[blparent] My son's teacher

Sun Feb 5 01:46:01 UTC 2012

I know you live with your parents, Nikki, but if you tell them not to lay a 
hand on your child, they can't do it.  That's really crossing a big 
boundary.  If you think spanking your son is helping, and you can do it 
safely, that's up to you.  But doing it because if you don't, they will, is 
a great disservice to you and your son both.  It sounds to me like you and 
your parents need to have a serious discussion about boundaries.

Jo Elizabeth

"How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young, 
compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of 
the weak and the strong.  Because someday in life you will have been all of 
these."--George Washington Carver, 1864-1943, American scientist

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From: "Nikki" <daizies304 at gmail.com>
Sent: Saturday, February 04, 2012 5:00 PM
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Subject: Re: [blparent] My son's teacher

>    Hi V. No. I'm not spanking because I'm frustrated. I feel like if I 
> don't, my parents will. That makes me mad they think their tactic is what 
> works. I don't think it's working because there's no improvement. Today, 
> we went to the store to get new pants for school, uniform, and he seemed 
> fine, but my mom could tell you different. I really believe it's the lack 
> of physical activity. After he came home from the store, papa took him for 
> a walk. IDK if he's even home yet. I've considered the school counselor. 
> But I want to get feedback from his teacher first. I strongly believe he's 
> just gifted and the school and my parents think it's bad behavior.
>
> -----Original Message----- 
> From: Veronica Smith
> Sent: Saturday, February 04, 2012 5:30 PM
> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: Re: [blparent] My son's teacher
>
> Nikki, just one question, are you spanking him because you are frustrated? 
> Does the spanking help?  I still think you should make an appointment with 
> the school counselor to talk about ideas of  helping his behavior.  You 
> are not the first parent to go through this, I guarantee and if they tell 
> you differently, they are lying to you.  My daughter is in 6th grade now 
> and in everyone of her classes since Kindergarten, there has been children 
> with the same problems as your son.  Some parents just choose to ignore it 
> and thus the child continues acting up throughout the years and some 
> parents take the bull by the horn and get it corrected, either through 
> counseling or through medication.  Beating the wiggles out will not stop 
> the problem as he probly truly can't help it.
> Perhaps it could be corrected by diet.  You won't know until you explore 
> different avenues.
> V
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On 
> Behalf Of Nikki
> Sent: Friday, February 03, 2012 5:39 PM
> To: blparent at nfbnet.org
> Subject: [blparent] My son's teacher
>
>    Here’s what my son’s teacher says...
>
> He is having a very difficult time settling down and staying on his chair. 
> He also seems to be having a harder time keeping his hands to himself and 
> staying on task. He is being challenged at an appropriate level, but is 
> having a hard time staying focused enough to complete his tasks. He is 
> often out of his seat. It is pretty much throughout the day. He gets along 
> with people although they do not like it when he distracts them when they 
> are working or pushed them on the playground. What is his behavior like at 
> home and the level of activity? I always tie privileges to school notes. I 
> don't like yelling and didn't spank. Let me know how he does at home and 
> lets email some more after that.
>
>
> I don’t know what I could have done or not do to cause him to act this 
> way. I’m distraught and don’t know how to answer this. I don’t know what 
> to do as far as if I should punish him and how . I’ve got someone telling 
> me “spare the rod, spoil the child,” spank him. the teacher saying she 
> doesn’t spank, and then my parents are saying “well we don’t spank you 
> enough.” Right now I’ve got him in his room. I don’t know what he’s doing, 
> but ugh! he just came to me and said, “I misss you.” He tried pulling that 
> on me when I was spanking him or trying to. He resists and sits on his 
> butt and I’m not strong enough to turn him over so I slap what I can. He 
> makes me so mad but at the same time I want to cry.
>
> IDK. Just venting. You can comment if you want.
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