[blparent] school teacher - not an issue

[Amanda Winkler]

Nikki,
In response to your dad pouring the glass of milk for you.  you might have 
said"Well I guess I'll have to clean up any mess I make and keep cleaning 
until I get it clean to your standards."  I am wondering have you ever taken 
Independent Living Skills at a learning center for the blind before?

Amanda

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From: "Nikki" <daizies304 at comcast.net>
Sent: Tuesday, August 23, 2011 2:59 PM
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Subject: Re: [blparent] school teacher - not an issue

>            Hi Debbie.
> I feel as though I shouldn't have to prove my capabilities to my parents.
> It is MY son, isn't it?
> I shouldn't feel like I'm being controlled just because I live in their
> house, you know?
>
> Rebecca.
> I have a laptop and my parents respect my privacy, so no worries there.
> If anything were to come up, you can be certain I'll make sure they hear
> about it.
> I am the youngest of 2. My older brother lives with his family.
> As far as friends, I have a couple, but not going to talk to them about my
> feelings.
>
> V, my son constantly reminds me and my parents that I'm the boss.
> So, if he wants something and asks my mom, she tells him, "go ask your 
> mom."
> I'm the one in charge.
>
> As far as my dad doing everything, I'm ashamed and embarrassed.
> I get frustrated when we're both in the kitchen, I get the milk and a 
> glass.
> In the midst of what he's doing, stops and takes these items from me and 
> pours the glass for me.
> Now, I'm able to do this myself and today, I told him, "what are you 
> doing?
> I can do this myself."
> IDK what exactly he said, but I think he said,"I know." I asked him, "then 
> why aren't you letting me do it myself?
> His response told me he has little or no confidence in me. He said, "I 
> just washed the counter. I don't want to clean it again."
> Do you know what that does to someone's self esteem?
>
> So, it's not so much me letting him do everything. His stress he has, is 
> brought on by himself.
> I may need to fix some things with myself, but God and I are working on 
> it.
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> -----Original Message----- 
> From: Deborah Kent Stein
> Sent: Tuesday, August 23, 2011 12:12 PM
> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] school teacher - not an issue
>
>
>
> Dear Nikki,
>
> Great news!  The more you take control, the more your folks are likely to
> see how capable you are.
>
> Debbie
>
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Nikki" <daizies304 at comcast.net>
> To: <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Tuesday, August 23, 2011 10:03 AM
> Subject: [blparent] school teacher - not an issue
>
>
>> Just an update...
>>
>>        Hi all.
>> I want to thank you all for the confidence boost.
>> My dad, son, and I went to meet the teacher yesterday.
>> I asked her if she could email me the handouts and I was very pleased to
>> find out that she would be happy to do it for me.
>> But my dad still requested the paper handouts for himself.
>> IDK why, but it was rather upsetting that he feels he has to be involved.
>>
>> Anyway, success!
>> Oh and I’m going to pick my son up from school, give my dad a break, lol.
>>
>> It’s confusing to me that my parents complain, mainly my dad, about 
>> having
>> to do everything, but when I take a stand, it back fires.
>> Meaning, it’s hard for him to accept me being independent.
>>
>> Nikki
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