[blparent] Making decisions with baby in general

[Bridgit Pollpeter]

Jennifer,

While my comment was snarky, it was not meant to imply using drugs of
any kind while in labor is wrong; I was simply making a point that if
breast feeding is the only way to go, which some have said or at least
implied,  because that's how the body intends it, then you also have to
consider that women have the ability to give birth without drugs since
this is also how the body "intends" it, though certainly this has no
bearing on those who require drugs for medical purposes. It was a
rhetorical comment meant for us to consider since so many seem adamant
natural breast feeding is the only way or best way. Just like accepting
medication, breast feeding is a personal choice, and there is no right
or wrong way. That alone was my reason for the comment.

So sorry if my comment offended and implied there is something wrong
with taking medicine when in labor. No judgment on my end other than to
point out the contrast between what is the "natural" way, and if you
accept a "natural" way for anything, then you have to consider how you
present that info. Don't imply, whether intentional or not, that mothers
must breast feed naturally and use the argument that this is how the
body works if on the flip side you choose to not follow "natural" routes
in other parts of mothering because this then makes the argument moot
and hypocritical.

I myself do not believe one way is the best way or that it's wrong to
feed from the bottle or the breast, take drugs or not, and all the other
possible decisions. We all just need to be careful in how we present our
info and opinions, myself included. And just to cover my bases, my use
of "you" and "we" is universal and simply using a second person point of
view and not directed towards any one specific person.

Sincerely,
Bridgit Kuenning-Pollpeter
Read my blog at:
http://blogs.livewellnebraska.com/author/bpollpeter/
 
"History is not what happened; history is what was written down."
The Expected One- Kathleen McGowan

Message: 16
Date: Mon, 16 Apr 2012 13:17:27 -0500
From: "Jennifer Jackson" <jennifersjackson at att.net>
To: "'Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Subject: Re: [blparent] Making decisions with baby in general
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Brigit,

I really like how you are investigating a lot of options and planning
ahead. You sound like you are being very sensible about it all.

I did think your comment was a little snarky, but I also thought you
probably had good cause. :) I know how people can be about the whole
breast feeding issue. I was not offended or anything, I just wanted to
make the point that child birth decisions do not change the validity of
nursing advice. I think this is still a good point in the conversation
even if I did misinterpret your motivations. 

We have turned child birth and parenting into some kind of test of
womanhood and often make unfair assessments of people based on this
testing. I am guilty, but trying to be better. My first thought to
someone commenting on 36 hours of labor were about my first labor that
was about twice that long. The thing is that with baby number 2 I was
only in labor about 26 hours and I am not sure I had another 10 in me
either. The labors were just so different. None the less, I caught
myself judging so I obviously need to keep working on it. :)


Jennifer