[blparent] deception or not! -- humor or not!

[Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC)]

I agree with this.
And, if anybody is interested check out The Physics Of Christmas.
Very cool.


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From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Veronica Smith
Sent: Friday, November 11, 2011 7:55 PM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] deception or not! -- humor or not!

We have always had Santa in my home as long as I can remember.  My mother
always said if you believe in  giving, then Santa exists.  I'm not telling
you anyone should believe what I believe nor do I force my friends to give
their children expensive gifts.  But what I don't want others telling my
child she is wrong for believing in  him. I don't how old I was when I found
out he was a myth, but I know until my mother passed away in 2009, we all
got a card or a gift under her tree, signed "Santa."
 Santa is just something that gives children hope, nothing more, nothing
less.  A parent shouldn't play the game if they can't or won't fulfill their
child's wishes.  Just because a child asks for an expensive gift, it doesn't
mean a parent has to run out and get it.
Gab has said, I don't know why I ask for expensive things mommy, he always
brings me something better.  She thinks that he has many gifts to give, so
his budget is tight and that is so true.


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From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of jan wright
Sent: Thursday, November 10, 2011 6:52 AM
To: blparent
Subject: [blparent] deception or not! -- humor or not!

Just my $0.02:
whenever humor is at another's expense, it is not really funny. But, i
know that there are many movies that use humor in just that way. I
never did like the three stuges or the Ernest movies or... ... well,
many of those types of movies. i absolutely disliked Napoleon
Dynamite. But, people would probably tell me to lighten up. I have two
friends; L and S. S is always telling L that there is an obstacle in
her way or stairs to see her react and then this makes S laugh. i
don't understand it. It is as if you are capitalizing on someone's
weakness or inability to know something -- lack of knowledge.
I think the point with food and so many other things is that a person
wants to play a "trick." To me, that is not OK.
I did have a friend who would use a processor to grind up beans and
onions before putting them in a chilli because her sighted daughter
did not like them. I objected, but she did not understand. Honestly, I
do find it disrespectful because you are saying: "I don't care what
you want or like, I'll do things my way and you won't even know the
difference."
We don't eat pork or non-kosher beef or turkey  (actually any meat but
chicken and fish and kosher beef/goat/lamb)   and I have to be
dilligent because people want to tell my husband that "it is chicken"
when i know that it is not.
Then they say: "If you don't know, it won't hurt you." That is
nonsense. We all have control to eat what we want. In most cases, I
don't like that "what you don't know won't hurt you" philosophy
because if by knowing, it would change your actions, then it is best
to know. I would rather someone say to me: "I don't want to tell you
what this is because I don't want to gross you out, but will you try
this first and then i will tell you?"
And, just FYI: not everyone believes in propigating the myth of Santa
-- and it is not cruel, either. Some people don't like encouraging the
belief in Santa because  they feel that it encourages children to
behave for an unknown person to give you extravagant gifts. [Haven't
you heard people say: "You better be good or Santa won't bring you
anything."  like that's the reason to be good].  Some don't like Santa
because they just can't explain how Santa distributes his gifts: IE,
some children get everything that they want and some children get
nothing that was on their list -- and it wasn't because they were
"bad." . And, those children who don't get what they want: (year after
year after year) how do we explain it to them? some don't like the
idea of Santa because they feel that it encourages their children to
be ungreatful and unaware of their parents' sacrifice.    Some people
just don't like to lie. But, that does not mean that their children
miss out on something wonderful for christmas. some parents still buy
their children gifts and surprise them on Christmas. They are just
honest about "who" the giver is.
I am not sure what we will do next Christmas. We live in an interfaith
household and Santa is neither Muslim or christian; so we have only
vaguely discussed the issue and it might change. I guess that we will
have to follow our conscience on this one. But, whatever we do, our
child will enjoy Christmas.

If someone feels comfortable with tricks and a bit of deception being
played upon them, then, who am I to  say otherwise? What bothers me is
when someone is obviously offended by the tricks, yet a family member
or friend continues to play them. Humor is only funny if everyone
involves laughs.
Just my thoughts.

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