[blparent] babies and big brothers was Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
Tammy
tcl189 at rogers.com
Fri Jan 28 18:36:04 UTC 2011
Hi,
lol lol, My husband and people around me have had to suffer through a bit of storminess this pregnancy, but my husband says I’m easy to live with. I think he’s just being nice. grin On a baby note, Colyn is not very happy with me right now. He really wants a sister, in fact so much so that when we told him we were having another baby he immediately started calling it a she, and coming up with names for her, and they were pretty strange names too. But I had to tell him that we weren’t sure the baby was a girl, and he didn’t talk to me for the rest of the night. He’s very interested in the baby, he talks to it, and when I came back from my doctor yesterday I told him that I was going on Tuesday to see the baby via ultrasound. Well he begged to come with me, so I told him he could if he wanted to. Hopefully he or she will cooperate and we can stop calling the baby an it. And hopefully if it’s a boy Colyn will get over it and be okay by the birth. I did tell him that if it was a boy it was daddy’s fault. lol
Tammy
From: Veronica Smith
Sent: Thursday, January 27, 2011 11:32 PM
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Oh, yeah, do blame that baby. This is the only time you can do that and it not be called child abuse. JK, Smile! Please do smile as I was just teasing you! v
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From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Tammy
Sent: Thursday, January 27, 2011 8:25 PM
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Hi,
No, Rebecca was talking to Ken on the baby gate subject. I was answering Robbert’s message about the ridiculous hamburger mess, that was simply a question, and wasn’t meant to offend anybody although it appears it did for some reason. I appologize if I came across a little um, I have no idea what word to even use here, but we all have our moments. Can I blame pregnancy? lol
Tammy
From: Veronica Smith
Sent: Thursday, January 27, 2011 4:37 PM
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I don't think Rebecca was talking to you. v
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Sent: Thursday, January 27, 2011 10:36 AM
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Hi,
I never said there was a problem with it, I was just curious as to why it needed to be done. Jo Elizabeth answered my question, so why is there a problem?
Tammy
From: Robert Shelton
Sent: Wednesday, January 26, 2011 10:21 PM
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And what's the problem with this? I'm glad Sarah is progressing. We had one about that age who wouldn't eat liver, which he really needed, and Linda cut it up into little bitty pieces and put a drop of catchup on each bite. He's 35 now and a manager for Whole Foods, so I don't think we stunted his development. Some people just live to be critical, I guess.
-----Original Message-----
From: Jo Elizabeth Pinto [mailto:jopinto at pcdesk.net]
Sent: Tuesday, January 25, 2011 3:49 PM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
Sure, she has teeth. But if we waited till she took teeny tiny bites and
finished a hamburger by herself that way last night, neither of us would
have made it to work this morning. So after a little while of the nibbles,
we started tearing off a more appropriately sized bite that she could chew
and swallow, to speed the process along. Hopefully that will be a
short-lived habit.
Jo Elizabeth
"Some people see things as they are and ask why. I dream things that never
were and ask why not."--Robert F. Kennedy
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From: "Tammy" <tcl189 at rogers.com>
Sent: Tuesday, January 25, 2011 2:34 PM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
> Hi,
>
> Why did you tear it up in to bite sized pieces? Doesn’t she have teeth?
> Remus is 2, or he will be next month and does just fine with burgers and
> sandwitches cut in half. If the food is particularly messy I cut them
> into quarters, but he manages with either very well. It’s sad when all
> that baby stuff goes away. I remember when Colyn first started talking he
> said cute things, like he called pizza passy, and pancakes mama cakes
> because I always make my pancakes from scratch and they were a particular
> favourite of his at the time. But as he got older he stopped saying and
> doing cute baby things, and now he’s all grown up, or at least, he thinks
> he is, anyway. Thank goodness I still have Remus to be a baby for a bit
> longer.
>
> Tammy
>
> From: Jo Elizabeth Pinto
> Sent: Tuesday, January 25, 2011 3:20 PM
> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
>
> Well, we thought we would strike while the iron was hot, so we went to
> Burger King last night, and Sarah ate a kids' cheeseburger that we tore up
> into bite-sized pieces. Then she wanted to sleep in her big girl's bed,
> which has been in her room for more than a year, and in which she had
> showed
> absolutely no interest till now. I've got a little twinge because all
> things baby seem to be passing away very quickly, but apparently this
> little
> adventure has helped her take a few growth steps that I hadn't expected.
>
> Jo Elizabeth
>
> "Some people see things as they are and ask why. I dream things that
> never
> were and ask why not."--Robert F. Kennedy
>
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> From: "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net>
> Sent: Tuesday, January 25, 2011 1:10 PM
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> Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
>
>> She probably ate it because when in rome, do as they do.
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
>> Behalf Of sharon howerton
>> Sent: Monday, January 24, 2011 5:32 PM
>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
>>
>> Jo Elizabeth, I'm glad things went well, but don't count on Sarah eating
>> meat now that she's back home! Yes, go figure is right!
>> Sharon
>> ----- Original Message -----
>> From: "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at pcdesk.net>
>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> Sent: Monday, January 24, 2011 5:54 PM
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
>>
>>
>>> Well, we're back, and Sarah did great. Apparently she asked where I was
>>> a
>>
>>> few times, but that was the extent of it. More than that, she slept in
>>> a
>>> big girl's bed and ate meat, which she never does at home. Go figure.
>>>
>>> Jo Elizabeth
>>>
>>> "Some people see things as they are and ask why. I dream things that
>>> never were and ask why not."--Robert F. Kennedy
>>>
>>> --------------------------------------------------
>>> From: "Tammy" <tcl189 at rogers.com>
>>> Sent: Thursday, January 20, 2011 1:22 PM
>>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
>>>
>>>> Hi,
>>>>
>>>> Oh I completely understand where you're coming from, I hate leaving my
>>>> kids for any length of time. It always seems that they've change so
>>>> much
>>
>>>> when I see them again, even if it's only a couple of days since I've
>>>> seen
>>
>>>> them.
>>>>
>>>> Tammy
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> From: Jo Elizabeth Pinto
>>>> Sent: Wednesday, January 19, 2011 3:21 PM
>>>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> Well, time is short, but I think I could do something simple with the
>>>> five
>>>> things for five days idea. Maybe five of the little suckers she likes,
>>>> one
>>>> for each day, and when she eats the last one, we'll be back that day.
>>>> I
>>>> asked her what she wants to take along, and will be sending the big
>>>> bear
>>>> she
>>>> always sleeps with. She's actually excited to the max because she's
>>>> been
>>
>>>> to
>>>> the place where she's going before, and even spent the night there
>>>> once.
>>>> So, like people have said, this may be more my issue than hers. She's
>>>> fairly adaptable and outgoing--sometimes I wish I could say the same
>>>> for
>>>> myself.
>>>>
>>>> Jo Elizabeth
>>>>
>>>> "Some people see things as they are and ask why. I dream things that
>>>> never
>>>> were and ask why not."--Robert F. Kennedy
>>>>
>>>> --------------------------------------------------
>>>> From: "Melissa Ann Riccobono" <melissa at riccobono.us>
>>>> Sent: Wednesday, January 19, 2011 10:52 AM
>>>> To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
>>>>
>>>>> This is great advice. Reading stories in your own voice and recording
>>>>> them
>>>>> is a great idea. Maybe if she likes to look at pictures you could
>>>>> give
>>>>> her
>>>>> a small album with pictures of you and her dad, and maybe even all of
>>>>> you
>>>>> together so she has something to look at if she gets sad. You could
>>>>> talk
>>>>> to
>>>>> your friends and see if they would be willing to have her draw a
>>>>> special
>>>>> picture for you of what she has done each day you're gone, or do some
>>>>> other
>>>>> type of small project to give to you when you come back. Also, as
>>>>> much
>>>>> as
>>>>> possible, having her routines will be comforting. If there's a
>>>>> special
>>>>> object she sleeps with at night, or a special book, or number of books
>>>>> you
>>>>> read, or favorite music she listens to either during the day or at
>>>>> night,
>>>>> make sure the friends caring for her know about these things. Perhaps
>>>>> you
>>>>> could buy her something special before the trip. When I had Oriana I
>>>>> bought
>>>>> Austin a Pillow Pet he had been wanting for a long time. This is a
>>>>> different situation, of course, but I told him the Pillow Pet was from
>>>>> his
>>>>> new brother or sister and was his Big Brother present. I actually
>>>>> gave
>>>>> it
>>>>> to him a couple of weeks before Oriana was born, and he slept with it
>>>>> every
>>>>> night. We really talked it up, and we told him he could bring the
>>>>> Pillow
>>>>> Pet to our friends' house when I went to the hospital to have the
>>>>> baby.
>>>>> I
>>>>> don't know if it was the Pillow Pet, or the preparation we did ahead
>>>>> of
>>>>> time, or a combination of the two, but he had no problem going to our
>>>>> friends' house and staying there for the nights I was in the hospital.
>>>>> You
>>>>> may want to try something similar--I don't know.
>>>>> Preparation is also key. I certainly wouldn't over do it, but
>>>>> telling her that you and Daddy have to go on a trip, but that people
>>>>> will
>>>>> be
>>>>> caring for her, and that you will call her and be thinking about her
>>>>> would
>>>>> help her at least to understand a bit about what is going to happen.
>>>>> You
>>>>> will probably be more upset than she is in the long run, but be
>>>>> prepared
>>>>> for
>>>>> tears when you leave and possibly some tearful phone
>>>>> conversations--that
>>>>> is
>>>>> if she'll talk to you at all on the phone.
>>>>> One more thing I thought of... It sounds as if she's all ready
>>>>> familiar with the people who will be caring for her, but perhaps
>>>>> having
>>>>> them
>>>>> over ahead of time to play with her a bit so she is even more used to
>>>>> them
>>>>> might help. Austin went to Wisconsin this summer with my sister for a
>>>>> week.
>>>>> I was really worried about having him away from me for that long,
>>>>> especially
>>>>> since he doesn't see my sister very much. She came a couple of days
>>>>> ahead
>>>>> of time however, and when it came time for them to leave for the
>>>>> airport
>>>>> together it was me who was crying after they left... He was all ready
>>>>> to
>>>>> go. Believe me, I know this type of thing is hard, but I am sure she
>>>>> will
>>>>> be fine, and you will make it through as well! As always, she'll take
>>>>> her
>>>>> cues from you, so the more upbeat you can be about it, while also
>>>>> acknowledging the fact that she might feel sad and that you will feel
>>>>> sad
>>>>> and miss her--but that it's going to be all right--the better off
>>>>> she'll
>>>>> be.
>>>>>
>>>>> Hope some of this helps!
>>>>> Melissa
>>>>>
>>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>>>>> On
>>>>> Behalf Of Brandy W
>>>>> Sent: Tuesday, January 18, 2011 6:32 PM
>>>>> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
>>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
>>>>>
>>>>> One thing that tends to help is to read a book on CD or something that
>>>>> she
>>>>> can hear when ever she misses other you. Otherwise bring some things
>>>>> she
>>>>> loves at home, and know you will be more upset than her. Hope it works
>>>>> out
>>>>> fine.
>>>>>
>>>>>
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>>>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>>>>> On
>>>>> Behalf Of Jo Elizabeth Pinto
>>>>> Sent: Tuesday, January 18, 2011 4:02 PM
>>>>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>>>>> Subject: [blparent] Leaving a Toddler for Several Nights
>>>>>
>>>>> Hi. Circumstances have come up that have given me no choice but to
>>>>> leave
>>>>> Sarah with a family friend for about five days and five nights while
>>>>> her
>>>>> dad
>>>>> and I go out of town. The sitters are completely trustworthy, so I'm
>>>>> not
>>>>> worried about that at all, but I've never left her for nearly that
>>>>> long.
>>>>> Two nights has been the max. I'm wondering if there's anything I can
>>>>> do
>>>>> to
>>>>> make this easier on Sarah. Have any of you had to do this, and what
>>>>> helped?
>>>>> Or maybe it's only me who's worrying too much, and she'll be unphased
>>>>> by
>>>>> the
>>>>> whole thing. Thanks for anything you all can offer, this list really
>>>>> is
>>
>>>>> a
>>>>> helpful resource.
>>>>>
>>>>> Jo Elizabeth
>>>>>
>>>>> "Some people see things as they are and ask why. I dream things that
>>>>> never
>>>>> were and ask why not."--Robert F. Kennedy
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