[blparent] Summer- right around the corner

Jo Elizabeth Pinto jopinto at pcdesk.net
Tue May 19 17:40:56 UTC 2009 

I know there are good care centers available.  First of all, I've done the 
math.  If I put Sarah in someone else's care, I'd be spending most of what I 
make from my job to pay for the sitter or the center.  It doesn't make sense 
to me, especially since my income is a large part of what keeps the 
household going.  Secondly, Sarah is probably the only child I will ever 
have, and I didn't think I would get the chance in my life to have a child 
at all.  As hard as it is sometimes, I love every day with her, and I don't 
want her to spend the majority of her waking hours with someone else while I 
miss out on the stages and changes which, I'm learning, go by fast and then 
are gone forever.  That's a personal choice.  My little girl is my first 
priority, I do my job because I need to keep a roof over our heads and food 
on the table.  That means things get hectic, I work feverishly while she 
naps and put in a lot of late hours after she goes to bed.  Usually that's 
enough, but the workload is heavy now, and I'm thinking that getting some 
morning help a few days a week for the summer will be enough.  In the fall, 
well, we'll see what happens when we get there.

Jo Elizabeth

"Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed 
until it is faced."--James Baldwin
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M (IS)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at ngc.com>
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Tuesday, May 19, 2009 6:32 AM
Subject: Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner


> If I can ask, why don't you want to put her in daycare?
> To me, daycare is one of the best things going.
> They have lots of staff at least the good ones do, they have a lot of
> activities, and you get to do work without needing to plan and/or carry
> out activities.
> To me, I'd gladly pay for daycare and view it as a great trade-off for
> the ability to work without stressing over both a child and a job.
> You certainly want to do your homework, but good daycares are indeed out
> there.
> I'd be happy to talk more with you off-list.
> And, if I can ask, where is Papa Bear in all this? I say this only
> because assumming you aren't a single parent, your emotional health and
> the child's emotional health as well as physical safety should be his
> concern.
> My husband says that trying to work and take care of a child at the same
> time, is akin to being drunk and taking care of a child because you
> can't put your focus on either task well. I think he's right.
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
> On Behalf Of Jo Elizabeth Pinto
> Sent: Tuesday, May 19, 2009 12:27 AM
> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner
>
> I checked into MOPS, but it's pretty pricey because you pay for the
> child care.  I might look into it further, but at this point I think
> I'll spend the money on having a teenager come into my home two or three
> mornings a week, if I can find one over the summer.  That way I'll be
> here if the need comes up, but I can work and someone else can entertain
> Sarah a little.
> It's getting too hard to manage working and looking after her, now that
> she's getting older and wanting a lot more interaction.  But I don't
> want to put her in day care, so at least short term, a hired big bro or
> sis playmate might just be the answer for me.
>
> Jo Elizabeth
>
> "Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed
> until it is faced."--James Baldwin
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Barbara Hammel" <poetlori8 at msn.com>
> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Monday, May 18, 2009 9:26 PM
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner
>
>
>>I enjoy being on the other end of MOPS.  I get my baby fix every two
>>weeks during the school year.  I figure I'd rather earn money by
>>watching the kids than pay to go where I can't relate.  Since you all
>>have typically developing children, it would probably be lots of fun
>>for you.  The topics have run from serious to very frivolous like
>>getting pedicures.  It sounds like the moms have lots of fun.
>> Barbara
>>
>> If wisdom's ways you wisely seek, five things observe with care:  of
>> whom you speak, to whom you speak, and how and when and where.
>>
>> --------------------------------------------------
>> From: "Leanne Merren" <leemer02 at gmail.com>
>> Sent: Monday, May 18, 2009 7:22 PM
>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner
>>
>>> I always enjoyed mops, because everybody shares good things, as well
>>> as challenges, and it doesn't seem like as much of a competition as
>>> in other groups.  Also, the child goes to their own class while mom
>>> is in her meeting having some mom time, so you aren't chasing your
>>> child while the other moms watch and scrutinize your every move.  Not
>
>>> that this bothers me a lot, but it can lead to awkward moments when
>>> they try to take care of your child for you or act like you can't
>>> tell what your child is doing. You get to just sit and chat about
>>> being a mom, so they start to realize that you have your own way of
>>> doing things.  My group started asking how I handle certain
>>> situations, such as injuries and emergency situations, and I enjoyed
>>> the opportunity to educate them.  Much better than feeling like I had
>
>>> to put on a show for them as they watched my every move.
>>> My kids love the program too because it's like school for them before
>
>>> they actually start school.
>>> Leanne
>>> "Faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do
>>> not see."
>>> Hebrews 11:1
>>> ----- Original Message -----
>>> From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M (IS)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at ngc.com>
>>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>> Sent: Monday, May 18, 2009 2:58 PM
>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner
>>>
>>>
>>>> She is and she isn't.
>>>> Mom groups often have the sole purpose of trying to out-mom the
>>>> other moms.
>>>> The classes at least have a focus, moms groups, the focus is on
>>>> being a mom, and it can get kind of caddy.
>>>> Jo Elizabeth, you may find a group with a different purpose more
>>>> enjoyable. V does have some excellent suggestions.
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org
>>>> [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>>>> On Behalf Of Veronica Smith
>>>> Sent: Sunday, May 17, 2009 5:50 PM
>>>> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner
>>>>
>>>> When Gab was small I didn't even know that those kind of groups
> existed.
>>>> You are lucky.  Hope you have fun. V
>>>>
>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org
>>>> [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>>>> On Behalf Of Allie
>>>> Sent: Saturday, May 16, 2009 2:19 AM
>>>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner
>>>>
>>>> Wow, that is one lucky girl. Hope she has a lot of fun.
>>>>
>>>> I don't really have anything planned this summer, other than getting
>
>>>> involved with the Mom's Club in my area. Hopefully that'll keep us
>>>> going out enough that I don't go crazy cooped up in this apartment
> all summer.
>>>>
>>>> -- Allie
>>>>
>>>> A smile costs nothing but gives much.  It enriches those who receive
>
>>>> without making poorer those who give.  It takes but a moment, but
>>>> the memory of it sometimes lasts forever.
>>>> None is so rich or
>>>> mighty that he cannot get along without it and none is so poor that
>>>> he cannot be made rich by it.
>>>> Yet a smile cannot be bought, begged, borrowed, or stolen, for it is
>
>>>> something that is of no value to anyone until it is given away.
>>>> Some people are too tired to give you a smile.  Give them one of
>>>> yours, as none needs a smile so much as he who has no more to give.
>>>> -- Author Unknown
>>>> ----- Original Message -----
>>>> From: "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net>
>>>> To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>>> Sent: Friday, May 15, 2009 10:43 AM
>>>> Subject: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> So do you all have any exciting plans for the summer.
>>>> I signed Gab up for a few things. 1.  Camp Invention- they learn how
>
>>>> to make space rockets and how to keep the environment clean.  Last
>>>> year she came home with a robot held together with duct tape.  But
> it was cute.
>>>> 2. Day camp with the YMCA.  Each day they will do something
>>>> different, swim, tumble, field trip, soccer, basketball and reading,
> math, science.
>>>> 3. Vacation bible school
>>>> 4. Cooking camp:  they learn to make a cake and how to decorate it.
>>>> And every Monday evening piano lessons V
>>>>
>>>>
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