[blparent] Changing a Troubling Habit

[E. Tarr]

As with teaching any other behavior, I would say that earlier is 
better--when the child is at the age where he is able to understand 
commands.
Ellen Elizabeth

----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M (IS)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at ngc.com>
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Sent: Friday, November 20, 2009 12:35 PM
Subject: Re: [blparent] Changing a Troubling Habit


> What age is this technique best started with?
>
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> Sent: Thursday, November 19, 2009 11:36 PM
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>
>    I don't think that you are over reacting at all when it comes to
> asking
> that your husband and other sighted people  who may watch your daughter
> to
> be consistent with the no chasing rule.  I myself would also not
> appreciate
> such comments made by sighted people.  My husband and I have encountered
> a
> similar challenge because we did not consistently enforce rules with our
>
> son.  For example, when I take our son out alone, I always require him
> to
> hold my hand at all times.  However, when he has gone out with my
> husband
> who is sighted and me together, he has been less compliant because he
> was
> used to having more freedom as my husband can see him from a distance.
> Fortunately, we are making progress concerning this because of his age
> and
> because we have tried to commit to enforcing these techniques that work
> well
> for blind parents.  It has been more difficult because we started
> implementing them later than the age that is most effective and because
> of
> our differing styles of supervision.
>    If all caregivers practice the same techniques with sarah at this
> young
> age, I believe that it will benefit everyone, and it will be  easier for
> her
> to obey you and respect what you say and do.  I hope that this made
> sense.
> sometimes the thoughts in my head don't translate well into writing.
> Ellen Elizabeth
>
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at pcdesk.net>
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> Sent: Thursday, November 19, 2009 3:56 PM
> Subject: [blparent] Changing a Troubling Habit
>
>
>> I've been coming up against a situation that is troubling me a little,
> and
>> I'm looking for some feedback.  I guess I need to know whether I'm
>> overreacting, and there's nothing to be worried about, or if there is
>> something to be concerned about and what I ought to do.
>>
>> Sarah is almost 21 months old now, and I stay at home with her.  She
> holds
>> my hand when we leave the house, and I've also got one of those animal
>
>> backpack harnesses for her.  But around the house, she's taken to
> running
>> away from me when it's time for me to change her diaper or put her to
> bed
>> and she isn't interested in doing those things.  I know that's normal
>> toddler behavior, so I don't take it personally.  But I also know
> there's
>> no way I can chase her and catch up with her, so I don't want to set
> that
>> up as a pattern.  I just stay in one place and call her, keeping the
> mood
>> light, and she usually comes to me soon enough.  No big deal.
>>
>> The problem is, her dad and some sighted friends have chased her and
>> scooped her up, and a couple of times I've heard them say stuff like,
>> "Well, I can see, so I don't have to wait for you to come to me," or
> "It's
>> hard to get away from someone who can see you, isn't it?"
>>
>> My worry is, will this start establishing the idea in Sarah's mind
> that
>> Mom can't see, so she can't keep up, or she can't do what needs doing?
> I
>> don't think anybody has meant to be harmful or thoughtless, but
> wouldn't
>> it be better to have everybody following the no chasing rule?  If so,
> is
>> there a practical, realistic way to break the chasing habit in other
>> caregivers, or at least stop the comments?
>>
>> Thanks for thinking about this with me.
>>
>>
>> Jo Elizabeth
>>
>> Until lions have their historians, tales of the hunt shall always
> glorify
>> the hunters.--African Proverb
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