[blparent] Beware those sharp little eyes!

Wed Nov 9 20:36:17 UTC 2011

I don't believe in telling my child an untruth no matter what age they are
because I never want Dawson to distrust me.  If he ever catches me doing
something that I think I'm getting away with because of his age or
awareness, then I'll calming tell him what I'm doing and acknowledge his
alertness to the subject.

Erin

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From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC)
Sent: Wednesday, November 09, 2011 1:26 PM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] Beware those sharp little eyes!

Some of this might be, Aron, that your son is still a young toddler. It's
amazing what you can pull over on them given their short memories and
inability to understand language.
We had a phase where our daughter didn't want to get in the car. We got
around this by saying "If you get in the car, we'll go see Grandma".
This worked until she was about three, she understood "car and Grandma" and
that got her excited enough to get ready and strapped in. Then she'd forget
about what we told her.
Then when she was about three, I used the "We're going to grandma's" line
and she looked at me and said very calmly "No we're not"

I think it's very easy to say what we'd do in a given situation, a situation
we are not actually faced with. Then you add the people and the feelings and
the logestics, mix them together and find that you behave very differently.

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Barbara Hammel
Sent: Wednesday, November 09, 2011 2:52 PM
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My parents never did that to me--of course, they had plenty of time without
me since I attended the residential school.
I have blind kids who are also autistic and I'd never dream of buying their
gifts with them present.
Barbara

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-----Original Message-----
From: Erin Rumer
Sent: Wednesday, November 09, 2011 12:07 PM
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My parents got my gifts with me there at the store as well and I've got to
say I don't blame them.  It's enough work to try and shop and organize
holiday details so why not cut corners where you can.  Heck, I'd do it if my
kid was blind! SMILING  My mom would even have me wrap some of my gifts if
they were in unidentifiable boxes which killed me and made me laugh all at
the same time.  With Dawson I'm going to take a trick from my mother-in-law
and wrap the gifts inside other things that are totally different shapes
from the actual gifts.  For example, taking a old blanket that's not being
used and wrapping something smaller inside of that or hiding a gift inside a
big ball of newspaper.  It doesn't have to be pretty, just has to do the
trick.

Erin

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Lisamaria Martinez
Sent: Wednesday, November 09, 2011 10:30 AM
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You know, my parents wrapped my gifts in front of me too. In fact, they'd
shop for them in front of me. I thought it was rude and totally unfair to do
that just because I couldn't see.

LM

On 11/9/11, Jo Elizabeth Pinto <jopinto at msn.com> wrote:
> Hi.  For any of you moms who have little ones starting to run around
> and get into things, I thought I'd warn you about something I just
> learned the hard way.  *Smile.*  They'll see everything, especially
> what you don't want them to, and they'll remember.  They're smarter than
we give them credit for.
>
> I bought Sarah the Little People school bus because she's really into
> buses and planes and the like right now.  The package came from Amazon
> while she was at preschool about a month ago, and I threw the boxes in
> the recycling bin and hid the toy at the top of my closet, thinking I was
pretty slick.
> Well, she saw part of a picture on one box sticking out of the bin.
> She asked about it, and I glossed over it.  We moved on, and I thought
> she'd forgotten about the bus.
>
> So this morning, I went to get a shirt from the closet, and Sarah
> wandered in behind me.  All at once, she started jumping up and down,
> saying, "I see it!  Up there!  The bus toy really is here!  I want that
bus toy!"
>
> I guess I didn't hide it well enough.  She saw the box peeking out
> from under a blanket on a high shelf and remembered the picture from
> the recycling bin.  She had a bit of a meltdown because she knew the
> toy was there, but I wouldn't get it off the shelf for her.  I
> couldn't really explain why, either.  Now Santa Claus can't bring that
> toy to her, either, because it'll blow his cover.  I'll have to give
> it to her from Mom and Dad, or maybe from her brother Stephen.
> Anyway, my point is, when I was a kid, my family could (and did) wrap
> my presents right in front of me.  But obviously, blind parents of
> sighted kids have to be very careful about these things.
>
> Jo Elizabeth
>
> "How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young,
> compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and
> tolerant of the weak and the strong.  Because someday in life you will
> have been all of these."--George Washington Carver, 1864-1943,
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