[blparent] Fw: Where have all the manners gone? (question for Blind Parent list)

[Veronica Smith]

Jo elizabeth, the rest of the world is just rude.  This stuff still happens
to me especially at the school.  Everyone seems to run in pakcs and the one
that is different is left out.  Just today while at gab's last day of 5th
grade, al these mom's were talking to one another and when I joined in, the
replys were short and to the point and when the kids moved to another
station, they seemed to walk away, never asking if I needed help getting
through the maze of water bottles and cones.  I can do it, but it would have
been nice to be asked anyway.
It also happens to me at girl scout's, where you'd think they should have
more manners.  I just ignore them and do my own thing as I know they won't
even acknolegeme.  
As for the snacks and stuff, just bring something for Sara and to heck with
their snacks.  But don't take her from her friends, maybe they will get used
to the idea of a blind mom hanging around.  Maybe next time they bring out
refreshments, you should say, I should of brought one for myself.  Myabe
then, they will get the hint that you are a real person. V

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Subject: [blparent] Fw: Where have all the manners gone? (question for Blind
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Jo Elizabeth asked me to post this as she's having problems with her email
account.

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Hi.  I've had an interesting question come up as my daughter has gotten old
enough that we can walk around the neighborhood and play with the other
kids.  There are a couple of families who live in the complex, one with a
child a few months older than Sarah, and one with a child a few months
younger, as well as some older girls.  Sarah likes to play with the kids,
who are often outside.  We've gone up there a couple of times, and I've sat
on the sidewalk with the other moms, occasionally enforcing the rules about
Sarah having to share and so on, but otherwise leaving her to play.

The first thing I noticed is that the other moms pretty much talk to each
other and don't include me in the conversation.  I'm somewhat of an
introvert, and also used to this, so I didn't do a whole lot about it at
first.  I just threw in a comment here or there, and they would answer
politely and then go on talking among themselves.  That bothered me a
little, but I let it roll off because Sarah had been enjoying the company of
the other kids.  Then, when I was there a few weeks ago, the moms and their
husbands were sitting around, and somebody brought out beers--for everybody
except me.  I'm not much of a drinker, so I didn't care, though I would have
loved a glass of water.  But it struck me as odd that I wasn't offered
anything.

So then the final straw was this morning.  The girls were out playing with
Barbie things on the sidewalk, so Sarah asked nicely if she could join them.
She did a great job of sharing all morning, I was proud of her.  Then the
girls went into their houses to get snacks.  They brought out chips and
wouldn't give any to Sarah, even though she asked politely.  She cried, and
one of the moms called out the window to see what she was crying for.  So I
said we had to go home and have lunch, and of course, Sarah was upset and
didn't want to leave.

So what's the deal?  I'm really appalled.  I wouldn't even consider giving
my kid or myself drinks or snacks when others were over without offering
them any.  And if Sarah had something to eat, I would insist that she would
share.  So am I hopelessly old-fashioned, or is there a real problem with
the rest of the world?  And what should I do?  Should I keep Sarah away from
the little girls, even though she enjoys playing with them?  Should I take
the lack of interaction from the moms as a sign that we aren't really wanted
there?  Or should I just chalk it up to them being nervous about my
blindness and keep on appearing over there till they get relaxed?  Should I
bring drinks and snacks for myself and Sarah, or bring them for everybody?
I'm just really troubled and at a loss.

Jo Elizabeth

"The only thing we have to fear is fear itself--nameless, unreasoning,
unjustified terror which paralyzes needed efforts to convert retreat into
advance."--Franklin D. Roosevelt
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