[blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights

Wed Jan 26 01:25:30 UTC 2011

Yep, it's all specks and crumbs around here.  *Smile.*

Jo Elizabeth

"Some people see things as they are and ask why.  I dream things that never 
were and ask why not."--Robert F. Kennedy

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From: "Tammy" <tcl189 at rogers.com>
Sent: Tuesday, January 25, 2011 5:30 PM
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights

> Hi,
>
> Oh she’s a nibbler is she!  lol  That explains that then.  My boys take 
> huge bites of everything, so they demolish burgers like that in record 
> time.
>
> Tammy
>
> From: Jo Elizabeth Pinto
> Sent: Tuesday, January 25, 2011 4:48 PM
> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
>
> Sure, she has teeth.  But if we waited till she took teeny tiny bites and
> finished a hamburger by herself that way last night, neither of us would
> have made it to work this morning.  So after a little while of the 
> nibbles,
> we started tearing off a more appropriately sized bite that she could chew
> and swallow, to speed the process along.  Hopefully that will be a
> short-lived habit.
>
> Jo Elizabeth
>
> "Some people see things as they are and ask why.  I dream things that 
> never
> were and ask why not."--Robert F. Kennedy
>
> --------------------------------------------------
> From: "Tammy" <tcl189 at rogers.com>
> Sent: Tuesday, January 25, 2011 2:34 PM
> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
>
>> Hi,
>>
>> Why did you tear it up in to bite sized pieces?  Doesn’t she have teeth?
>> Remus is 2, or he will be next month and does just fine with burgers and
>> sandwitches cut in half.  If the food is particularly messy I cut them
>> into quarters, but he manages with either very well.  It’s sad when all
>> that baby stuff goes away.  I remember when Colyn first started talking 
>> he
>> said cute things, like he called pizza passy, and pancakes mama cakes
>> because I always make my pancakes from scratch and they were a particular
>> favourite of his at the time.  But as he got older he stopped saying and
>> doing cute baby things, and now he’s all grown up, or at least, he thinks
>> he is, anyway.  Thank goodness I still have Remus to be a baby for a bit
>> longer.
>>
>> Tammy
>>
>> From: Jo Elizabeth Pinto
>> Sent: Tuesday, January 25, 2011 3:20 PM
>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
>>
>> Well, we thought we would strike while the iron was hot, so we went to
>> Burger King last night, and Sarah ate a kids' cheeseburger that we tore 
>> up
>> into bite-sized pieces.  Then she wanted to sleep in her big girl's bed,
>> which has been in her room for more than a year, and in which she had
>> showed
>> absolutely no interest till now.  I've got a little twinge because all
>> things baby seem to be passing away very quickly, but apparently this
>> little
>> adventure has helped her take a few growth steps that I hadn't expected.
>>
>> Jo Elizabeth
>>
>> "Some people see things as they are and ask why.  I dream things that
>> never
>> were and ask why not."--Robert F. Kennedy
>>
>> --------------------------------------------------
>> From: "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net>
>> Sent: Tuesday, January 25, 2011 1:10 PM
>> To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
>>
>>> She probably ate it because  when in rome, do as they do.
>>>
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] 
>>> On
>>> Behalf Of sharon howerton
>>> Sent: Monday, January 24, 2011 5:32 PM
>>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
>>>
>>> Jo Elizabeth, I'm glad things went well, but don't count on Sarah eating
>>> meat now that she's back home! Yes, go figure is right!
>>> Sharon
>>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>>> From: "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at pcdesk.net>
>>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>> Sent: Monday, January 24, 2011 5:54 PM
>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
>>>
>>>
>>>> Well, we're back, and Sarah did great.  Apparently she asked where I 
>>>> was
>>>> a
>>>
>>>> few times, but that was the extent of it.  More than that, she slept in
>>>> a
>>>> big girl's bed and ate meat, which she never does at home.  Go figure.
>>>>
>>>> Jo Elizabeth
>>>>
>>>> "Some people see things as they are and ask why.  I dream things that
>>>> never were and ask why not."--Robert F. Kennedy
>>>>
>>>> --------------------------------------------------
>>>> From: "Tammy" <tcl189 at rogers.com>
>>>> Sent: Thursday, January 20, 2011 1:22 PM
>>>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
>>>>
>>>>> Hi,
>>>>>
>>>>> Oh I completely understand where you're coming from, I hate leaving my
>>>>> kids for any length of time.  It always seems that they've change so
>>>>> much
>>>
>>>>> when I see them again, even if it's only a couple of days since I've
>>>>> seen
>>>
>>>>> them.
>>>>>
>>>>> Tammy
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>> From: Jo Elizabeth Pinto
>>>>> Sent: Wednesday, January 19, 2011 3:21 PM
>>>>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>> Well, time is short, but I think I could do something simple with the
>>>>> five
>>>>> things for five days idea.  Maybe five of the little suckers she 
>>>>> likes,
>>>>> one
>>>>> for each day, and when she eats the last one, we'll be back that day.
>>>>> I
>>>>> asked her what she wants to take along, and will be sending the big
>>>>> bear
>>>>> she
>>>>> always sleeps with.  She's actually excited to the max because she's
>>>>> been
>>>
>>>>> to
>>>>> the place where she's going before, and even spent the night there
>>>>> once.
>>>>> So, like people have said, this may be more my issue than hers.  She's
>>>>> fairly adaptable and outgoing--sometimes I wish I could say the same
>>>>> for
>>>>> myself.
>>>>>
>>>>> Jo Elizabeth
>>>>>
>>>>> "Some people see things as they are and ask why.  I dream things that
>>>>> never
>>>>> were and ask why not."--Robert F. Kennedy
>>>>>
>>>>> --------------------------------------------------
>>>>> From: "Melissa Ann Riccobono" <melissa at riccobono.us>
>>>>> Sent: Wednesday, January 19, 2011 10:52 AM
>>>>> To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
>>>>>
>>>>>> This is great advice.  Reading stories in your own voice and 
>>>>>> recording
>>>>>> them
>>>>>> is a great idea.  Maybe if she likes to look at pictures you could
>>>>>> give
>>>>>> her
>>>>>> a small album with pictures of you and her dad, and maybe even all of
>>>>>> you
>>>>>> together so she has something to look at if she gets sad.  You could
>>>>>> talk
>>>>>> to
>>>>>> your friends and see if they would be willing to have her draw a
>>>>>> special
>>>>>> picture for you of what she has done each day you're gone, or do some
>>>>>> other
>>>>>> type of small project to give to you when you come back.  Also, as
>>>>>> much
>>>>>> as
>>>>>> possible, having her routines will be comforting.  If there's a
>>>>>> special
>>>>>> object she sleeps with at night, or a special book, or number of 
>>>>>> books
>>>>>> you
>>>>>> read, or favorite music she listens to either during the day or at
>>>>>> night,
>>>>>> make sure the friends caring for her know about these things. 
>>>>>> Perhaps
>>>>>> you
>>>>>> could buy her something special before the trip.  When I had Oriana I
>>>>>> bought
>>>>>> Austin a Pillow Pet he had been wanting for a long time.  This is a
>>>>>> different situation, of course, but I told him the Pillow Pet was 
>>>>>> from
>>>>>> his
>>>>>> new brother or sister and was his Big Brother present.  I actually
>>>>>> gave
>>>>>> it
>>>>>> to him a couple of weeks before Oriana was born, and he slept with it
>>>>>> every
>>>>>> night.  We really talked it up, and we told him he could bring the
>>>>>> Pillow
>>>>>> Pet to our friends' house when I went to the hospital to have the
>>>>>> baby.
>>>>>> I
>>>>>> don't know if it was the Pillow Pet, or the preparation we did ahead
>>>>>> of
>>>>>> time, or a combination of the two, but he had no problem going to our
>>>>>> friends' house and staying there for the nights I was in the 
>>>>>> hospital.
>>>>>> You
>>>>>> may want to try something similar--I don't know.
>>>>>> Preparation is also key.  I certainly wouldn't over do it, but
>>>>>> telling her that you and Daddy have to go on a trip, but that people
>>>>>> will
>>>>>> be
>>>>>> caring for her, and that you will call her and be thinking about her
>>>>>> would
>>>>>> help her at least to understand a bit about what is going to happen.
>>>>>> You
>>>>>> will probably be more upset than she is in the long run, but be
>>>>>> prepared
>>>>>> for
>>>>>> tears when you leave and possibly some tearful phone
>>>>>> conversations--that
>>>>>> is
>>>>>> if she'll talk to you at all on the phone.
>>>>>> One more thing I thought of...  It sounds as if she's all ready
>>>>>> familiar with the people who will be caring for her, but perhaps
>>>>>> having
>>>>>> them
>>>>>> over ahead of time to play with her a bit so she is even more used to
>>>>>> them
>>>>>> might help.  Austin went to Wisconsin this summer with my sister for 
>>>>>> a
>>>>>> week.
>>>>>> I was really worried about having him away from me for that long,
>>>>>> especially
>>>>>> since he doesn't see my sister very much.  She came a couple of days
>>>>>> ahead
>>>>>> of time however, and when it came time for them to leave for the
>>>>>> airport
>>>>>> together it was me who was crying after they left...  He was all 
>>>>>> ready
>>>>>> to
>>>>>> go.  Believe me, I know this type of thing is hard, but I am sure she
>>>>>> will
>>>>>> be fine, and you will make it through as well!  As always, she'll 
>>>>>> take
>>>>>> her
>>>>>> cues from you, so the more upbeat you can be about it, while also
>>>>>> acknowledging the fact that she might feel sad and that you will feel
>>>>>> sad
>>>>>> and miss her--but that it's going to be all right--the better off
>>>>>> she'll
>>>>>> be.
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Hope some of this helps!
>>>>>> Melissa
>>>>>>
>>>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org 
>>>>>> [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>>>>>> On
>>>>>> Behalf Of Brandy W
>>>>>> Sent: Tuesday, January 18, 2011 6:32 PM
>>>>>> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
>>>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
>>>>>>
>>>>>> One thing that tends to help is to read a book on CD or something 
>>>>>> that
>>>>>> she
>>>>>> can hear when ever she misses other you. Otherwise bring some things
>>>>>> she
>>>>>> loves at home, and know you will be more upset than her. Hope it 
>>>>>> works
>>>>>> out
>>>>>> fine.
>>>>>>
>>>>>>
>>>>>> "Be aware of wonder. Live a balanced life - learn some and think some
>>>>>> and
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>>>>>> some."--Robert
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>>>>>>
>>>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org 
>>>>>> [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>>>>>> On
>>>>>> Behalf Of Jo Elizabeth Pinto
>>>>>> Sent: Tuesday, January 18, 2011 4:02 PM
>>>>>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>>>>>> Subject: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Hi.  Circumstances have come up that have given me no choice but to
>>>>>> leave
>>>>>> Sarah with a family friend for about five days and five nights while
>>>>>> her
>>>>>> dad
>>>>>> and I go out of town.  The sitters are completely trustworthy, so I'm
>>>>>> not
>>>>>> worried about that at all, but I've never left her for nearly that
>>>>>> long.
>>>>>> Two nights has been the max.  I'm wondering if there's anything I can
>>>>>> do
>>>>>> to
>>>>>> make this easier on Sarah.  Have any of you had to do this, and what
>>>>>> helped?
>>>>>> Or maybe it's only me who's worrying too much, and she'll be unphased
>>>>>> by
>>>>>> the
>>>>>> whole thing.  Thanks for anything you all can offer, this list really
>>>>>> is
>>>
>>>>>> a
>>>>>> helpful resource.
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Jo Elizabeth
>>>>>>
>>>>>> "Some people see things as they are and ask why.  I dream things that
>>>>>> never
>>>>>> were and ask why not."--Robert F. Kennedy
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