[blparent] punishment

[Nikki]

    Taking things away from him isn't solving the problem. He likes Mario 
Kart Wii a lot. He hasn't been able to play it since the stream of yellows 
and few reds. It hasn't been doing much since the behavior continues. The 
punishment is that if he brings home a yellow or red, no Wii. If he gets a 
yellow or red on a Friday, that means the whole weekend without the Wii, 
computer playing, or playing with his train.

He has been confined to his room before, but that doesn't seem to work.

-----Original Message----- 
From: Veronica Smith
Sent: Tuesday, January 31, 2012 5:18 PM
To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
Subject: Re: [blparent] punishment

The only way is restricting him from the things he likes and if that means 
you have to hear him scream or throw a huge tantrum for x amount of time, 
then be it.  My husband used to put Gab in her room when she'd do what she 
wanted and she would scream and scream and we told her she could come out 
when she could control herself and do as she was told.  Sometimes it took a 
few minutes, sometimes a few hours and then the next time she acted up, back 
into the room she went.  I know that professionals say not to use their 
rooms as a place of punishment, but that is what I did, some peeps use a rug 
and others use a chair, but you use what works. V

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On 
Behalf Of Nikki
Sent: Monday, January 30, 2012 11:12 PM
To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] punishment

    IDK if I could do that. I don't think he's angry with me. It has more to 
do with him not listening and doing what he's told. Sunday, he and papa went 
for a walk in the woods. As they were walking back to the car, my dad told 
him not to pick up any snow because he didn't want his gloves to be all wet 
when they got in the car. You know what? That little defiant brat did it 
anyway. He doesn't listen. Two weeks ago, he got a detention for not 
listening to the lunchtime supervisor and just continued playing, ignoring 
the call to come line up. As far as last week and today, I don't know why he 
pushed another kid, except today, he played freeze tag even after he was 
told not to. So, I'm just wondering how to fix this "not listening, 
ignoring, and not doing what told to do" business.

It seems his answer for everything is "I don't know." I'm ready to wash his 
mouth out every time he says that. Because I know he knows.


-----Original Message----- 
From: Veronica Smith
Sent: Monday, January 30, 2012 11:20 PM
To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
Subject: Re: [blparent] punishment

Nikki, can you attend his class for a day or so.  Tell him that mommy is
going to check up on him and then stick to your words.  It might be today or
2 days later, but perhaps you need to see what the class is doing and why he
is acting up.
Is he angry at you for something?  Sometimes a child will take it out on
someone his own size to (in his mind) is punishing you.
Maybe the teacher is only seeing the hitting or pushing, but not seeing the
whole reason for the behavior.  Perhaps, your son is  defending himself.
You know, there is always 2 sides to every story.


-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Nikki
Sent: Monday, January 30, 2012 3:02 PM
To: blparent at nfbnet.org
Subject: [blparent] punishment

Hi all. Yes I’m back again. How would you discipline a six year old boy who
doesn’t listen and do what he’s told? I haven’t figured out what will change
his behavior. He pushed another child, in school today and Friday. He lied
to me last night by saying he’ll be good today. We even had him saying “I
know I can, I know I can, said the engine that did.” I’m out of my witts
end. The past few weeks have been horrible. I can’t understand why.

The teacher uses a sliding scale for the behavior. You come to class, you
start with an orange. Your behavior throughout  the day determines the
outcome. So you can either do great and get a green card, but you can slide
back to orange, which is a “ready to work” day. Ah, but there’s the possible
yellow, which is a “behavior needs to be worked on".” You could go to red,
which is the worst. I almost forgot, after the green is blue, “the best
behavior, you’re like a role model.” One thing, if you get a red or blue,
that’s it. You can’t slide off.

Now, my son has been bringing home yellows and the past two days including
today, were red. I’ve made the decision to take all of his toys out of his
room, including stuffed animals and having him go to his room after school
until he fixes his behavior. For each day he brings home a good report and I’m
not just talking an orange, I will give him one toy back.

I’m tired of spanking him. It doesn’t seem to work for me. What do you
think?
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