[blparent] Co-sleeping with toddler

Mon Oct 31 15:25:29 UTC 2011

At least you didn't have her watch Peter Pan and then have her sleep in the top bunk.
That does not end well.

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From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Jo Elizabeth Pinto
Sent: Friday, October 28, 2011 12:13 PM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] Co-sleeping with toddler

My nephew had a race car bed, too, and he slept in it for several years.
Then his sister used it, and after that it got passed down to one of his
cousins.  He loved that bed, and what I liked about it was that it was low
to the floor with sides on it so there was no way a child could fall out.

Sarah went right into the bottom bunk of a bunk bed because we needed a
place for Stephen to sleep on top when he comes over.  But we put the bed
against the wall and got one of those rails that you can attach to the bed
frame.  Sarah never fell out of bed.  She's just now asking for the rail to
be taken off.

Jo Elizabeth

"How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young,
compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of
the weak and the strong.  Because someday in life you will have been all of
these."--George Washington Carver, 1864-1943, American scientist

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From: "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net>
Sent: Thursday, October 27, 2011 9:50 PM
To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Subject: Re: [blparent] Co-sleeping with toddler

> Our neighbor bought her son a bed that looks like a race car and he has
> had
> it for many many years now.  Her son is now in third grade and kind of
> getting a bit big for it.
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Erin Rumer
> Sent: Thursday, October 27, 2011 2:58 PM
> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Co-sleeping with toddler
>
> Rebecca, love the idea of fun sheets on the big kid bed when the child is
> ready.  This is a great money saving method to make the toddler's bed
> novel
> and exciting.
>
> Erin
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC)
> Sent: Thursday, October 27, 2011 1:11 PM
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> Subject: Re: [blparent] Co-sleeping with toddler
>
> A fun bed won't do squat if the maturity isn't there. Then you've spent
> money on something that won't be used and cannot be used for anything
> else.
> We did get our daughter some fun sheets for her big girl bed, which is a
> regular twin bed, but that was because she was mentally ready. And there
> was
> no problem with transition.
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Erin Rumer
> Sent: Thursday, October 27, 2011 3:55 PM
> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Co-sleeping with toddler
>
> Yes, there are definitely individual factors that don't make co-sleeping
> the
> best for some families.  Did you get your son a special fun toddler bed or
> convert a convertible crib?  I have a convertible crib but am wondering if
> a
> fun car bed or something like that wouldn't be better for the transition
> from our family bed to his big boy bed when he's older.  For now we're
> just
> enjoying having Dawson with us.  They grow up too fast and I'm just loving
> him being a baby-new toddler right now.
>
> Erin
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Chad Allen
> Sent: Wednesday, October 26, 2011 5:37 PM
> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Co-sleeping with toddler
>
> I strongly discouraged my wife from co-sleeping at an early age. I had no
> problems with the cradle being in the room but once Harrison went from
> cradle to crib, I worked very hard at not having us co-sleep.
>
> First, I'm a deep sleeper so when Harrison was little, I was concerned
> that
> I might roll over on him without knowing. Many books reinforced my
> concerns
> so we avoided the habit at a young age.
>
> When my wife tried co-sleeping after some protest, no one slept and he
> quickly returned to sleeping in his own crib after only a few nights.
>
> Now, Harrison sleeps from 9-11 hours in his bed and at 15 months, we
> converted the crib to a bed. He sleeps in it and does not get out of the
> bed
> until morning. We have the baby monitor on and we sleep with it on and
> everything works out great.
>
> My wife is quite happy too because she knows her son is a big boy who can
> sleep on his own and we all get the sleep we deserve.
>
> Hope this helps.
>
> Chad
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Bridgit Pollpeter
> Sent: Wednesday, October 26, 2011 5:09 PM
> To: blparent at nfbnet.org
> Subject: [blparent] Co-sleeping with toddler
>
> Well, looks like I'm going to be the bitch here. LOL Though it's great to
> see our kids grow up and become perceptive and aware, you're letting
> Dawson
> have the upperhand. He's not only aware of your intention, he's made the
> connection that certain behavior will get him what he wants- out of the
> crib
> and freedom to either stay awake or roam your room at his leisure. It's
> not
> processed quite this intelligently, but on a basic level, he knows what
> the
> situation is and how to respond. You're basically catering to his whims
> now.
>
> My sister did exactly what you're doing, and her kids to this day rule the
> roost. They set their own bedtimes, eat when they want and know how to
> manipulate the situation to get what they want. This was all learned at an
> early age. The oldest at seven is still like this.
>
> Crying is a healthy, natural part of life. Crying doesn't mean they are
> hurt
> or that you're a bad parent. Penny, at two-years-old, has to cry it out
> for
> an hour at times before falling asleep. Usually she just plays in her bed,
> but she does cry at times. Nothing will happen to them when they cry
> though,
> and studies actually show it's healthy for children, and adults, to just
> cry
> at times.
>
> No one is the perfect parent, and no one has all the answers. If you can't
> accomplish chores or unwind though, there's a problem. And if you're
> letting
> Dawson dictate all this, he's now dominating the situation. Placing the
> matress on the floor is just the last straw in my opinion. You want him to
> be safe and healthy, but to completely uproot your schedule and life, this
> doesn't seem healthy.
>
> It won't kill Dawson or you if he cries and cries in his crib. Children
> actually require limits and boundries regardless of how they feel or what
> they say and do. Penny has taken to screaming like a night owl when she
> wants her way. We've learned to ignore it even when in public. Once she
> realizes this doesn't get her attention, or her way, she stops. She will
> do
> it during naptime in her crib too. After she realizes no one is coming to
> let her out though, she lays back down and falls asleep.
>
> I know it's tough, and you enjoy the bonding aspect, but honey, that kid
> is
> wrapping his little finger around you much too tight, and he has all the
> cards in his hand. You think the crying-it-out method is cruel and
> unpleasant, but in a few years, you won't find it so pleasant when Dawson
> is
> always demanding his way and refusing to listen to you. This doesn't mean
> he
> isn't a sweet heart, but he's learning behavior at a young age that is
> ingraining certain behavior and ideas that will stick.
>
> And you mention how much you enjoy the bonding aspect, but what about
> Dawson? Not that he doesn't like mommy time, or isn't learning anything
> from
> the bonding, but at this point, the bonding seems to be more about how the
> experience is for you, and not about what is best for Dawson.
> You need time apart from him to unwind, relax, do something just for
> yourself, or spend valuable bonding time with your husband. This is all
> just
> as important as bonding with Dawson. Neither one of you seems better for
> this scenario; maybe trying something new should be considered.
>
> And if Dawson is always sleeping with you, it won't be easy to have
> another
> child! Smile.
>
> I realize numerous methods and ideas for parenting exist. This is my
> opinion, and it's either to be taken or ignored. Do not interpret this as
> me
> saying you're a bad parent either. We all make mistakes, and we all just
> want the best for our children. I just think you've dug yourself a hole
> that, if continueing, will be difficult to dig out of.
> Take control of the situation, and if Dawson has to cry, it won't kill
> him.
> You need time for yourself and with your husband. This is my two cents,
> and
> just an opinion. I have my own parenting issues to deal with; we all do.
> But
> I've learned from this list that we can all offer some wisdom, and we can
> learn from one another.
>
> Sincerely,
> Bridgit Kuenning-Pollpeter
> Read my blog at:
> http://blogs.livewellnebraska.com/author/bpollpeter/
>
> "History is not what happened; history is what was written down."
> The Expected One- Kathleen McGowan
>
> Message: 1
> Date: Tue, 25 Oct 2011 10:11:53 -0700
> From: "Erin Rumer" <erinrumer at gmail.com>
> To: "NFB blind parent listserv" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Subject: [blparent] co-sleeping with toddler
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> Hello parents,
>
>
>
> I'd love to hear from those of you who chose to co-sleep with your babies.
> My son Dawson who will be one years old on Halloween has been co-sleeping
> with my husband and I since he was ten months old.  I absolutely love the
> co-sleeping arrangement and in many ways wish I had started it earlier.
> The
> only snag that I'm finding is that Dawson used to be able and go down in
> his
> crib for the first stretch of the night which was a couple of hours and
> then
> by the time he woke-up I'd be ready to go to bed or my husband would just
> bring him into me to co-sleep.
> Now Dawson doesn't want to do the first stretch on his own and refuses to
> go
> down without me.  I'm an early to bed person but now not having that few
> hours on my own is difficult.  How do those of you with co-sleeping
> toddlers
> usually start out your night?  I'm finding that just letting Dawson play a
> little longer in my room with the TV on low helps him start to calm for
> the
> night and then around 8:30 we can lay down together with no stimulation
> noise or lights on and he'll fall asleep quickly.  This isn't giving me
> any
> time to unwind for the night though.  I'm still nursing Dawson so daddy
> putting him down to bed is out of the question since he needs boob to fall
> asleep and that's not a battle I want to start right now especially since
> breast feeding is so special and something both Dawson and I love very
> much.
> I'm against cry it out methods and want sleep time to continue to be a
> positive and pleasant experience for everyone.
>
>
>
> Thanks,
>
>
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