[blparent] My son's teacher

[Brandy W]

Hi, I would highly recommend you read the book Dare to Disaplin. It really 
may help you understand his behavior, and also give you some ideas to 
redirect it.

If you can't get him in an appropriate position to spank him properly, than 
don't smack just anywhere.

If a spanking needs to happen, which it may or may not as I see it is a 
possible tool, but not an only option you may say something like: You were 
just very disrespectful, you broke grandma's plate because you disobeyed and 
touched it anyway, and you will be spanked. If you bend over the bed as I 
asked you will get 3 smacks on your bottom. If I have to fight you to give 
you your punishment than when you  are bent over I'll have to give you 5 or 
what ever. You don't ever want to wildly smack. Spanking is a consequence 
and should never be done when you are angry. He is old enough to let you 
punish him. No he doesn't want to be spanked because if he did it wouldn't 
be a punishment. A child his age  Who fought me would get their pants pulled 
down and given a proper few spanks on their bare bottom. You may also be 
able to tell him he is going to get the spanking no mater what but you will 
remain in the room till it happens. So get his spanking, serve his time, and 
go play or struggle with you and waist more play time. Again I believe that 
this is one tool and you have many ways to disaplin a child and teach them 
right from wrong, but remember you are in charge, and responsible for 
teaching him right from wrong.

I'm going to read your teacher letter again and see if I can come up with 
some ideas as a teacher. As a teacher I can't spank, so I have to use other 
methods, and I successfully do on a regular basis.

Bran



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----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net>
To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Saturday, February 04, 2012 5:30 PM
Subject: Re: [blparent] My son's teacher


> Nikki, just one question, are you spanking him because you are frustrated? 
> Does the spanking help?  I still think you should make an appointment with 
> the school counselor to talk about ideas of  helping his behavior.  You 
> are not the first parent to go through this, I guarantee and if they tell 
> you differently, they are lying to you.  My daughter is in 6th grade now 
> and in everyone of her classes since Kindergarten, there has been children 
> with the same problems as your son.  Some parents just choose to ignore it 
> and thus the child continues acting up throughout the years and some 
> parents take the bull by the horn and get it corrected, either through 
> counseling or through medication.  Beating the wiggles out will not stop 
> the problem as he probly truly can't help it.
> Perhaps it could be corrected by diet.  You won't know until you explore 
> different avenues.
> V
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On 
> Behalf Of Nikki
> Sent: Friday, February 03, 2012 5:39 PM
> To: blparent at nfbnet.org
> Subject: [blparent] My son's teacher
>
>    Here’s what my son’s teacher says...
>
> He is having a very difficult time settling down and staying on his chair. 
> He also seems to be having a harder time keeping his hands to himself and 
> staying on task. He is being challenged at an appropriate level, but is 
> having a hard time staying focused enough to complete his tasks. He is 
> often out of his seat. It is pretty much throughout the day. He gets along 
> with people although they do not like it when he distracts them when they 
> are working or pushed them on the playground. What is his behavior like at 
> home and the level of activity? I always tie privileges to school notes. I 
> don't like yelling and didn't spank. Let me know how he does at home and 
> lets email some more after that.
>
>
> I don’t know what I could have done or not do to cause him to act this 
> way. I’m distraught and don’t know how to answer this. I don’t know what 
> to do as far as if I should punish him and how . I’ve got someone telling 
> me “spare the rod, spoil the child,” spank him. the teacher saying she 
> doesn’t spank, and then my parents are saying “well we don’t spank you 
> enough.” Right now I’ve got him in his room. I don’t know what he’s doing, 
> but ugh! he just came to me and said, “I misss you.” He tried pulling that 
> on me when I was spanking him or trying to. He resists and sits on his 
> butt and I’m not strong enough to turn him over so I slap what I can. He 
> makes me so mad but at the same time I want to cry.
>
> IDK. Just venting. You can comment if you want.
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