[blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights

Jo Elizabeth Pinto jopinto at pcdesk.net
Thu Jan 27 03:45:01 UTC 2011 

Chill out, for heaven's sake.  Take a deep breath, and don't let this turn 
into a big issue.

Jo Elizabeth

"Some people see things as they are and ask why.  I dream things that never 
were and ask why not."--Robert F. Kennedy

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From: "Gabe Vega" <theblindtech at gmail.com>
Sent: Wednesday, January 26, 2011 8:37 PM
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights

> some times I even wonder why Tammy isn't the owner of this list, she 
> regards herself as some sort of mommy goddess but damn she's annoying, she 
> is never possitive, always looks for the negative and its damn sure 
> agitating.
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> On Jan 26, 2011, at 9:21 PM, Robert Shelton wrote:
>
>> And what's the problem with this?  I'm glad Sarah is progressing.  We had 
>> one about that age who wouldn't eat liver, which he really needed, and 
>> Linda cut it up into little bitty pieces and put a drop of catchup on 
>> each bite.  He's 35 now and a manager for Whole Foods, so I don't think 
>> we stunted his development.  Some people just live to be critical, I 
>> guess.
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: Jo Elizabeth Pinto [mailto:jopinto at pcdesk.net]
>> Sent: Tuesday, January 25, 2011 3:49 PM
>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
>>
>> Sure, she has teeth.  But if we waited till she took teeny tiny bites and
>> finished a hamburger by herself that way last night, neither of us would
>> have made it to work this morning.  So after a little while of the 
>> nibbles,
>> we started tearing off a more appropriately sized bite that she could 
>> chew
>> and swallow, to speed the process along.  Hopefully that will be a
>> short-lived habit.
>>
>> Jo Elizabeth
>>
>> "Some people see things as they are and ask why.  I dream things that 
>> never
>> were and ask why not."--Robert F. Kennedy
>>
>> --------------------------------------------------
>> From: "Tammy" <tcl189 at rogers.com>
>> Sent: Tuesday, January 25, 2011 2:34 PM
>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
>>
>>> Hi,
>>>
>>> Why did you tear it up in to bite sized pieces?  Doesn’t she have teeth?
>>> Remus is 2, or he will be next month and does just fine with burgers and
>>> sandwitches cut in half.  If the food is particularly messy I cut them
>>> into quarters, but he manages with either very well.  It’s sad when all
>>> that baby stuff goes away.  I remember when Colyn first started talking 
>>> he
>>> said cute things, like he called pizza passy, and pancakes mama cakes
>>> because I always make my pancakes from scratch and they were a 
>>> particular
>>> favourite of his at the time.  But as he got older he stopped saying and
>>> doing cute baby things, and now he’s all grown up, or at least, he 
>>> thinks
>>> he is, anyway.  Thank goodness I still have Remus to be a baby for a bit
>>> longer.
>>>
>>> Tammy
>>>
>>> From: Jo Elizabeth Pinto
>>> Sent: Tuesday, January 25, 2011 3:20 PM
>>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
>>>
>>> Well, we thought we would strike while the iron was hot, so we went to
>>> Burger King last night, and Sarah ate a kids' cheeseburger that we tore 
>>> up
>>> into bite-sized pieces.  Then she wanted to sleep in her big girl's bed,
>>> which has been in her room for more than a year, and in which she had
>>> showed
>>> absolutely no interest till now.  I've got a little twinge because all
>>> things baby seem to be passing away very quickly, but apparently this
>>> little
>>> adventure has helped her take a few growth steps that I hadn't expected.
>>>
>>> Jo Elizabeth
>>>
>>> "Some people see things as they are and ask why.  I dream things that
>>> never
>>> were and ask why not."--Robert F. Kennedy
>>>
>>> --------------------------------------------------
>>> From: "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net>
>>> Sent: Tuesday, January 25, 2011 1:10 PM
>>> To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
>>>
>>>> She probably ate it because  when in rome, do as they do.
>>>>
>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] 
>>>> On
>>>> Behalf Of sharon howerton
>>>> Sent: Monday, January 24, 2011 5:32 PM
>>>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
>>>>
>>>> Jo Elizabeth, I'm glad things went well, but don't count on Sarah 
>>>> eating
>>>> meat now that she's back home! Yes, go figure is right!
>>>> Sharon
>>>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>>>> From: "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at pcdesk.net>
>>>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>>> Sent: Monday, January 24, 2011 5:54 PM
>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>> Well, we're back, and Sarah did great.  Apparently she asked where I 
>>>>> was
>>>>> a
>>>>
>>>>> few times, but that was the extent of it.  More than that, she slept 
>>>>> in
>>>>> a
>>>>> big girl's bed and ate meat, which she never does at home.  Go figure.
>>>>>
>>>>> Jo Elizabeth
>>>>>
>>>>> "Some people see things as they are and ask why.  I dream things that
>>>>> never were and ask why not."--Robert F. Kennedy
>>>>>
>>>>> --------------------------------------------------
>>>>> From: "Tammy" <tcl189 at rogers.com>
>>>>> Sent: Thursday, January 20, 2011 1:22 PM
>>>>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
>>>>>
>>>>>> Hi,
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Oh I completely understand where you're coming from, I hate leaving 
>>>>>> my
>>>>>> kids for any length of time.  It always seems that they've change so
>>>>>> much
>>>>
>>>>>> when I see them again, even if it's only a couple of days since I've
>>>>>> seen
>>>>
>>>>>> them.
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Tammy
>>>>>>
>>>>>>
>>>>>> From: Jo Elizabeth Pinto
>>>>>> Sent: Wednesday, January 19, 2011 3:21 PM
>>>>>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>>>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
>>>>>>
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Well, time is short, but I think I could do something simple with the
>>>>>> five
>>>>>> things for five days idea.  Maybe five of the little suckers she 
>>>>>> likes,
>>>>>> one
>>>>>> for each day, and when she eats the last one, we'll be back that day.
>>>>>> I
>>>>>> asked her what she wants to take along, and will be sending the big
>>>>>> bear
>>>>>> she
>>>>>> always sleeps with.  She's actually excited to the max because she's
>>>>>> been
>>>>
>>>>>> to
>>>>>> the place where she's going before, and even spent the night there
>>>>>> once.
>>>>>> So, like people have said, this may be more my issue than hers. 
>>>>>> She's
>>>>>> fairly adaptable and outgoing--sometimes I wish I could say the same
>>>>>> for
>>>>>> myself.
>>>>>>
>>>>>> Jo Elizabeth
>>>>>>
>>>>>> "Some people see things as they are and ask why.  I dream things that
>>>>>> never
>>>>>> were and ask why not."--Robert F. Kennedy
>>>>>>
>>>>>> --------------------------------------------------
>>>>>> From: "Melissa Ann Riccobono" <melissa at riccobono.us>
>>>>>> Sent: Wednesday, January 19, 2011 10:52 AM
>>>>>> To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
>>>>>>
>>>>>>> This is great advice.  Reading stories in your own voice and 
>>>>>>> recording
>>>>>>> them
>>>>>>> is a great idea.  Maybe if she likes to look at pictures you could
>>>>>>> give
>>>>>>> her
>>>>>>> a small album with pictures of you and her dad, and maybe even all 
>>>>>>> of
>>>>>>> you
>>>>>>> together so she has something to look at if she gets sad.  You could
>>>>>>> talk
>>>>>>> to
>>>>>>> your friends and see if they would be willing to have her draw a
>>>>>>> special
>>>>>>> picture for you of what she has done each day you're gone, or do 
>>>>>>> some
>>>>>>> other
>>>>>>> type of small project to give to you when you come back.  Also, as
>>>>>>> much
>>>>>>> as
>>>>>>> possible, having her routines will be comforting.  If there's a
>>>>>>> special
>>>>>>> object she sleeps with at night, or a special book, or number of 
>>>>>>> books
>>>>>>> you
>>>>>>> read, or favorite music she listens to either during the day or at
>>>>>>> night,
>>>>>>> make sure the friends caring for her know about these things. 
>>>>>>> Perhaps
>>>>>>> you
>>>>>>> could buy her something special before the trip.  When I had Oriana 
>>>>>>> I
>>>>>>> bought
>>>>>>> Austin a Pillow Pet he had been wanting for a long time.  This is a
>>>>>>> different situation, of course, but I told him the Pillow Pet was 
>>>>>>> from
>>>>>>> his
>>>>>>> new brother or sister and was his Big Brother present.  I actually
>>>>>>> gave
>>>>>>> it
>>>>>>> to him a couple of weeks before Oriana was born, and he slept with 
>>>>>>> it
>>>>>>> every
>>>>>>> night.  We really talked it up, and we told him he could bring the
>>>>>>> Pillow
>>>>>>> Pet to our friends' house when I went to the hospital to have the
>>>>>>> baby.
>>>>>>> I
>>>>>>> don't know if it was the Pillow Pet, or the preparation we did ahead
>>>>>>> of
>>>>>>> time, or a combination of the two, but he had no problem going to 
>>>>>>> our
>>>>>>> friends' house and staying there for the nights I was in the 
>>>>>>> hospital.
>>>>>>> You
>>>>>>> may want to try something similar--I don't know.
>>>>>>> Preparation is also key.  I certainly wouldn't over do it, but
>>>>>>> telling her that you and Daddy have to go on a trip, but that people
>>>>>>> will
>>>>>>> be
>>>>>>> caring for her, and that you will call her and be thinking about her
>>>>>>> would
>>>>>>> help her at least to understand a bit about what is going to happen.
>>>>>>> You
>>>>>>> will probably be more upset than she is in the long run, but be
>>>>>>> prepared
>>>>>>> for
>>>>>>> tears when you leave and possibly some tearful phone
>>>>>>> conversations--that
>>>>>>> is
>>>>>>> if she'll talk to you at all on the phone.
>>>>>>> One more thing I thought of...  It sounds as if she's all ready
>>>>>>> familiar with the people who will be caring for her, but perhaps
>>>>>>> having
>>>>>>> them
>>>>>>> over ahead of time to play with her a bit so she is even more used 
>>>>>>> to
>>>>>>> them
>>>>>>> might help.  Austin went to Wisconsin this summer with my sister for 
>>>>>>> a
>>>>>>> week.
>>>>>>> I was really worried about having him away from me for that long,
>>>>>>> especially
>>>>>>> since he doesn't see my sister very much.  She came a couple of days
>>>>>>> ahead
>>>>>>> of time however, and when it came time for them to leave for the
>>>>>>> airport
>>>>>>> together it was me who was crying after they left...  He was all 
>>>>>>> ready
>>>>>>> to
>>>>>>> go.  Believe me, I know this type of thing is hard, but I am sure 
>>>>>>> she
>>>>>>> will
>>>>>>> be fine, and you will make it through as well!  As always, she'll 
>>>>>>> take
>>>>>>> her
>>>>>>> cues from you, so the more upbeat you can be about it, while also
>>>>>>> acknowledging the fact that she might feel sad and that you will 
>>>>>>> feel
>>>>>>> sad
>>>>>>> and miss her--but that it's going to be all right--the better off
>>>>>>> she'll
>>>>>>> be.
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> Hope some of this helps!
>>>>>>> Melissa
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>>>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org 
>>>>>>> [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>>>>>>> On
>>>>>>> Behalf Of Brandy W
>>>>>>> Sent: Tuesday, January 18, 2011 6:32 PM
>>>>>>> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
>>>>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> One thing that tends to help is to read a book on CD or something 
>>>>>>> that
>>>>>>> she
>>>>>>> can hear when ever she misses other you. Otherwise bring some things
>>>>>>> she
>>>>>>> loves at home, and know you will be more upset than her. Hope it 
>>>>>>> works
>>>>>>> out
>>>>>>> fine.
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>
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>>>>>>> some
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>>>>>>> Fulghum
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>>>>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>>>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org 
>>>>>>> [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>>>>>>> On
>>>>>>> Behalf Of Jo Elizabeth Pinto
>>>>>>> Sent: Tuesday, January 18, 2011 4:02 PM
>>>>>>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>>>>>>> Subject: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> Hi.  Circumstances have come up that have given me no choice but to
>>>>>>> leave
>>>>>>> Sarah with a family friend for about five days and five nights while
>>>>>>> her
>>>>>>> dad
>>>>>>> and I go out of town.  The sitters are completely trustworthy, so 
>>>>>>> I'm
>>>>>>> not
>>>>>>> worried about that at all, but I've never left her for nearly that
>>>>>>> long.
>>>>>>> Two nights has been the max.  I'm wondering if there's anything I 
>>>>>>> can
>>>>>>> do
>>>>>>> to
>>>>>>> make this easier on Sarah.  Have any of you had to do this, and what
>>>>>>> helped?
>>>>>>> Or maybe it's only me who's worrying too much, and she'll be 
>>>>>>> unphased
>>>>>>> by
>>>>>>> the
>>>>>>> whole thing.  Thanks for anything you all can offer, this list 
>>>>>>> really
>>>>>>> is
>>>>
>>>>>>> a
>>>>>>> helpful resource.
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> Jo Elizabeth
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> "Some people see things as they are and ask why.  I dream things 
>>>>>>> that
>>>>>>> never
>>>>>>> were and ask why not."--Robert F. Kennedy
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