[blparent] Hand holding

[Elizabeth Cooks]

I do that with angelica, too.  It probably drives her nuts, but at least I 
know she's safe.
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From: "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net>
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Sent: Friday, March 19, 2010 9:34 PM
Subject: Re: [blparent] Hand holding


Another idea is to sit very close to where she is playing and tell her to
come to you each time you call her name.  This way you can know where she is
even if she thinks you are calling her too many times.  Like call her name
every 7 minutes or less.  Tell her it is important for her to listen to you
and to let you know where and what she is doing.  I still have this rule
when we go to the park and gab is playing in the playground.  I usually sit
on the park bench and ever so often I yell out her name and she has to
reply, "I am here mommy."  Most of the time now her friends hear me before
she does and they run and tell her I am calling out her nane. v

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From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Colleen Kozubowski
Sent: Thursday, March 18, 2010 8:49 AM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] Hand holding

I absolutely agree with you about the hand holding. My daughter knows that
holding hands is simply the rule in many situations and she tends not to
fight it. And I am a fan of the bells on the shoes or the squeaky shoes as
well. My issue is those protecting her in those times when I want her to
have a bit more freedom - like playing with kids outside on the block -
while still keeping her safe.

Colleen




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From: Karla Hudson <HudsonKC at msu.edu>
To: blparent at nfbnet.org
Sent: Wed, March 17, 2010 12:21:59 PM
Subject: [blparent] Hand holding

Hi,

I believe the leashes have their place. I also believe bells on the shoes
work in every situation. Even when my kids are sitting in a play group. One
small move with their feet and the bells usually give a little tinkle sound.
Even if others are watching your kids the bells give you an opportunity to
locate your child in a big group. However, we have strict hand holding rules
at our house. I have been with sighted friends who have small children and
they often marvel at my kids ability to hold hands. If you start this rule
at a young age the kids will comply. My baby sitters also notice how well
behaved my kids are in parking lots and busy places with holding hands. My
daughter is seven and still feels most secure if she is holding either mine
or my husbands hands. Certainly grocery carts are great for locking kids in
while they are young. I have to tell you I am truly annoyed when I see small
children running ahead of parents at busy venues such as when we were coming
out of the circus the other day. I have had parents say to me, "well my
son/daughter just won't hold my hand." I think to myself, well make he/she
hold your hand. You are the parent so make the rules and make them stick.
When my kids were little and they would try to twist away from my grasp I
would just clamp down on their hand indicating that they must hold my hand.
I have a child alarm with the fanny pack for the child. It is sitting in a
box and never used. So this is all something to think about when working
with your child in public places. As far as church goes we attend a Catholic
church, pretty large and my kids know out of respect to others around them
to keep themselves seated. The rules were set when they were little and we
are consistent about our expectations.

Karla


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