[blparent] stranger contact with your child

[Veronica Smith]

Yes, the last thing we want to do is be rude to others.  Rudness just shows
that blind peeps are hateful, not helpful. v

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From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Jo Elizabeth Pinto
Sent: Saturday, October 22, 2011 10:42 AM
To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] stranger contact with your child

I've heard comments like that, and I usually just laugh and say, yes, all 
three-year-olds are great helpers, aren't they?  That usually puts things in

perspective.

Jo Elizabeth

"How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young, 
compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of 
the weak and the strong.  Because someday in life you will have been all of 
these."--George Washington Carver, 1864-1943, American scientist

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From: "Peggy" <pshald at neb.rr.com>
Sent: Saturday, October 22, 2011 5:58 AM
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Subject: Re: [blparent] stranger contact with your child

> I think this is still because blindness makes the public uncomfortable but

> our children don't.  I guess I'm lucky, although people have interacted 
> with my children while I've been out it's been nothing that I don't see 
> them do with sighted parents and their children.  But I guess just pay 
> close attention and if the displays get uncomfortable for you then say 
> something!! What always amazed me is how people would say things like ... 
> oh I bet you are such a help to your mom, I could see it when the kids 
> were older but just a couple days ago someone said it to Dylan *he's 1 and

> a half*.  Oh yeah he's such a help, messing things up faster than I can 
> get them cleaned up, lol.
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> -----Original Message----- 
> From: jan wright
> Sent: Thursday, October 20, 2011 1:25 PM
> To: blparent
> Subject: [blparent] stranger contact with your child
>
> This is annoying, i'll admit. I was not jealous that they could see my
> children's facial expressions and I couldn't.
> It is annoying because it is the start of people communicating with
> your baby or child without your knowledge and I would caution that you
> do need to be a little careful.
> Sometimes, people can take liberties with your child.
> the thing that annoys me most in this stage is that people don't even
> give you a respectful: "Oh,  you have a cute baby, do you mind?" They
> just assume that you don't mind. Note: they do some of the same things
> with my dog and it bothers me, also. I think that it is just
> respectful to talk to the adult first. And, the more I think about it
> the more i am convinced that it is just plain rude!
> When my children were older, people would give them candy that I did
> not want them to have; or toys to play with that were sometimes
> inappropriate. They would try to comfort or quiet your child and
> sometimes they were doing much more harm than good.
> I hate to be the web blanket in this discussion: but, these are the
> same adults who would rather talk to your child or your dog before
> having a conversation with you. I always found it strange that after I
> got my dog (and my children were teens) I experienced the same
> reaction from people. They would say to my children: "You are so
> sweet," "You are such a good baby," (and much more annoying comments).
> And, now that I have the dog, they want to talk to the dog: "You are
> such a good boy." GRRRR! And, I know that I am going to experience
> more of the same when I have my baby boy (seven more weeks until the
> due date).
> it is strange, though. It is harder to ward off unwanted behaviors
> from the sighted public and also harder to connect with them when we
> want to. UGGG.
>
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> I don't have time to hate people who hate me because I'm too busy loving 
> people who love me.
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