[blparent] feeding issue

[Leslie Hamric]

Hi Barbara.  My husband feeds him once in the morning and I feed him twice.
When he just started out with solids, it so happened that I injured my arm,
My in-laws were coming to visit so they ended up doing most of the feeding.
I figured that would at least get him started, which it did, and things were
going well for a while.  Last weekend, I was out of town so my husband fed
him for the whole time.  It wasn't till I came back till the problems
started.  How do you deal with a jearking head?  Do you try to put the spoon
in anyways? Do you let him fight you? Or do you just stop feeding him when
he starts fussing?

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Barbara Hammel
Sent: Monday, October 18, 2010 2:01 PM
To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] feeding issue

Who does most of the feeding?
Having to touch them is more intrusive than just seeing the mouth.  One of 
our twins had to start way at the beginning of feeding when we got them.  He

did better eating for my sighted husband so I did all of the feedings.
Even though he's just a baby, this may be a battle of the wills.  He wants 
to be fed his way.
If this is the case, if there's some kind of foo that he really loves, you 
may want to alternate.  Example,  Jesse loved anything crunchy so he had to 
take a bite in order to get that crunchy reward.  It would make eating fun 
for him, especially if it wasn't something he got often.
We all know how frustrating it is to feed a moving head that just won't 
cooperate so stay calm.  If it is a battle of wills, don't let your husband 
take over if its not going well.  Michael will learn that he can get dad if 
he refuses to eat for you.
The old advice that wouldn't work for Jesse may apply here:  children will 
eat when they're hungry.
Without knowing the details of your schedules, this is the best I can do. 
It was a long haul for us--we had a three-year-old, set in his ways--so if I

dig back in my memory, I may be able to help more if you like.
Barbara

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Yesterday is
A path well-trod,
A familiar lane
Through sacred sod,
A road we travel
Too often, I fear,
For there are the good times
When things are hard here,
...

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From: "Leslie Hamric" <lhamric930 at comcast.net>
Sent: Monday, October 18, 2010 12:41 PM
To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Subject: [blparent] feeding issue

> Hi all.  I've run into a problem with feeding Michael and need some help.
> When my sighted husband feeds him, he'll take the spoon right in. When I
> feed him, he's gotten to the point where he absolutely refuses the spoon.
> He jerks his head away even when I use my left hand to find his mouth. 
> Part
> of me feels that he needs to just get over it and the other part doesn't
> want him to hate feedings if he's too frustrated.  Having a sighted person
> in here to feed him every time isn't the answer either. I've fed Michael
> from two positions, from the side and facing him. Any suggestions would be
> greatly appreciated.  Thanks.
>
> Leslie
>
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