[blparent] Hand holding

[Elizabeth Cooks]

I have to get a set of bells for Joshua pretty soon.  I just got a backpack 
leash for him today...Actually, it was a birthday presentfor me from 
Kasondra and Shawn.  I like it much better than the harness ones I used to 
get
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net>
To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Thursday, March 18, 2010 12:15 PM
Subject: Re: [blparent] Hand holding


> My daughter is 10 and the hand holding rule is still in effect when in a
> busy place like a mall or in a parking lot. V
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Karla Hudson
> Sent: Wednesday, March 17, 2010 11:22 AM
> To: blparent at nfbnet.org
> Subject: [blparent] Hand holding
>
> Hi,
>
> I believe the leashes have their place. I also believe bells on the shoes
> work in every situation. Even when my kids are sitting in a play group. 
> One
> small move with their feet and the bells usually give a little tinkle 
> sound.
> Even if others are watching your kids the bells give you an opportunity to
> locate your child in a big group. However, we have strict hand holding 
> rules
> at our house. I have been with sighted friends who have small children and
> they often marvel at my kids ability to hold hands. If you start this rule
> at a young age the kids will comply. My baby sitters also notice how well
> behaved my kids are in parking lots and busy places with holding hands. My
> daughter is seven and still feels most secure if she is holding either 
> mine
> or my husbands hands. Certainly grocery carts are great for locking kids 
> in
> while they are young. I have to tell you I am truly annoyed when I see 
> small
> children running ahead of parents at busy venues such as when we were 
> coming
> out of the circus the other day. I have had parents say to me, "well my
> son/daughter just won't hold my hand." I think to myself, well make he/she
> hold your hand. You are the parent so make the rules and make them stick.
> When my kids were little and they would try to twist away from my grasp I
> would just clamp down on their hand indicating that they must hold my 
> hand.
> I have a child alarm with the fanny pack for the child. It is sitting in a
> box and never used. So this is all something to think about when working
> with your child in public places. As far as church goes we attend a 
> Catholic
> church, pretty large and my kids know out of respect to others around them
> to keep themselves seated. The rules were set when they were little and we
> are consistent about our expectations.
>
> Karla
>
>
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