[blparent] My son's teacher

Pipi blahblahblah0822 at gmail.com
Mon Feb 6 03:22:37 UTC 2012 

Nicky,
Forgive me for being ignorant here, but why wouldn't you want your son 
diagnosed with ADHD or ADD if he actually has it? Wouldn't it be better to 
know and take the proper steps to helping him?
My little brother has ADHD. Without treatment, he wouldn't have grown up to 
be the now very awesome 18 year old man that he is.
He still has issues due to the ADHD and probably will always have some that 
he has to work through just as us being blind have things that we have to 
work through.
But he is not on medication and has learned through counseling how to deal 
with things in better ways than he used to when he was younger.
Forgive me for saying this because I don't mean it in any rude way at all, 
but you have written in here many times asking for help. Why not allow your 
son to be evaluated so that you and him can get some help if it is needed?
Pipi
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Nikki" <daizies304 at gmail.com>
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Sunday, February 05, 2012 7:47 PM
Subject: Re: [blparent] My son's teacher


>        Gifted or not, I will NOT let some medical proffessional say that 
> my kid is ADHD or ADD. I do not take medical issues of the world. I know 
> and believe there is only 1 answer to this, Jesus Christ. No one is going 
> to tell me otherwise. I don't care who they think they are.
>
> -----Original Message----- 
> From: Kate McEachern
> Sent: Sunday, February 05, 2012 5:10 PM
> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] My son's teacher
>
> This is true, parents may have an idea their child is gifted but you have 
> to
> have him evaluated by a profetional to know for shore.  A lot of signs of
> giftednes are the same signs people look at for ADHD, ADD and other 
> ishues.
> And, just because a child is labled gifted doesn't meen things just fall 
> in
> to place.  Its a lot of work to be a parent of a gifted child and as
> exciting as it is it can also be tiring.  Plus you have to do all the
> medical stuff as well and they don't let you opt out, if they want a scan 
> of
> your kids brain you have to get it.  If they want to intervew your kid out
> of our sight they will.  Because there are a lot of people who train their
> kids to pass these tests thinking their kid will get an edg on the rest 
> but
> that isn't the case.
>
> So if you think he's gifted be ready to say your pease comly, and know 
> that
> they do ask about how things are at home.  Its not one docter, its a team.
>
> I'll poest the links I have when I get time to but I read this wile 
> looking
> for something so I can't do it now but will try for this week.
>
> Kate
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net>
> To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Sunday, February 05, 2012 5:50 PM
> Subject: Re: [blparent] My son's teacher
>
>
>> Well, if you contact the school counselor, they could evaluate him for 
>> giftedness.  The teachers don't always know best. They have too  many 
>> children to keep their eyes on, so let an expert evaluate him.
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On 
>> Behalf Of Nikki
>> Sent: Saturday, February 04, 2012 5:00 PM
>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] My son's teacher
>>
>>    Hi V. No. I'm not spanking because I'm frustrated. I feel like if I
>> don't, my parents will. That makes me mad they think their tactic is what
>> works. I don't think it's working because there's no improvement. Today, 
>> we
>> went to the store to get new pants for school, uniform, and he seemed 
>> fine,
>> but my mom could tell you different. I really believe it's the lack of
>> physical activity. After he came home from the store, papa took him for a
>> walk. IDK if he's even home yet. I've considered the school counselor. 
>> But I
>> want to get feedback from his teacher first. I strongly believe he's just
>> gifted and the school and my parents think it's bad behavior.
>>
>> -----Original Message----- 
>> From: Veronica Smith
>> Sent: Saturday, February 04, 2012 5:30 PM
>> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] My son's teacher
>>
>> Nikki, just one question, are you spanking him because you are 
>> frustrated?
>> Does the spanking help?  I still think you should make an appointment 
>> with
>> the school counselor to talk about ideas of  helping his behavior.  You 
>> are
>> not the first parent to go through this, I guarantee and if they tell you
>> differently, they are lying to you.  My daughter is in 6th grade now and 
>> in
>> everyone of her classes since Kindergarten, there has been children with 
>> the
>> same problems as your son.  Some parents just choose to ignore it and 
>> thus
>> the child continues acting up throughout the years and some parents take 
>> the
>> bull by the horn and get it corrected, either through counseling or 
>> through
>> medication.  Beating the wiggles out will not stop the problem as he 
>> probly
>> truly can't help it.
>> Perhaps it could be corrected by diet.  You won't know until you explore
>> different avenues.
>> V
>>
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
>> Behalf Of Nikki
>> Sent: Friday, February 03, 2012 5:39 PM
>> To: blparent at nfbnet.org
>> Subject: [blparent] My son's teacher
>>
>>    Here’s what my son’s teacher says...
>>
>> He is having a very difficult time settling down and staying on his 
>> chair.
>> He also seems to be having a harder time keeping his hands to himself and
>> staying on task. He is being challenged at an appropriate level, but is
>> having a hard time staying focused enough to complete his tasks. He is 
>> often
>> out of his seat. It is pretty much throughout the day. He gets along with
>> people although they do not like it when he distracts them when they are
>> working or pushed them on the playground. What is his behavior like at 
>> home
>> and the level of activity? I always tie privileges to school notes. I 
>> don't
>> like yelling and didn't spank. Let me know how he does at home and lets
>> email some more after that.
>>
>>
>> I don’t know what I could have done or not do to cause him to act this 
>> way.
>> I’m distraught and don’t know how to answer this. I don’t know what to do 
>> as
>> far as if I should punish him and how . I’ve got someone telling me 
>> “spare
>> the rod, spoil the child,” spank him. the teacher saying she doesn’t 
>> spank,
>> and then my parents are saying “well we don’t spank you enough.” Right 
>> now I’ve
>> got him in his room. I don’t know what he’s doing, but ugh! he just came 
>> to
>> me and said, “I misss you.” He tried pulling that on me when I was 
>> spanking
>> him or trying to. He resists and sits on his butt and I’m not strong 
>> enough
>> to turn him over so I slap what I can. He makes me so mad but at the same
>> time I want to cry.
>>
>> IDK. Just venting. You can comment if you want.
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