[blparent] school teacher - not an issue

Wed Aug 24 19:14:30 UTC 2011

You've a point there.  Vacuuming is one of the jobs I never got as a child. 
I was the duster.  Parents eventually tried teaching me but it's just 
one--of the many--things that I'm no good at.
Better get to working on it, eh.
Now that Paul's not afraid of the vacuum I should try teaching him a 
skill--besides how to throw all the little fuzz balls he picks off the 
carpet and throws.
It's funny because he used to be terrified of the vacuum and I used to start 
it up when he'd throw food to get him to stop.  (He's always been old enough 
to know better since we've had him.)  The other week I went to get the 
vacuum to sweep the basement carpet and he decided it might be an 
interesting thing to check out.  We took the hose out of its place and 
played with the suction on his face and hands and tummy.  Now we have to 
stop him from wanting to help if he hears it running.
Barbara

Let every nation know whether it wishes us well or ill, that we shall pay 
any price, bear any burden, meet any hardship, support any friend, oppose 
any foe, in order to assure the survival and the success of liberty.--John 
F. Kennedy
-----Original Message----- 
From: Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC)
Sent: Wednesday, August 24, 2011 1:07 PM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] school teacher - not an issue

So don't ask. Husband's job is to say "Thank you, honey" or to do it 
himself.
Any other response is unacceptable and he knows it.

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On 
Behalf Of Barbara Hammel
Sent: Tuesday, August 23, 2011 11:44 PM
To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] school teacher - not an issue

The same feelings one gets when one asks their sighted spouse how the floor
looks after you ran the vacuum and the response is "It'll do."  What the
heck does that mean?
Needless to say, vacuuming doesn't get done near enough.
Barbara

Let every nation know whether it wishes us well or ill, that we shall pay
any price, bear any burden, meet any hardship, support any friend, oppose
any foe, in order to assure the survival and the success of liberty.--John
F. Kennedy
-----Original Message----- 
From: Nikki
Sent: Tuesday, August 23, 2011 4:59 PM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] school teacher - not an issue

            Hi Debbie.
I feel as though I shouldn't have to prove my capabilities to my parents.
It is MY son, isn't it?
I shouldn't feel like I'm being controlled just because I live in their
house, you know?

Rebecca.
I have a laptop and my parents respect my privacy, so no worries there.
If anything were to come up, you can be certain I'll make sure they hear
about it.
I am the youngest of 2. My older brother lives with his family.
As far as friends, I have a couple, but not going to talk to them about my
feelings.

V, my son constantly reminds me and my parents that I'm the boss.
So, if he wants something and asks my mom, she tells him, "go ask your mom."
I'm the one in charge.

As far as my dad doing everything, I'm ashamed and embarrassed.
I get frustrated when we're both in the kitchen, I get the milk and a glass.
In the midst of what he's doing, stops and takes these items from me and
pours the glass for me.
Now, I'm able to do this myself and today, I told him, "what are you doing?
I can do this myself."
IDK what exactly he said, but I think he said,"I know." I asked him, "then
why aren't you letting me do it myself?
His response told me he has little or no confidence in me. He said, "I  just
washed the counter. I don't want to clean it again."
Do you know what that does to someone's self esteem?

So, it's not so much me letting him do everything. His stress he has, is
brought on by himself.
I may need to fix some things with myself, but God and I are working on it.

-----Original Message----- 
From: Deborah Kent Stein
Sent: Tuesday, August 23, 2011 12:12 PM
To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] school teacher - not an issue

Dear Nikki,

Great news!  The more you take control, the more your folks are likely to
see how capable you are.

Debbie

----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Nikki" <daizies304 at comcast.net>
To: <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Tuesday, August 23, 2011 10:03 AM
Subject: [blparent] school teacher - not an issue

> Just an update...
>
>        Hi all.
> I want to thank you all for the confidence boost.
> My dad, son, and I went to meet the teacher yesterday.
> I asked her if she could email me the handouts and I was very pleased to
> find out that she would be happy to do it for me.
> But my dad still requested the paper handouts for himself.
> IDK why, but it was rather upsetting that he feels he has to be involved.
>
> Anyway, success!
> Oh and I’m going to pick my son up from school, give my dad a break, lol.
>
> It’s confusing to me that my parents complain, mainly my dad, about having
> to do everything, but when I take a stand, it back fires.
> Meaning, it’s hard for him to accept me being independent.
>
> Nikki
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