[blparent] Michael update

Mon Dec 6 00:32:18 UTC 2010

Exactly.

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From: "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net>
Sent: Sunday, December 05, 2010 5:08 PM
To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Subject: Re: [blparent] Michael update

> Jo elizabeth, as far as I'm concerned, everything we do with our children
> can be fun, even diaper changing.  I always sang songs and played games
> while we changed clothes, diapers and gave baths.  Babies like that and 
> what
> is better in your life than a happy baby.
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Jo Elizabeth Pinto
> Sent: Saturday, December 04, 2010 9:54 PM
> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Michael update
>
> Just to keep things clear, I don't ask Sarah if she would like to be
> changed, or let her hang out in her own filth till she gets tired of it.
> When she needs to be changed, it's time to be changed.  But I've found 
> that
> once she's on the changing pad, the sooner I can get her mind off the fact
> that she's stuck in a place she doesn't want to be, the better the
> experience is for both of us.  So if I give her an old toothbrush to hold,
> or start in with another rousing round of "The Ants Go Marching One by 
> One,"
>
> then we aren't having a power struggle.  I'm still in charge of what needs
> to happen, and we both know it, but at the same time, we're having a
> positive interaction, and that makes the next diaper change more likely to
> be less of a battle of wills.  It works for me, I'm not saying it's the 
> only
>
> way to do things or that it will work for everyone.  The best thing about 
> a
> discussion forum is that a lot of different perspectives are offered, and
> you can take what suits you and leave the rest.
>
> Jo Elizabeth
>
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> From: "Dena Wainwright" <dena at envogueaccess.com>
> Sent: Saturday, December 04, 2010 9:32 PM
> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Michael update
>
>> If you are at home, I am a huge fan of the feeding in nothing but a 
>> diaper
>
>> method. It cuts down on laundry a lot. If in public, large plastic bibs
>> (they even have disposable ones) are a great option.
>>
>> Regarding the changing issue: It will depend on your child, but this is
>> something that has the potential to get a whole lot worse before it gets
>> better. You really may find that, unless you strap him down to your
>> changing table, the only option is to change him on the floor. If you do
>> choose to do floor changes, having a change pad on the floor to reinforce
>> the idea of "this is where we get changed" can help.
>>
>> I agree that keeping things as positive as possible is a good idea.
>> However, he needs to be changed, and this is just one of those things
>> where he's going to have to learn that there are no other choices. I give
>> Elise options when I can: "Which book would you like to read?" "Which
>> stuffed animal would you like to take to bed?" But there are times when
>> there is only one option available to her - mine. I'm not going to ask
>> her: "Would you like to be changed, or just hang out in your own filth 
>> for
>
>> another half hour?" I'm not going to sing "Old MacDonald" while I'm
>> changing a poopy diaper and she's trying to flip herself completely off
>> the change pad.
>>
>> You don't need to freak out, but you may need to firmly say: "I know that
>> it sucks to be changed. You have better things to do with your time than
>> lay here. But your diaper is dirty, and the sooner I get it changed, the
>> sooner you can go back to whatever it is you want to do." He may not get
>> all of that right now, but he'll get the idea that you're hearing that
>> he's unhappy, but that he still needs to operate within your boundaries.
>>
>> With the sitting unassisted issue: Elise was a very late sitter. She did
>> not reliably sit until she was about 9 months old. A toy that really
>> helped a lot was the Castle Marbleworks toy from Discovery Toys. It has 3
>> balls with bells in them that can be dropped down a series of schutes. As
>> the balls move through the maze of schutes, they ring. They come out a
>> door at the bottom of the maze. I would drop the balls down the schute,
>> while Elise sat in front of it. If she continued to sit, I would let the
>> ball drop all the way down the maze to the door. If she flopped over, I
>> would stop the ball part way down. So she learned the toy only worked 
>> when
>
>> she was sitting. It was an external motivator for her, which I found she
>> really needed, because she wasn't especially excited to sit up on her 
>> own.
>
>> If she tipped over while playing, she'd just play with the toy laying
>> down.
>>
>> Hope some of this helps.
>>
>> Dena
>>
>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>> From: "Leslie Hamric" <lhamric930 at comcast.net>
>> To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> Sent: Saturday, December 04, 2010 6:42 PM
>> Subject: [blparent] Michael update
>>
>>
>>> Hi all.  I just wanted to give a quick update on Michael.  He's now
>>> standing
>>> with support and he can stand when holding onto something.  He likes to
>>> babble a lot.  We're still working on him sitting without support but
>>> he's
>>> getting better.  Today was the first time I saw him sit by himself and
>>> reach
>>> for a toy without toppling over.  I got this play yard for him, it's
>>> these
>>> gates that are put together in a circle so he has an area to play and
>>> roll
>>> around and I don't have to be behind him every second.  He also has a
>>> little
>>> piano which he loves to play.  One concern I have is that Michael is at
>>> that
>>> age where he's very wiggly when getting changed.  He also likes to roll
>>> over
>>> on his tummy and I have to keep putting him back on his back.  If I hold
>>> him
>>> in place, he starts to fuss or cry. Has anyone dealt with this issue
>>> before?
>>> Any suggestions would be appreciated.  As for the feeding, it's going
>>> great.
>>> Besides using an infant feeder, I finally figured out a way to feed
>>> Michael
>>> with the spoon that works well for both of us.  The only tough part now
>>> is
>>> making a mess on his clothes.  I use bibs but it's still tough to keep
>>> the
>>> mess down sometimes.  Well, that's about it.  Take care.
>>>
>>> Leslie
>>>
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