[blparent] troubled parent

[Tammy]

Hi, 

Have you tried time outs?  My son is 6 and they work well for us.  Your son sounds like mine, that is to say that what you describe sounds very typical of children of that age group.  Also, you say you’re divorced, and I don’t mean to get too personal, but does your son’s behaviour esculate around visits from or to his father’?  If so, this might be a trigger, and you may want to talk to your son about how he feels about being with his dad, verses being with you.  Don’t make it stressful for him, but just talk to him about his favourite things at both places, and whatever you do, don’t say anything negative about his father, even though that’s very hard at times.  He may be confused about why he has to go back and forth, or even why you’re living with your parents.  You never know what little kids are thinking and talking to them can open doors for the two of you that will allow for bonding, and a closer relationship.  I don’t know if any of this will help, but I’m divorced from my son’s father, and he has a step-father now, but it’s been a bumpy road for him.  This may not be the case for you, but talking and timeouts might just help smooth the bumps a little. 

hth

Tammy

From: Nikki 
Sent: Wednesday, March 23, 2011 11:26 PM
To: blparent at nfbnet.org 
Subject: [blparent] troubled parent

        Nikki here and very distressed. Divorced mother of a 5 year old boy. Live with parents, ugh! 

I need behavioral modifacations other than spanking. He doesn’t listen well, follow directions, stay focused, and talks when he’s not supposed to. 

Wanting to stay away from spanking for punishment. Anyone have any advice for me? 
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