[blparent] dealing with the public

[Tammy, Paul and Colyn]

Hi,

Yeah I love wearing my son when we're out.  It makes both of us feel more 
secure.  Once I had an issue though, where somebody came up and adjusted 
Colyn's hat when he was small and I not so politely asked them if they'd 
like it if somebody got in to their personal space and touched their baby 
inappropriately.  they stuttered and stammered and eventually said that 
they'd never really thought of that.  they appologized and I said that I 
appreciated the help but they can just tell me if they see a problem with my 
son next time.

Tammy
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Dena Wainwright" <dena at envogueaccess.com>
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Monday, May 24, 2010 6:54 PM
Subject: Re: [blparent] dealing with the public


> One thing that is a huge help for stuff like this is baby wearing. it's 
> hard for people to get near your baby if he's physically on your body.
> Dena
>
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Leslie Hamric" <lhamric930 at comcast.net>
> To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Monday, May 24, 2010 4:41 PM
> Subject: [blparent] dealing with the public
>
>
>> Hi group.  I wanted to tell you about a situation that happened 
>> yesterday.
>> My husband and I were at a church doing and he had left me alone with the
>> baby for a few minutes to go talk with some other people.  Michael 
>> started
>> getting all fussy and crying and I immediately bent down to his carseat 
>> and
>> started rocking it like I normaly do.  Well, besides having this one lady
>> ask me things like do you want me to hold him, I can try, I love babies, 
>> do
>> you need help rocking him, are you sure ou don't want me to hold him, 
>> etc.
>> etc. I had three or 4 other ladies crowd around him, getting in his face,
>> look for his pacifier which was right with my hand's reach,  and start
>> talking to him which made him cry more.  Funny they all left me alone 
>> when
>> my husband came back.  I know these women from choir and although they 
>> were
>> wel intentioned, I felt very uncomfortable.  They indirectly made me feel
>> like I wasn't doing my job. I kept saying, no thanks, I have it and it 
>> still
>> didn't do any good. I'm wondering how have you all dealt with similar
>> situations in the past?  My second question is, is there a such thing as
>> being nice but firm when trying to get well-intentioned folks to back 
>> off?
>> How else could I have handled it besides freezing up and feeling hurt?
>> Thanks for any input.
>>
>> Leslie
>>
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