[blparent] [Bulk] Re: Summer- right around the corner

Fri May 22 22:45:37 UTC 2009

Hello Rebecca,
I'm right along with you on this one. When the time does come, I'm not 
pregnant yet, my husband and I absolutely have no other choice, but to have 
our child go to daycare. We live in Connecticut, and the cost of living 
etc., is so expensive, that we have no other choice, but to both work, we 
could never survive with one of us knot working. We have good friends where 
we work, they have 2 little boys, and they are also in daycare. I also agree 
with what you said about the first time you do get to experience your 
child's different moments, it may not be her exact first time, but it is the 
first time with you or your husband. We also do not have any other family 
members that can help us, to provide daycare that live near us, so we'll 
take your advice, do some very good homework, and find a suitable daycare 
for us.
Thanks for your input.
Amy----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M (IS)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at ngc.com>
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Wednesday, May 20, 2009 11:29 AM
Subject: Re: [blparent] [Bulk] Re: Summer- right around the corner

> Hi guys.
> Thank you for writing back.
> For those of you who work from home and don't have childcare, how do you
> do it?
> 1. You're on the phone and your kid starts screaming or just wants you
> to play, both of which I determine to be a need. What do you do?
> 2. You're reviewing a document or writing a document, have good momentum
> going, what do you do?
> 3. How do you keep yourself from getting frustrated when you've counted
> on your kid taking a nap and you have a deadline and your kid doesn't
> nap?
> 4. How do you rationalize quantity over quality? For example, I'm not
> with my kid during most of her waking hours. That's fine with me. I do
> have some great hours in the evenings and on weekends. I like and need
> the split between work and home.
> I think of the "firsts" as the first time I see it. It may not be "the
> first", but it's the first for/with me so that's what matters.
> And, I have made peace with the fact that my daughter will have many
> experiences without me. It's not so much a daycare thing, but an
> interest thing. If she wants to go ride a motor cycle, she'll do that
> with someone other then me, because we don't havea motor cycle.
> I'm curious to know if working from home without childcare is dependent
> on parent's personality, the type of work you do, or some other factor.
> Anybody care to answer this one?
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
> On Behalf Of Tammy, Paul and Colyn
> Sent: Tuesday, May 19, 2009 6:47 PM
> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] [Bulk] Re: Summer- right around the corner
>
> Hi,
>
> Besides that, you won't have to pay as much if you higher a teenager to
> babysit for you, and you won't have to worry about if she's being well
> taken care of since you'll be right there and able to make sure things
> run smoothly.  I would do the same thing if I were in your place.  The
> whole reason I work out of my home is because I would really regret
> missing a first step or a first word or first whatever.
>
> Tammy
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at pcdesk.net>
> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Tuesday, May 19, 2009 1:40 PM
> Subject: [Bulk] Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner
>
>
>>I know there are good care centers available.  First of all, I've done
> the
>>math.  If I put Sarah in someone else's care, I'd be spending most of
> what
>>I make from my job to pay for the sitter or the center.  It doesn't
> make
>>sense to me, especially since my income is a large part of what keeps
> the
>>household going.  Secondly, Sarah is probably the only child I will
> ever
>>have, and I didn't think I would get the chance in my life to have a
> child
>>at all.  As hard as it is sometimes, I love every day with her, and I
> don't
>>want her to spend the majority of her waking hours with someone else
> while
>>I miss out on the stages and changes which, I'm learning, go by fast
> and
>>then are gone forever.  That's a personal choice.  My little girl is my
>
>>first priority, I do my job because I need to keep a roof over our
> heads
>>and food on the table.  That means things get hectic, I work feverishly
>
>>while she naps and put in a lot of late hours after she goes to bed.
>>Usually that's enough, but the workload is heavy now, and I'm thinking
> that
>>getting some morning help a few days a week for the summer will be
> enough.
>>In the fall, well, we'll see what happens when we get there.
>>
>> Jo Elizabeth
>>
>> "Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be
> changed
>> until it is faced."--James Baldwin
>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>> From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M (IS)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at ngc.com>
>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> Sent: Tuesday, May 19, 2009 6:32 AM
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner
>>
>>
>>> If I can ask, why don't you want to put her in daycare?
>>> To me, daycare is one of the best things going.
>>> They have lots of staff at least the good ones do, they have a lot of
>>> activities, and you get to do work without needing to plan and/or
> carry
>>> out activities.
>>> To me, I'd gladly pay for daycare and view it as a great trade-off
> for
>>> the ability to work without stressing over both a child and a job.
>>> You certainly want to do your homework, but good daycares are indeed
> out
>>> there.
>>> I'd be happy to talk more with you off-list.
>>> And, if I can ask, where is Papa Bear in all this? I say this only
>>> because assumming you aren't a single parent, your emotional health
> and
>>> the child's emotional health as well as physical safety should be his
>>> concern.
>>> My husband says that trying to work and take care of a child at the
> same
>>> time, is akin to being drunk and taking care of a child because you
>>> can't put your focus on either task well. I think he's right.
>>>
>>>
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org
> [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>>> On Behalf Of Jo Elizabeth Pinto
>>> Sent: Tuesday, May 19, 2009 12:27 AM
>>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner
>>>
>>> I checked into MOPS, but it's pretty pricey because you pay for the
>>> child care.  I might look into it further, but at this point I think
>>> I'll spend the money on having a teenager come into my home two or
> three
>>> mornings a week, if I can find one over the summer.  That way I'll be
>>> here if the need comes up, but I can work and someone else can
> entertain
>>> Sarah a little.
>>> It's getting too hard to manage working and looking after her, now
> that
>>> she's getting older and wanting a lot more interaction.  But I don't
>>> want to put her in day care, so at least short term, a hired big bro
> or
>>> sis playmate might just be the answer for me.
>>>
>>> Jo Elizabeth
>>>
>>> "Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be
> changed
>>> until it is faced."--James Baldwin
>>> ----- Original Message -----
>>> From: "Barbara Hammel" <poetlori8 at msn.com>
>>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>> Sent: Monday, May 18, 2009 9:26 PM
>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner
>>>
>>>
>>>>I enjoy being on the other end of MOPS.  I get my baby fix every two
>>>>weeks during the school year.  I figure I'd rather earn money by
>>>>watching the kids than pay to go where I can't relate.  Since you all
>>>>have typically developing children, it would probably be lots of fun
>>>>for you.  The topics have run from serious to very frivolous like
>>>>getting pedicures.  It sounds like the moms have lots of fun.
>>>> Barbara
>>>>
>>>> If wisdom's ways you wisely seek, five things observe with care:  of
>>>> whom you speak, to whom you speak, and how and when and where.
>>>>
>>>> --------------------------------------------------
>>>> From: "Leanne Merren" <leemer02 at gmail.com>
>>>> Sent: Monday, May 18, 2009 7:22 PM
>>>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner
>>>>
>>>>> I always enjoyed mops, because everybody shares good things, as
> well
>>>>> as challenges, and it doesn't seem like as much of a competition as
>>>>> in other groups.  Also, the child goes to their own class while mom
>>>>> is in her meeting having some mom time, so you aren't chasing your
>>>>> child while the other moms watch and scrutinize your every move.
> Not
>>>
>>>>> that this bothers me a lot, but it can lead to awkward moments when
>>>>> they try to take care of your child for you or act like you can't
>>>>> tell what your child is doing. You get to just sit and chat about
>>>>> being a mom, so they start to realize that you have your own way of
>>>>> doing things.  My group started asking how I handle certain
>>>>> situations, such as injuries and emergency situations, and I
> enjoyed
>>>>> the opportunity to educate them.  Much better than feeling like I
> had
>>>
>>>>> to put on a show for them as they watched my every move.
>>>>> My kids love the program too because it's like school for them
> before
>>>
>>>>> they actually start school.
>>>>> Leanne
>>>>> "Faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do
>>>>> not see."
>>>>> Hebrews 11:1
>>>>> ----- Original Message -----
>>>>> From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M (IS)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at ngc.com>
>>>>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>>>> Sent: Monday, May 18, 2009 2:58 PM
>>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>>> She is and she isn't.
>>>>>> Mom groups often have the sole purpose of trying to out-mom the
>>>>>> other moms.
>>>>>> The classes at least have a focus, moms groups, the focus is on
>>>>>> being a mom, and it can get kind of caddy.
>>>>>> Jo Elizabeth, you may find a group with a different purpose more
>>>>>> enjoyable. V does have some excellent suggestions.
>>>>>>
>>>>>>
>>>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org
>>>>>> [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>>>>>> On Behalf Of Veronica Smith
>>>>>> Sent: Sunday, May 17, 2009 5:50 PM
>>>>>> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
>>>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner
>>>>>>
>>>>>> When Gab was small I didn't even know that those kind of groups
>>> existed.
>>>>>> You are lucky.  Hope you have fun. V
>>>>>>
>>>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org
>>>>>> [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>>>>>> On Behalf Of Allie
>>>>>> Sent: Saturday, May 16, 2009 2:19 AM
>>>>>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>>>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Wow, that is one lucky girl. Hope she has a lot of fun.
>>>>>>
>>>>>> I don't really have anything planned this summer, other than
> getting
>>>
>>>>>> involved with the Mom's Club in my area. Hopefully that'll keep us
>>>>>> going out enough that I don't go crazy cooped up in this apartment
>>> all summer.
>>>>>>
>>>>>> -- Allie
>>>>>>
>>>>>> A smile costs nothing but gives much.  It enriches those who
> receive
>>>
>>>>>> without making poorer those who give.  It takes but a moment, but
>>>>>> the memory of it sometimes lasts forever.
>>>>>> None is so rich or
>>>>>> mighty that he cannot get along without it and none is so poor
> that
>>>>>> he cannot be made rich by it.
>>>>>> Yet a smile cannot be bought, begged, borrowed, or stolen, for it
> is
>>>
>>>>>> something that is of no value to anyone until it is given away.
>>>>>> Some people are too tired to give you a smile.  Give them one of
>>>>>> yours, as none needs a smile so much as he who has no more to
> give.
>>>>>> -- Author Unknown
>>>>>> ----- Original Message -----
>>>>>> From: "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net>
>>>>>> To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>>>>> Sent: Friday, May 15, 2009 10:43 AM
>>>>>> Subject: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner
>>>>>>
>>>>>>
>>>>>> So do you all have any exciting plans for the summer.
>>>>>> I signed Gab up for a few things. 1.  Camp Invention- they learn
> how
>>>
>>>>>> to make space rockets and how to keep the environment clean.  Last
>>>>>> year she came home with a robot held together with duct tape.  But
>>> it was cute.
>>>>>> 2. Day camp with the YMCA.  Each day they will do something
>>>>>> different, swim, tumble, field trip, soccer, basketball and
> reading,
>>> math, science.
>>>>>> 3. Vacation bible school
>>>>>> 4. Cooking camp:  they learn to make a cake and how to decorate
> it.
>>>>>> And every Monday evening piano lessons V
>>>>>>
>>>>>>
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