[blparent] Need advice with preschoolers behavior

Tue Oct 4 18:01:03 UTC 2011

There's a nice board book that might help.  It's called "Hands are Not for 
Hitting."  I haven't seen it on Seedlings, but you might check NBP.  You 
could also braille it, and have your son look at the pictures.

If your son doesn't seem to understand that hitting hurts, could you compare 
it to something that might have have happened to him recently?  Say, 
remember when you fell off your bike, or burned your finger on the stove, or 
smashed your hand in a door, or anything that would be in his short term 
memory.  That hurt.  You didn't like it, right?  Well, hitting hurts other 
people.  That's why they don't like it.

I'm sorry the preschool turned your son away instead of trying to help you 
work out the problem.  I guess preschools can be selective about the kids 
they take, unlike public schools.  My sister has taught kindergarten for 
fourteen years, and she would have been ecstatic to find parents who were 
willing to work out the problem instead of just blaming other kids or, more 
commonly, blaming the teacher for singling out their child or not keeping 
him challenged enough, or whatever other excuses they could dream up to make 
their son the innocent party.  I hope you find another class for your son 
very soon.

Jo Elizabeth

"How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young, 
compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of 
the weak and the strong.  Because someday in life you will have been all of 
these."--George Washington Carver, 1864-1943, American scientist

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From: "Grace Pires" <silvara at cox.net>
Sent: Monday, October 03, 2011 6:19 PM
To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Subject: Re: [blparent] Need advice with preschoolers behavior

> Hi Everyone:
>
> A quick update. I am looking for another school for my son. There solution
> was to find another place.
> So I am searching for a preK class that has a smaller class.
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Tammy
> Sent: Wednesday, September 28, 2011 7:28 PM
> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Need advice with preschoolers behavior
>
> Hi,
>
> First of all, you might have the school keep track of when he hits the 
> other
>
> kids, and see if there's a pattern.  He might be hitting when he doesn't
> like what another child is doing or if he can't find the words to say
> something he feels is very important.  Or he might just be doing it for
> attention, either way a document might be helpful in establishing a 
> pattern
> if there is one.  My son was a biter in preschool, and we figured out, 
> with
> the teacher's help, that  most of the incidents were on days when he had 
> to
> go to his dad's house.  he eventually told us that he didn't want to go 
> and
> he was mad because we were making him.  the second thing is finding some
> form of discipline that works to discourage the behaviour.  I say it that
> way because while a timeout might work really well for disciplining one
> child, it might not work well for another.  so you'll have to find out 
> what
> works best and let the school know that's what they're to do when he hits.
> Finally, if that doesn't work, maybe telling himn that hitting hurts and
> that if he doesn't find another way to express himself he won't be able to
> go to school anymore.  Remember that this is probably just a passing 
> phase,
> and that your son will grow out of it sooner rather than later.
>
> hth
>
> Tammy
>
> -----Original Message----- From: Grace Pires
> Sent: Wednesday, September 28, 2011 4:56 PM
> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: [blparent] Need advice with preschoolers behavior
>
> Hello Everyone:
>
> My son is 4.  He started preK early this month.  He has been having some
> issues at school interacting with other kids. He has been hitting.  We 
> have
> been talking with him about it and I have taken away privileges when he
> hits, but the behavior continues.  He had a good week last week, but
> regressed this week. I have a meeting at school tomorrow to discuss it. I 
> am
> not sure how to get him to understand why he should not hit. This is his
> first experience with school.  He was at home with my parents until the
> middle of June. He went to school 2 days a week for the summer in order to
> get use to it. He says that he likes school and wants to go.
>
> Any thoughts? How do I get 4-year old to understand that hitting is not
> exceptable? Sometimes when we tell him not to hit he asks why?
>
> Thanks.
>
> Grace
>
>
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