[blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights

Tammy tcl189 at rogers.com
Tue Jan 25 00:56:24 UTC 2011 

Hi,

I’m glad to hear she did so well, and go figure is right about the meat.  lol  I often hear things about my kids being with another person doing and eating things they won’t eat and do for me.  Colyn was with my brother for a day and when they brought him back they were commenting about Colyn’s manners.  He never says please and thank you at home, but I guess he did there.  

Tammy

From: Jo Elizabeth Pinto 
Sent: Monday, January 24, 2011 6:54 PM
To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List 
Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights

Well, we're back, and Sarah did great.  Apparently she asked where I was a 
few times, but that was the extent of it.  More than that, she slept in a 
big girl's bed and ate meat, which she never does at home.  Go figure.

Jo Elizabeth

"Some people see things as they are and ask why.  I dream things that never 
were and ask why not."--Robert F. Kennedy

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From: "Tammy" <tcl189 at rogers.com>
Sent: Thursday, January 20, 2011 1:22 PM
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights

> Hi,
>
> Oh I completely understand where you're coming from, I hate leaving my 
> kids for any length of time.  It always seems that they've change so much 
> when I see them again, even if it's only a couple of days since I've seen 
> them.
>
> Tammy
>
>
> From: Jo Elizabeth Pinto
> Sent: Wednesday, January 19, 2011 3:21 PM
> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
>
>
> Well, time is short, but I think I could do something simple with the five
> things for five days idea.  Maybe five of the little suckers she likes, 
> one
> for each day, and when she eats the last one, we'll be back that day.  I
> asked her what she wants to take along, and will be sending the big bear 
> she
> always sleeps with.  She's actually excited to the max because she's been 
> to
> the place where she's going before, and even spent the night there once.
> So, like people have said, this may be more my issue than hers.  She's
> fairly adaptable and outgoing--sometimes I wish I could say the same for
> myself.
>
> Jo Elizabeth
>
> "Some people see things as they are and ask why.  I dream things that 
> never
> were and ask why not."--Robert F. Kennedy
>
> --------------------------------------------------
> From: "Melissa Ann Riccobono" <melissa at riccobono.us>
> Sent: Wednesday, January 19, 2011 10:52 AM
> To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
>
>> This is great advice.  Reading stories in your own voice and recording
>> them
>> is a great idea.  Maybe if she likes to look at pictures you could give
>> her
>> a small album with pictures of you and her dad, and maybe even all of you
>> together so she has something to look at if she gets sad.  You could talk
>> to
>> your friends and see if they would be willing to have her draw a special
>> picture for you of what she has done each day you're gone, or do some
>> other
>> type of small project to give to you when you come back.  Also, as much 
>> as
>> possible, having her routines will be comforting.  If there's a special
>> object she sleeps with at night, or a special book, or number of books 
>> you
>> read, or favorite music she listens to either during the day or at night,
>> make sure the friends caring for her know about these things.  Perhaps 
>> you
>> could buy her something special before the trip.  When I had Oriana I
>> bought
>> Austin a Pillow Pet he had been wanting for a long time.  This is a
>> different situation, of course, but I told him the Pillow Pet was from 
>> his
>> new brother or sister and was his Big Brother present.  I actually gave 
>> it
>> to him a couple of weeks before Oriana was born, and he slept with it
>> every
>> night.  We really talked it up, and we told him he could bring the Pillow
>> Pet to our friends' house when I went to the hospital to have the baby. 
>> I
>> don't know if it was the Pillow Pet, or the preparation we did ahead of
>> time, or a combination of the two, but he had no problem going to our
>> friends' house and staying there for the nights I was in the hospital.
>> You
>> may want to try something similar--I don't know.
>> Preparation is also key.  I certainly wouldn't over do it, but
>> telling her that you and Daddy have to go on a trip, but that people will
>> be
>> caring for her, and that you will call her and be thinking about her 
>> would
>> help her at least to understand a bit about what is going to happen.  You
>> will probably be more upset than she is in the long run, but be prepared
>> for
>> tears when you leave and possibly some tearful phone conversations--that
>> is
>> if she'll talk to you at all on the phone.
>> One more thing I thought of...  It sounds as if she's all ready
>> familiar with the people who will be caring for her, but perhaps having
>> them
>> over ahead of time to play with her a bit so she is even more used to 
>> them
>> might help.  Austin went to Wisconsin this summer with my sister for a
>> week.
>> I was really worried about having him away from me for that long,
>> especially
>> since he doesn't see my sister very much.  She came a couple of days 
>> ahead
>> of time however, and when it came time for them to leave for the airport
>> together it was me who was crying after they left...  He was all ready to
>> go.  Believe me, I know this type of thing is hard, but I am sure she 
>> will
>> be fine, and you will make it through as well!  As always, she'll take 
>> her
>> cues from you, so the more upbeat you can be about it, while also
>> acknowledging the fact that she might feel sad and that you will feel sad
>> and miss her--but that it's going to be all right--the better off she'll
>> be.
>>
>> Hope some of this helps!
>> Melissa
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
>> Behalf Of Brandy W
>> Sent: Tuesday, January 18, 2011 6:32 PM
>> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
>>
>> One thing that tends to help is to read a book on CD or something that 
>> she
>> can hear when ever she misses other you. Otherwise bring some things she
>> loves at home, and know you will be more upset than her. Hope it works 
>> out
>> fine.
>>
>>
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>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
>> Behalf Of Jo Elizabeth Pinto
>> Sent: Tuesday, January 18, 2011 4:02 PM
>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>> Subject: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
>>
>> Hi.  Circumstances have come up that have given me no choice but to leave
>> Sarah with a family friend for about five days and five nights while her
>> dad
>> and I go out of town.  The sitters are completely trustworthy, so I'm not
>> worried about that at all, but I've never left her for nearly that long.
>> Two nights has been the max.  I'm wondering if there's anything I can do
>> to
>> make this easier on Sarah.  Have any of you had to do this, and what
>> helped?
>> Or maybe it's only me who's worrying too much, and she'll be unphased by
>> the
>> whole thing.  Thanks for anything you all can offer, this list really is 
>> a
>> helpful resource.
>>
>> Jo Elizabeth
>>
>> "Some people see things as they are and ask why.  I dream things that
>> never
>> were and ask why not."--Robert F. Kennedy
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