on the 
> > bench for 10 mins and watch her brother and other kids play as a lesson, 
> > but when we got home tonight she decided to tell me I smelled like a B**** 
> > so now she gets to stay at home with her mean step uncle.
> > ----- Original Message ----- 
> > From: "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net>
> > To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> > Sent: Wednesday, July 15, 2009 5:46 PM
> > Subject: Re: [blparent] Help
> >
> >
> >> Oh, you're right, no sassy tongues here either. V
> >>
> >> -----Original Message-----
> >> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On 
> >> Behalf Of kate02 at bellsouth.net
> >> Sent: Wednesday, July 15, 2009 1:41 PM
> >> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> >> Subject: Re: [blparent] Help
> >>
> >>
> >> I think its OK to punish a child when behavior is defiant.  I should have 
> >> been clear.  I was saying we give her a time out when she makes a comment 
> >> about how we can’t do something because we’re blind because she is being 
> >> disrespectful to an adult by avoiding what needs to be done at the time. 
> >> Her argument is just a tactic to procrastinate.  She has lots of time to 
> >> share her opinion, but I don’t tolerate sassy children and call it 
> >> freedom of speech.  If I mouthed off to a boss I would lose my job.
> >>
> >> Just my thoughts
> >> Kate
> >>
> >> -------------- Original message ----------------------
> >> From: "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net>
> >>>
> >> Kate, punishing your child for their opinion is not so good in my book, 
> >> but when
> >> she says blind people can't do this or that, point out the things they 
> >> can do.
> >> You can cook, bake, clean, vacuum, dust, walk, run, play baseball, shoot 
> >> hoops.
> >> Then ask them what is it exactly  that you can't do.  I always say I can 
> >> drive,
> >>> but not safely on a city street. V
> >>>
> >>> -----Original Message-----
> >> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On 
> >> Behalf
> >>> Of kate02 at bellsouth.net
> >>> Sent: Wednesday, July 15, 2009 5:31 AM
> >>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> >>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Help
> >>>
> >>>
> >>> Hi Jennifer.
> >>>
> >> This sounds familiar, our oldest is six and we started having issues 
> >> after she
> >>> started attending school.
> >>>
> >> I think this has a lot to do with the way the public view vision loss. 
> >> And when
> >>> your kids are in school your not there to correct misinformation.
> >>>
> >> This may sound cold, but when our Daughter makes a comment about how her 
> >> dad and
> >>> I can’t do something because we’re blind we give her a time out and tell 
> >>> her
> >>> otherwise.  Its not only school but family that can unknowingly send 
> >>> negative
> >>> messages about the blind.  This is just a slippery slope, and I don’t 
> >>> think
> >>> there is one answer, but I’m hoping this is just a tactic for six year 
> >>> olds to
> >>> push the envelope and will pass.
> >>>
> >>> Hope this helps, sari I don’t have more.
> >>>
> >>> Kate
> >>>
> >>> -------------- Original message ----------------------
> >>> From: "Jennifer Massey" <renandstimpy3 at comcast.net>
> >>> >
> >>> My boyfriend has no vision but my children do. He watches them 2 or 3 
> >>> days a
> >>> week sometimes for more then 8 hours a day.  My daughter who will be 6 
> >>> soon told
> >>> him today that she does the things that she does that are bad because he 
> >>> can't
> >>> see her do them.  This hurt him very much.  We are not sure what to do 
> >>> at this
> >>> point and any advice would be helpful.  I have tried spending extra time 
> >>> with
> >>> her when I can and giving her some positive attention.  This week we 
> >>> have
> >>> swimming which we always do together not only has a family but we each 
> >>> take some
> >>> individual time with both of the kids, we also are taking both the kids 
> >>> to a
> >>> carnival on friday and we are all going to the zoo on saturday.  We 
> >>> really try
> >>> to spend as much time as we can with them in the positive and not sure 
> >>> why my
> >>> daughter is lashing out so much towards him in general.  When I am at 
> >>> home she
> >>> doesn't do this and when she is with her dad and his wife she doesn't do 
> >>> it
> >>> > either.  Just with him.
> >>> >
> >>> > Jennifer and Dustin
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