[blparent] passing the baby

Thu Apr 5 20:55:45 UTC 2012

You are right.  There are a variety of people here, a variety of 
perspectives, and a variety of situations and approaches.  There are 
lots of factors, and lots of approaches -- most of which aren't wrong.  
So, please try not to judge others in what and how they do something.

David Andrews, List Owner

On 4/5/2012 7:29 AM, Gabe Vega wrote:
> wow, why do we have to go in to these competing matches for on how each of us do stuff? This is crazy some times. and I would contribute more its just that I don't find me contributing to how has it harder or how what is better is my conversation to contribute to.
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> On Apr 5, 2012, at 5:24 AM, Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC) wrote:
>
>> No, we don't.
>> Parenting is a lifestyle, childcare is a job.
>> Both can be done well or not so well, but they are by no means the same.
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Veronica Smith
>> Sent: Wednesday, April 04, 2012 9:52 PM
>> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] passing the baby
>>
>> I agree.  You didn't mention the Nanny thing, but why mention it at all. No
>> matter if we are parents or babysitters, we all feel the same.
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
>> Behalf Of Jo Elizabeth Pinto
>> Sent: Wednesday, April 04, 2012 4:12 PM
>> To: Blind Parents Mailing List
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] passing the baby
>>
>> Neither Rebecca nor I said that being a nanny or a baby-sitter held less
>> responsibility than being a mom.  It's just a different circumstance.  While
>> some of us might let a baby be passed around among family and friends, and
>> others might not, none of us would consider letting the baby be passed
>> around among strangers.  That's just crazy.
>>
>> Jo Elizabeth
>>
>> "How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young,
>> compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of
>> the weak and the strong.  Because someday in life you will have been all of
>> these."--George Washington Carver, 1864-1943, American scientist
>>
>> --------------------------------------------------
>> From: "Veronica Smith"<madison_tewe at spinn.net>
>> Sent: Wednesday, April 04, 2012 2:23 PM
>> To: "'Blind Parents Mailing List'"<blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] passing the baby
>>
>>> Brandy, I agree!  I used to let Gab float around with my good friends
>>> and my family, but heaven forbid in a crowd of strangers.  That would
>>> hold true even if it had not been my own, if I know the peeps it is
>>> always different.
>>> Whether or not, you are a nanny, babysitter or just taking care of a
>>> baby for a friend, responsibility is and always should be the most
>>> important aspect.
>>>
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>>> On Behalf Of Brandy W
>>> Sent: Wednesday, April 04, 2012 12:30 PM
>>> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] passing the baby
>>>
>>> I provide child care in my home. I also took care of my niece very
>>> frequently for the first 7 years of her life. I'm speaking of any
>>> large crud in a larger space where there are more people than one is
>>> comfortable with.
>>> I don't think in this thread whether I get to go home or not has
>>> anything to do with what we are talking about. We are talking about
>>> whether or not we let others hold our children. So I don't play pass
>>> the baby I keep the child I'm with with me, and prefer to where them
>>> so others are less likely to ask for them. If I do let someone it is
>>> someone I know well, and they know they shouldn't hand the child to
>>> anyone else. I have cared for babies at convention, many other
>>> conventions, places where I've done toy booths, and in everyday life.
>>> It is just my way of doing things. I don't think attacking me stating
>>> that I'm just a nanny was relevant or necessary.
>>>
>>> Bran
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>> "To learn to read is to light a fire; every syllable that is spelled
>>> out is a spark."
>>> - Victor Hugo
>>>
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>>>
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>>> On Behalf Of Pickrell, Rebecca M (TASC)
>>> Sent: Wednesday, April 04, 2012 1:44 PM
>>> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] passing the baby
>>>
>>>        Aren't you a nanny?
>>> Not that what you have to say isn't important, it's s just different.
>>> Plus, you can go home at the end of the day. That makes a huge amount
>>> of difference.
>>>
>>> Lastly, are you speaking of random strangers and the parents are
>>> thinking of people they know? That too makes a difference.
>>>
>>>
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
>>> Behalf Of Brandy W
>>> Sent: Wednesday, April 04, 2012 10:03 AM
>>> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] passing the baby
>>>
>>> When I have a baby with me I do not play pass the baby for many many
>>> reasons. One is the main reason mentioned here where you don't know where
>>> the child is. Second is people then think they have control of the baby
>>> and
>>> will proceed to think it needs to eat or be changed or things like that
>>> when
>>> they usually just want me. Last is germs. Who knows who's hand these
>>> people
>>> have shaken, and who is sick with what. Babies don't need to be exposed to
>>> that many germs. If aa good friend is sitting by me I may allow that
>>> person
>>> to hold the child, but will ask them to use some hand sanitizer. I've
>>> found
>>> that if I where the baby in a front or back carrier than people ask less.
>>>
>>> Bran
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>> "To learn to read is to light a fire; every syllable that is spelled out
>>> is
>>> a spark."
>>> - Victor Hugo
>>>
>>> Brandy Wojcik  Discovery Toys Educational Consultant and Team leader
>>> (512) 689-5045
>>> www.playtoachieve.com
>>> Follow me on Face Book at
>>> http://www.facebook.com/PlayToAchieve.DiscoveryToys
>>>
>>> Read my new blog at www.playtoachieveballstobooks.wordpress.com
>>>
>>> Looking forward to helping you with your educational toy needs!
>>>
>>>
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
>>> Behalf Of Veronica Smith
>>> Sent: Tuesday, April 03, 2012 6:33 PM
>>> To: 'Blind Parents Mailing List'
>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] passing the baby
>>>
>>> I really didn't like strangers holding my baby, but when we went to a
>>> family
>>> thing, everyone wanted to hold Gab and passed around she went.  But they
>>> were family members, if the room was full of strangers, I probably would
>>> of
>>> said, not right now.
>>>
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
>>> Behalf Of jan wright
>>> Sent: Monday, April 02, 2012 9:48 PM
>>> To: blparent
>>> Subject: [blparent] passing the baby
>>>
>>> Hi all,
>>> I had a question and wondered if you could help.
>>>
>>> My 23yo daughter just married on 4/1 .
>>> We were elated and like the man she married.
>>> My husband and I took our 4mo baby boy.
>>> Everyone wanted to hole him.
>>> the problem was that someone would come and talk to us and  the holder
>>> would
>>> pass the baby to someone else, then to someone else and I did not know
>>> "where" the baby was or "who "  had him. This is annoying for me. I would
>>> have to continuously ask sighted people around me: "Who has the baby,"
>>> "Where is the baby?"
>>> Before, when I had my little ones, I would just make them off limits to
>>> others because:
>>> when they were babies, we did not go out much and when we did, I wanted to
>>> know where they were, etc. when people asked to hold my little ones, I
>>> would
>>> just decline because it just seemed too hectic and chaotic. But, does
>>> anyone
>>> have any suggestions to make it easier without just saying "no?"
>>>
>>> Thanks.
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