[blparent] Beware those sharp little eyes!

[Sheila Leigland]

That's great christmas will be here before I know it. Oh what fun it would be to have a little one around again.

Sheila Leigland

-----Original Message-----
From: Jo Elizabeth Pinto <jopinto at msn.com>
Sent: Wednesday, November 09, 2011 3:11 PM
To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Subject: Re: [blparent] Beware those sharp little eyes!

Well, I'm not sure what my own ethics are about outright lying, because I 
generally don't believe in it of course, but sometimes a lie won't do any 
harm, and sometimes it can spare someone unnecessary pain or stress. 
Sometimes a lie can cover up a surprise.  But then, a child doesn't know the 
difference between harmless lies and harmful ones, and I suppose the habit 
of fibbing should be delayed as long as possible.  Everybody lies a little 
now and then, like saying a dinner was okay even if it was awful, so as not 
to hurt the cook's feelings.  But what I did is tell Sarah that we bought 
the bus for her, but it was a Christmas gift so she would have to wait.  I 
said Christmas would be a special time for presents.  She was upset at 
first, but we made a bus out of a cardboard box, and the moment passed.  It 
will be interesting to see if she remembers, or if it comes up again between 
now and Christmas.  I was surprised she recalled the picture on the box from 
the recycle bin this morning.  Oh, and I made sure to rearrange the closet 
so that the bus and the other presents are much more well hidden.  Lesson 
learned.

Jo Elizabeth

"How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young, 
compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of 
the weak and the strong.  Because someday in life you will have been all of 
these."--George Washington Carver, 1864-1943, American scientist

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From: "Pipi" <blahblahblah0822 at gmail.com>
Sent: Wednesday, November 09, 2011 2:58 PM
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Subject: Re: [blparent] Beware those sharp little eyes!

> Jo Elizabeth,
> Is there another small child in the family or friends that you could say 
> the bus is for? As I sit here and write this, I'm torn on it. I've 
> purchased gifts for Savannah in front of her and tell her that they are 
> for another child. She is younger than Sarah though.  On one hand, it's 
> flat out lying to my daughter. On the other hand I'm a single mom with a 
> very small support system living in hickville 35 miles away from shopping 
> centers. I know lying is wrong. Savannah hasn't remembered the lie. She's 
> only been excited that oh look that toy has appeared again and this time 
> it's mine.
> I don't know. It all depends on your own morality I guess. And honestly 
> I'm questioning my own as I actually write out what I do.
> And on the subject of shopping in front of blind children, my sister will 
> still shop for my gifts in front of me. It doesn't bother me. Hell she has 
> to get them at some time and why spend the extra time and gas money doing 
> so. If I wanted to snoop, I could, but that would ruin the fun.
> Pipi
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at msn.com>
> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Wednesday, November 09, 2011 1:40 PM
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Beware those sharp little eyes!
>
>
>> Yeah, we're having an issue because Sarah knows about that stupid bus, 
>> and now she wants it, and we've had a really crabby day.
>>
>> Jo Elizabeth
>>
>> "How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young, 
>> compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant 
>> of the weak and the strong.  Because someday in life you will have been 
>> all of these."--George Washington Carver, 1864-1943, American scientist
>>
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>> From: "Erin Rumer" <erinrumer at gmail.com>
>> Sent: Wednesday, November 09, 2011 12:24 PM
>> To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Beware those sharp little eyes!
>>
>>> As far as kids finding gifts in hidden places goes, it might help to 
>>> try
>>> what my parents did which was tell me that Santa can't store everything 
>>> for
>>> all the children in the world at the North Pole and so he have parents 
>>> store
>>> some gifts ahead of time to help him out.  My sister and I came across 
>>> some
>>> hidden or should I say, some not so well hidden gifts when we were kids 
>>> and
>>> my parents would tell us this along with the disclaimer that Santa only 
>>> gave
>>> us those gifts for being good to open on Christmas day and they could go
>>> away just as easily as they came if we tried to push the subject.  This 
>>> shut
>>> my sister and I up really quick. GRIN
>>>
>>> Erin
>>>
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] 
>>> On
>>> Behalf Of Jo Elizabeth Pinto
>>> Sent: Wednesday, November 09, 2011 9:33 AM
>>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>>> Subject: [blparent] Beware those sharp little eyes!
>>>
>>> Hi.  For any of you moms who have little ones starting to run around and 
>>> get
>>> into things, I thought I'd warn you about something I just learned the 
>>> hard
>>> way.  *Smile.*  They'll see everything, especially what you don't want 
>>> them
>>> to, and they'll remember.  They're smarter than we give them credit for